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This week, Christa is joined by Sandra Weir, founder of The Wedding Nanny NYC, to talk about the unique world of wedding childcare, the wildest situations she’s encountered on the job, and why setting boundaries is essential when kids are involved. From a wedding that secretly doubled its child count to police showing up over a family dispute, Sandra shares unforgettable behind-the-scenes stories.
Plus, Sandra and Christa react to a listener submission featuring a missing groom, a canceled bartender, a no-show wedding planner, giant Jell-O shots, and an ex-boyfriend who somehow became the hero of the day. You won’t believe how this one ends.
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Must-Hear Insights and Key Moments
- Meet the Wedding Nanny – Sandra shares how a single wedding experience inspired her to launch a business dedicated to caring for children during weddings and special events.
- Why Wedding Childcare Matters – Sandra explains how dedicated childcare allows parents to relax while ensuring children stay safe, entertained, and included.
- The Wedding with 18 Surprise Kids – What was supposed to be a manageable booking quickly turned into chaos when nearly double the expected number of children showed up.
- When Boundaries Become Essential – Sandra discusses difficult situations where parents assumed childcare was available for every child at the wedding and why clear boundaries matter.
- The Police Show Up – A seemingly normal wedding took an unexpected turn when family tensions escalated and law enforcement arrived at the venue.
- The Groom Who Couldn’t Stop Skating – Christa and Sandra react to a jaw-dropping story involving a groom who repeatedly disappeared while wedding-day responsibilities piled up.
- The Ex Who Saved the Wedding – A listener’s former boyfriend unexpectedly stepped in to help when vendors started canceling and wedding plans fell apart.
- Wedding Day Red Flags – Christa and Sandra discuss how behavior leading up to a wedding can reveal important clues about the future of a marriage.
Words of Wisdom: Standout Quotes from This Episode
- “Communication goes a long way, especially when everyone’s counting on you.” – Christa Innis
- “A wedding day should bring people together, not leave one person carrying all the responsibility.” – Christa Innis
- “Sometimes the biggest wedding drama isn’t the guests, it’s the person standing at the altar.” – Christa Innis
- “Your wedding day is often a preview of how you’ll handle challenges together later.” – Christa Innis
- “The people who show up when things fall apart are the ones you remember most.” – Christa Innis
- “Boundaries aren’t rude, they’re what keep chaos from taking over.” – Christa Innis
- “Children deserve to feel just as special and included as the adults celebrating.” -Sandra Weir
- “Preparation is everything, especially when you’re responsible for someone’s child.” -Sandra Weir
- “You can be kind while still holding firm boundaries.” – Sandra Weir
- “The more information you have beforehand, the safer and smoother the day becomes.” – Sandra Weir
- “If your partner isn’t backing you up during the easy moments, the hard moments become even harder.” – Sandra Weir
- “Every wedding teaches you something new about people, families, and relationships.” – Sandra Weir
- “The goal isn’t just watching children, it’s creating a positive experience for them too.” – Sandra Weir
*This conversation is for entertainment and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Please seek a licensed professional for your specific situation.
About Sandra
Sandra Weir is the founder of The Wedding Nanny NYC, a unique service helping couples enjoy their big day without worrying about who’s keeping an eye on the kids. With more than 10 years of professional nanny experience, Sandra leads a team that provides personalized childcare for weddings and special events across New York, New Jersey, and Connecticut.
From toddler meltdowns and family drama to unexpected wedding-day surprises, Sandra has truly seen it all. In this episode, she shares how she built her business, the importance of setting boundaries, and some of the wildest stories she’s encountered while helping couples create a stress-free experience for both parents and their youngest guests.
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Christa Innis: Hey, guys. Welcome back to another episode of Here Comes the Drama. I’m your host, Christa Innis, and we’ve got a great episode for you today. A lot of fun stories. I am joined by Sandra Weir, the founder of The Wedding Nanny. Sandra is a professional nanny with over 10 years of experience, and she’s built an incredible business providing high-quality, tailored childcare for weddings and special events. With a background in nutrition and deep understanding of child development, Sandra and her team make sure every child is not only cared for, but truly engaged, happy, and part of the celebration in a way that works for everyone. In this episode, we are talking all things about wedding nannies, sharing some stories of her own, and of course, reacting to some wild wedding stories from our listeners. So without further ado, please enjoy this episode Hi, Sandra. Thanks for being here.
Sandra Weir: Hi, Christa. Thank you for having me.
Christa Innis: I’m so excited to talk to you. I think everything you do is such an awesome concept. You are the Wedding Nanny of New York City. So let’s get into what, who you are, first of all, and then what it means to be a wedding nanny.
Meet the Wedding Nanny Who’s Changing Weddings
Sandra Weir: Thank you so much.
So, well, first of all, I’ve been a nanny for 12 years. I’m a career nanny. Um, I’m originally from Mexico. I’ve been living here for almost 13 years. Wow. It’s crazy to think that. Yeah. And, and yeah, you know, we started the Wedding Nanny almost two years ago, almost kind of by accident. I was doing a wedding with one of my longtime families, and, uh, I was watching four children with another nanny, and then I realized, you know, there’s a lot of missing, uh, things, uh, within the service.
Like, we’re watching them, yes, but we didn’t have any- everything we needed at that time. So the idea came up during that event.
Christa Innis: Wow. So then, like, how did it come to be? So I love how you, like, came up with this idea. Mm-hmm. So then how did you, like, officially make it a business after? Were you like, “Okay,” like, “this is something weddings need,” like, they need a nanny.
And what were those particular things that you were like, “Okay, this is, you know, kind of what we would need to make this happen,” and what, um- How would you then kind of like verbalize that, I guess, with your, with your customer? Mm-hmm.
Sandra Weir: Yeah. So, so essentially, the way I realized we’re missing things, like for instance, I don’t know, um, we had four kids and they all were different ages.
So that’s where I started questioning, okay, why, why are not, why are we not prepared, for example, for the toddler? Like, he does- he didn’t have, um, cancellation headphones, and so we couldn’t bring him in the reception, although the parents wanted him there. No one thought about that. The parents didn’t think about that.
We didn’t, ’cause we were just there to, you know, offer a service. We were not prepared for it. Um, so little things like that, like maybe we’re, we didn’t have any toys to keep the kids entertained, especially the little ones. Um, so I just started writing my notes and, you know, s- thinking how can we build something that seems put together that can make parents’ life easier and that can also be amazing for the children.
Mm. ‘Cause, you know, oftentimes kids, you know, they’re, they’re dragged to the wedding. Like, maybe they don’t even wanna be there. They wanna be playing. They wanna be outdoors. Mm. But they have to be during the reception. They have to be during portraits. So we wanted to create an experience that made them feel special and important as well.
Christa Innis: Yeah, I love that.
Sandra Weir: Mm-hmm.
Christa Innis: So when people come to hire you, do they… Like, at what point are you hired in the process? Like, do they already have a venue? Are they like six months away? Do they, um… Are they just recently engaged? They’re like, “We know we need you,” or is it different points?
Sandra Weir: Uh, I would say for the most part, we get booked within six months of the wedding, four to six months.
There’s a few very, very cautious brides that they know, you know, they’re gonna definitely need someone to care for the children, especially the ones that have nieces or nephews within the wedding, and you know, these are kids that they love, so they want their siblings to have a great time. They want their parents to have a great time.
They don’t want them to be worried. So we’ve had a few, uh, lately, a few bookings like that, like the booking’s within a year or even longer. Um, but for the most part, it’s like four to six months, and sometimes you get, on the rare occasion, people that are within a month or two, and they’re like, “Oops, what are we gonna do?”
Yeah. “We have 10 children. Like, what’s the plan? Who’s gonna care for them?”
Christa Innis: Yeah. And is it typically they are, like, in a separate room, or are they part of the wedding, like at a, their own table, and then you just know which kids you’re keeping an eye on?
Sandra Weir: Depends on the wedding, and that’s why we like to do a consultation with the couple.
Uh, what we’ve seen, the pattern is the, the times that we’ve been hired, it’s because there’s kids in the wedding party. Um, there’s a few weddings that we’ve done that don’t have kids in the wedding, so that’s a diff- a completely different role, completely different day. But, um, essentially what we do is we, we set up a little room, a little, a little corner.
Um, some venues have more capacity than others. Some venues have multiple rooms that we have access to. Um, so what we do is we talk with the wedding planner and we figure out a plan. Uh, and then it depends on the flow of the day. Like, say we have five children, and they’re all in the wedding, chances are we’re not gonna be in that room a lot of the time, maybe just in between formalities, uh, and maybe once, uh, we finish cocktail hour.
But if it’s kids are not in the wedding, uh, say you, you have a couple that has a lot of friends that are coming from Europe or from other states, and they just wanna offer the service to their friends for their children, then yes, we’ll have, you know, that room with even more inventory, more toys, more activities, and, uh, we’ll keep them entertained the whole day.
So it really depends on, on the couple and what their needs are.
Christa Innis: Yeah. That’s such a great idea. Like, when I saw you do this, I was like, “I wish I…” Like, I feel like I would’ve loved to have this at my wedding. Like, we had, like, just… The only kids we invited were, like, kids that were, like, our nieces and nephews- Mm-hmm
like, in the wedding. Um- Yeah … but I feel like that also gives, like, the parents, like, a little, like, weight off to, like, be like, “Okay, we can have, like, fun and enjoy ourselves,” and there’s- Yes … someone, like, there to also keep an eye. Um- And especially like having the room separate. I’ve heard of a lot of people doing that, like where it’s like, oh- Yeah
there’s a room where there’s fun things to do. ‘Cause like you said, different age groups are gonna require or want different things.
Sandra Weir: Yes. Absolutely. So important to have that extra space for them. Even, even if it’s within the bridal suite, like obviously what we try to do is just not be in their way, like at the beginning, but at some point they’re gonna need like some time to unwind.
Like if you have a toddler, like chances are they’re gonna need a nap at some point. Mm-hmm. So, and like we’re also in, in New York, so we have seasons. So when it’s not the spring or summer, then, you know, there’s so much you can do outside. Like you can’t go out for long walks because it gets cold. So yeah, w- the extra room is definitely essential for, for this type of service.
Christa Innis: Mm-hmm. That’s so awesome. So, okay. Mm-hmm. So it started off and it was you and li- and a friend that I think started… You said your first wedding, you were like w- you were doing an, you were h- or nannying with another friend. Mm-hmm. But then when you made it your own business, now you have- Mm-hmm … like tons of other nannies that are with your-
Sandra Weir: Yeah
Christa Innis: company.
Sandra Weir: Yeah. Actually, I, I started on my own, um, but she was the, uh, the first nanny to join my team. Obviously, she’s, uh, like one of my lead wedding nannies. She’s amazing. Um, and then we had two more people joining, um, last year in the summertime, and then I hired one more. So right now we’re trying to expand to hire two more.
So the team is six to seven people. Yeah. Yeah, we’re getting really busy and we need, you know, to have, um, a calendar with all the nannies, and I also want them to have some weekends off, so essentially we need more hands. Mm-hmm.
Christa Innis: That is amazing. Mm-hmm. What do you, what does the typical… I know you said it kind of depends on the wedding you have or- Mm-hmm
what the, what’s kind of figured out between the parents. Um- Yeah … but what does a typical, like, wedding day look like for you? Like, are you a part of- Mm-hmm … meetings ahead of time or are you there first thing in the morning? Um, does that kind of-
Sandra Weir: Mm-hmm … I’m
Christa Innis: sure that probably differs a lot, but-
Sandra Weir: Yes, it, it, it, it does change a lot.
Um, we have people who book us through, since the morning, like let’s say when the getting ready gets, it’s starting around 10:00 AM. Um, but for the most part we start our service at, like, 1:00 or 2:00 PM when it’s the ceremony. So a lot of couples still get married by the church. Mm-hmm. Uh, so what we do is we drive to the, to the church, and we help, uh, before the ceremony starts.
So we kind of like acclimate with the kids. They get to know us. If it’s, the weather is nice like right now, we can go outside for a little bit. And then, uh, once ceremony starts, we already have a plan beforehand and we know if the kids are gonna walk down the aisle. We either keep them in the ceremony or take them out, depending on what the bride and the groom wants, um, and also depending on their ages, right?
Like, if you have a baby, we don’t, we’re not expecting the baby to make it through the ceremony. So we already have a plan, um, uh, for that specific time of the day. And then, uh, what we do is we either help with wedding portraits at the church, which most times that’s what happens, and then we drive to the venue.
So for the most part, venues are, like, close distance, we drive there. But even if it’s not close, we make it happen. So we, we will show up there and we’ll set up a room there. And then we, we check in the children and we start playing with them. Uh, say the bride and groom are gonna have more pictures at the venue, so that’s when we, we try to keep them engaged and entertained.
Um, and then we have cocktail hour. We try to- we drive with the kids to either in cocktail hour and then, uh, reception. So it really depends on the flow of the day, but that’s mostly we are hired for eight hours, which will cover you from ceremony all the way through the end of your party.
Why Wedding Childcare Is More Than Babysitting
Christa Innis: Mm-hmm. Okay. Yeah.
And so do you find that most couples, like, put it on th- on their invitation, like, “Oh, we’ll have a wedding nanny”? Or is it one of those where, like, after RSVPs are coming in then they have a number and then they’re like, “Okay, here’s our final number, um, how many nannies, like, do you have available to show up?”
Like, what’s kind of like the process? Um, like is it like- They’re kind of telling people ahead of time, or how does that kind of work? And do you have a limit too- Um … like for your, your company?
Sandra Weir: Yeah. So I personally don’t love those big weddings with like 30-plus children. We’ve had only like one, I think.
Um, it can get a little bit out of hand. That’s my opinion, my personal opinion. I know there’s a lot of nanny agencies that do corporate events, and maybe they have like a lot of more nannies, like, you know, like backup nannies, right? My team is very small, so and we work with a very personalized ratio with the children.
For instance, babies, uh, are one on one, always, no matter what the setup is. Uh, and then toddlers, it could be one nanny watching two, and you know, as they are older, we can watch more. But it’s never more than one to four, the ratio. So no, for the most part, we, like when we get on a call with a client or the couple, they, you know, they tell us, “We have four kids,” or, “We have eight kids.”
It’s never more than 10 kids, and our average is five. So yeah, it’s, it’s mostly kids that are beloved kids, right, by the couple, like either nieces, nephews, or maybe your bri- best, um, best man has some children, or your maid of honor. So those are the kids we’ll be watching. We’re not like, uh, like a daycare service.
Yeah. You know? Like, yeah. Yeah. I mean, we’ve had a couple of inquiries with like 50 kids. I’m like, “I don’t even…” Oh. We, we don’t have the capacity for that, and it’s such, also so much more liability, to be honest.
Christa Innis: Yeah. I was gonna- We
Sandra Weir: have to talk about that. Yeah.
Christa Innis: Yeah. That would- Mm-hmm … I feel like that would be such a liability if they’re like, “Okay, there’s just, there’s a other room.
Any kids that come to the wedding are gonna be in there.” And then you don’t know them by like name, or it could just be like a- No … a guest that decided to bring their kid that day.
Sandra Weir: Yeah.
Christa Innis: So I love, yeah, I love this approach. I feel like it’s more- Mm-hmm … almost more like a daycare then. You like know like their name.
You know what, how many kids there’s- Mm-hmm … gonna be, and that there’s like pro- an appropriate number of nannies per kid. I think that’s-
Sandra Weir: Yes. And we know all these, um, things beforehand because we have a questionnaire for the parents, and we have a profile for each children. So by the time of the wedding, regardless if it’s one or 10 or 15, we know their names.
We know if they have an allergy, if they have, um, a behavioral problem, like if they’re potty-trained, all these things we know beforehand, what kind of games they like to play. Um- Mm-hmm … so we are prepared for that. But I think we love smaller weddings, like with, with fewer children, ’cause it’s easier to control.
Like, they warm up to you faster, whereas it’s 30 kids, it’s more chaotic all the time, so.
Christa Innis: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Yeah. And you make a great point, too, uh, that it’s usually like kids that are like close to the bride and groom, like nieces- Mm-hmm … and nephews, or they’re in the wedding. Mm-hmm. Because I’ve been part of so many weddings where like- I think people kind of forget that part ’cause they’re like, “Oh, their mom and dad are both in the wedding.
Grandma and grandpa are both in the we-” Yes. You know? So it’s like, where does little Johnny wait in the middle? And then so they’re kind of just passing him around. So I feel like that’s- Yeah … a really good, um, point for, like, those kind of weddings where it’s like, okay, the, when everyone’s kind of has a job- Mm-hmm
then the nanny can help kind of take the kids outside for a walk or, um, do those kind of things. I, I love that idea. I think it’s such a great- Thank you … great concept. Thank you. Thank you. Um, so what is… So we kind of were talking about before we, like, signed on, but,
like, some, you know, different things that you’ve seen at the weddings. Mm-hmm. So what were some of the, like, wildest things, or do you have a wedding story that kind of comes to mind, um- … when you think of, like, some, uh, funny kind of stories?
The Wedding That Secretly Added 10 Extra Kids
Sandra Weir: I have one that’s kind of like a horror story.
Christa Innis: Oh, gosh.
Sandra Weir: We have not talked about this, uh, in any podcast that we’ve been invited.
You’ll be the first one, but we, as we grow the team and as we, you know, perfect our systems, now we just laun- launched a certification, uh, with a private agency, and we’re just trying to be, you know, more hands-on and prepared for every event that we ha- have, you know, we’re gonna have in the future, and all the experience, you know, this past almost 50 weddings that we’ve done in the past year and a half.
Um, but yeah, so last year, uh, it was our first busy year, ’cause 2024 we, we really didn’t have more than five weddings. So last year was, like, the first year in business. Mm-hmm. Um, so September was really busy. We had a random photo shoot. We had, like, nine weddings. So we did, we had two days where we had double bookings, but you know, we had the capacity for it.
We, we were five nannies back then. So, um, we had this couple that reached out three months before the wedding. Um, essentially the groom was the one that was taking the lead, which is not the standard. Like, normally it’s either the mom of the bride or the bride or the sister of the bride, right? Um, so we had the groom reaching out.
And he was very stubborn since the beginning, and he will be like, “Oh, we’re gonna have…” First he said eight children, right? None of these kids were in the wedding, so he wanted more kinda like a play area for the nannies to watch the kids. And then, uh, so he booked two nannies, but he wanted to book one. So we kept explaining, you know, how we work with the Nanny Rachel’s, but he kept insisting it’s gonna be a, a room with just, you know, like a daycare.
Why can a teacher watch eight to 10 kids and you can’t do that? Oh, wow. So I kept ex- explaining. Yeah, like, you know, we have, you know, glass. There’s people walking in. It’s such a different environment. It’s not childproof. Mm-hmm. There’s so many factors playing, right?
Christa Innis: Yeah.
Sandra Weir: So time goes by, keep reaching out.
I, I had a gut feeling that this wedding wasn’t gonna be, you know, they were not being honest with us, right?
Christa Innis: Yeah.
Sandra Weir: So kept reaching out. No communication, right? Never talked to me. Like, I think we talked, like, a day before the wedding. Uh, a lot of red flags. Mm-hmm. So a week or two weeks before, um, the wedding, uh, he calls me and he goes, “Okay, we’re gonna have closer to 12 children.”
I said, “Okay, we need a third nanny, that’s for sure. We can’t work with less than three nannies.” And also he wasn’t sure if there, there was gonna be babies. We needed to know. You needed to know. We send the profiles months… Yeah, we needed to know, and he never sent us the profiles until, like, a day before the wedding.
He sent, he sent us tw- 10, I think. Eight or 10. But I had this gut feeling, right? So I sent… I wasn’t in that event because I was in the city with another nanny in another booking. So I send my lead wedding nanny, Jesse, with the two nannies. They show up. Chaos. Like, they didn’t even know where had to, like, set up.
The wedding planner wasn’t an- anywhere to be found. Like, we had the contact number. She wasn’t picking up. They finally are able to set up. Everything starts fine. But here’s a f- here’s the crazy thing. They ended up having 18 children. 18 children- 18 … for three nannies. Three of them were babies. It was chaos.
I mean- Wow … they, my nannies are superstars. They know how to deal with these things. Mm. They got the job done, all the kids were safe, but it’s something that we’ll never allow. And you know, it was a breach of contract too because we had a contract where it states you cannot have more children, but I have them checking in every child and, you know, we had to be honest with the couple.
A few days after, we, I reached out to them and I was like, “Look, this is what happened. Um, chances, you know, if, if I didn’t have this amazing team, like, and they’re trained for everything, like, we don’t know what could’ve happened.” So yeah. Mm. That’s what I, that’s what I told you. We, we don’t love these bigger parties because also sometimes, sometimes I feel like the couple don’t know what to expect either, like how many kids are gonna show up.
Mm. But a lot of times they’re, like, what I’ve seen in the past, they don’t wanna tell you. So yes- Yeah … we try to be very cautious with these type of bookings. I mean, luckily everything went fine, but you know, you never know what can happen.
Christa Innis: That’s, like, just like what we were talking about- Mm-hmm … how, like, the…
it’s almost like they, like, had it on their invitation and then just kept telling people, “Oh, it’s fine- Yes … just bring your kids ’cause there’s gonna be a nanny there-“
Sandra Weir: Uh-huh …
Christa Innis: without realizing. And then it’s almost like they didn’t wanna, like, pay more or, like, have- Yes … like, you… yeah. Like, you, like, back out.
You know, then maybe they’re afraid, like, oh, they’re gonna not show up then, so let’s- Mm-hmm … just not tell them. Oh my gosh. Yeah. And it’s like- Yeah, it sounds crazy … don’t you want, like, some… like, it sounds like you guys do such a good job of making sure there’s the right amount of people per kid- Mm-hmm … to make sure, like, all their needs are met and that they’re gonna be taken care of.
Mm-hmm. So it’s like, wouldn’t you want that? And so it just shows me that they just don’t care. Like, they’re like, “Just throw the kids in a room. They’ll be fine.”
Sandra Weir: Yeah. I feel like they really, they didn’t care much about this. Like, they left it to the last minute. Like, they sent just a few profiles before, and we, we like to be prepared, you know?
We like to know who these children are.
Christa Innis: Mm-hmm.
Sandra Weir: And, uh, I also feel like when it’s weddings like this where, you know, different cultures, different type of weddings, I’m, I’m Mexican so I kinda know how it is, but yeah, it was this, it was one of these weddings where there, they have a lot of children typically.
Christa Innis: Mm.
Sandra Weir: So, um, I think maybe they thought, “Okay. We’ll just invite a few. We’ll let a few parents know, but not all of them,” and then once the people saw that there were some nannies there, they w- they just started bringing their kids.
Christa Innis: Yeah.
Setting Boundaries When Guests Assume You’re Watching Their Kids
Sandra Weir: And obviously as a couple, that’s the last thing you wanna deal with on your wedding day.
We understand that, but then don’t invite, don’t have an open, you know, invitation for all these kids. Yes.
Christa Innis: Yeah. So I feel like that would be hard too if, like, let’s say you have, like, the profile for nine kids, and then all these other kids come in. You’re like, “Are they gonna listen to me if I’m like, ‘Hey, stay over here,’ or, ‘Here’s this'”?
Yeah. Or like, “Who’s your parent,” you know? And like, I feel like that would get really chaotic like you said, but I’m glad your team was able to handle it, and I’m sure- They’re amazing … now you’re, like, tightening up everything in the contracts ’cause that’s, like- Yes … that’s wild
Sandra Weir: Yes. We’ve, honestly, since our wedding, we’ve perfected, like, the way we set boundaries also with, you know, with the parents and couples.
Like, I don’t know, for instance, I had a wedding a few months ago where I was only hired to watch the two kids of the, you know, bride and groom. They already had kids, which we are seeing more now. Like, most couples have children already. So I was only in charge of them, but then they had a lot of children, and they told me there was gonna be a lot of children, and then some moms kept coming to the room to bring…
And they would just leave the kids, and I was like, you know, I, I had to be very honest and just, “I, I- it’s only me today, so I was only hired to watch the two kids. I’m so sorry. I would love to help, but we can’t do it.” Like, it’s, it’s two kids and little, they were little kids, so yeah, we had to set boundaries.
Mm-hmm.
Christa Innis: Good for you. For sure. I know, I’m sure that’s hard when people are kind of like-
Sandra Weir: It is …
Christa Innis: taking advantage a little bit, and you’re like-
Sandra Weir: Yeah …
Christa Innis: communication goes a long way, and I feel like the fact that you were just like, “Hey, like, I’d love to, but I can’t be responsible,” like… ‘Cause, yeah- Yeah … it’s like if they just drop a kid off, and then that kid gets hurt or something, you’re like, “I wasn’t- Yes
even in charge of… Sorry,” you know?
Sandra Weir: Exactly. And I mean, and we, we, we carry, like, insurance and everything, but still, like, I don’t wanna be held accountable f- especially for a child that I was not in care for, so.
Christa Innis: Yes.
Sandra Weir: Yeah.
Christa Innis: Yeah, absolutely.
Sandra Weir: Mm-hmm.
The Wedding That Ended With Police Cars
Christa Innis: Um, okay, and then I know you said you had one more other story.
Sandra Weir: Oh my God, this one, I don’t know if it’s… It’s kind of funny, I think. So we, we have this great couple that, also a September wedding. We had this couple, um, they were really young. They were getting married. They have a huge family. Um, and then they, they told us we were gonna care for seven children, which it was sev- seven children.
We were there for the whole day. Um, I think it’s been our longest booking. It was 14 hours. Um, so to me, the funny thing was we showed up. We were only gonna have the girls in the morning for the getting ready with, you know, the bride, and bridesmaids, and maid of honor. And then the kids, the boys, were gonna show up in the afternoon, like right before portraits, and ceremony, and all that kind of stuff.
So it was funny ’cause I spoke to the wedding planner, I spoke to the bride, but I hadn’t spoken to the actual parents from the children, which was, uh- brother of the bride and the sister of the bride.
Christa Innis: Okay.
Sandra Weir: So we get there, we introduce ourselves, and then, um, the sister-in-law, she, uh, she comes to us and she goes, “Guys, I’m so excited to have you here, but just one thing.
My children are not to go with anyone. Just me and my husband. That’s it. Like, they can’t go to anyone else.” So I kind of, like, we started thinking, “What’s going on here?” Like, that’s… I mean, we, we ask for the most part, like, who are we allowed to hand the children. Like, if they wanna go to the dance floor, like, can they go with your grandma or, you know.
Christa Innis: Right.
Sandra Weir: So she was very specific about that. So we were like, “Oh, something’s going on here.” Yeah. So anyway, like, the day goes by. Everything goes fine. Like, the, the boys get there. We start caring for them. Um, and then, uh, once we were about to leave, some of the kids were sleeping, ’cause we had a wide range from, like, a o- one year old to, like, 10 year old, 10 years old.
Mm-hmm. So one of my nannies was caring for the kids that were sleeping, and I was caring for the kids that were in the dance floor. Uh, then we start packing. We hand the children. We say thank you. We start packing all, all of our inventory. As we head out, we start hearing, like, noise inside, but the party was over.
So we’re just, like, heading out. All of a sudden, Amelia comes by. We’re loading our car, and the police shows up. I’m like, “What’s going on?” Oh. My nanny goes, “Oh my God, like, the police is here. This is crazy. Like, what’s going on?” Two patrols. Uh, okay. We didn’t… We obviously we didn’t wanna go back to see what happened, so, but I reached out day after to event planner.
She goes, “Oh my God, I can’t disclose it, but you should speak to, to the bride maybe in the future,” right? The only thing we found out is that they had to call the police because one of the grandparents tried to, like, hold one of the little kids, and the sister-in-law just didn’t want that. I don’t know what was the reason, but police ended up being there, so.
Christa Innis: Oh.
Sandra Weir: I don’t think anyone… I know. That was my reaction. Like, “What, what, what was going on?” Like, why would… Like, what happened? Why would you not want her around the kids? Um, but yeah, I don’t know. I j- I know that no one went to jail. That, that’s for sure.
Christa Innis: Yeah. Oh, my gosh. Mm-hmm. ‘Cause we hear the stories where, like, someone that shouldn’t be there shows up, so then the cops have to come and, like- Mm-hmm
arrest them or take them out. I weirdly have got a lot of, like, ex- exes showing up to s- like, wedding stories.
Sandra Weir: Mm-hmm.
Christa Innis: Um, but yeah, that makes me think that they, like, had a rocky relationship. There was something, and then the- Yeah … grandma was like, “Come give me a
Sandra Weir: hug.” Always some drama. Oh, my God.
Christa Innis: Yeah. Oh, my gosh.
That’s wild. Yes.
Sandra Weir: And
Christa Innis: that’s, and that also goes back to your other story about, like, that’s why it’s so important, like, the nanny to child ratio- Mm-hmm … because then you can specifically say, like, “Oh, I know these three kids aren’t supposed to go with so-and-so.” Like- Mm-hmm … and just keeping the kids safe. But that’s- Yeah
wild, a cop showing up to a wedding. Oh, my-
Sandra Weir: That was really crazy. That was a first. And I mean, I’ve seen a lot of crazy things back where I’m from, you know? We, we like to party, but this was a first, for sure.
Christa Innis: Yeah. Oh, my gosh. Wow.
Sandra Weir: Yeah. I’m just so glad we were not with the kids when that happened.
Christa Innis: Yeah. ‘
Sandra Weir: Cause, like, I, I wouldn’t know how to…
Like, I wanna be nice, but I also… I wanna be nice to everyone, you know? I don’t wanna just be nice to the kids’ parents. Right. But I get it. Like, they’re your children. You wanna protect them. God knows from what, but you wanna protect them, and we respect that.
Christa Innis: Right. Yeah. Yeah, that’s gotta be really hard when it’s like, um…
It’s a good thing that she, like, told you specifically, ’cause k- Mm-hmm … like, if she didn’t, and, like, a grandparent came in, they’re like, “Oh, I’m the grandma,” like, that’s gotta be so hard with all these people coming in. Yes. It’s like-
Sandra Weir: Yeah …
Christa Innis: uh, is that your grandma? Like, I don’t know, like how you would- Yeah … how you would handle that.
But it’s a good thing that she- I know … like, knew, like, what boundaries she needed to set- Yeah … ’cause we don’t, I guess, know the full story there.
Sandra Weir: I know.
Christa Innis: Wow. That is wild. It is, yeah. But like I said, I th- I think it’s, I think it’s amazing what you do. And how can someone go about- Like, if they’re interested in hiring you.
Do you do just weddings in New York, New York City? Um, do you guys have- are you guys expanding? How does that work?
Sandra Weir: Yeah. We, we cover mostly New York, New Jersey, and Connecticut. Um, we have, I think, 50% of our business is in New Jersey, to be honest. Okay. New Jersey’s huge. Yeah. So we have a lot of weddings, like, in central Jersey, in northern Jersey, but pretty much we get inquiries from everywhere.
We’ve had a few wedding, few inquiries from Philadelphia lately.
Christa Innis: Okay.
Sandra Weir: Which is still, it could be, it could be as far as some parts in New Jersey, even closer. So we, we just booked, uh, our second one for next year- Oh … uh, in Philadelphia. It’s gonna be a three-day service. Um, but yeah, for the most part, the tri-state area.
And New York City, not so much, ’cause there’s not so much space in the venues. We get a few bookings here and there, um, but not, not so many New York City.
Christa Innis: Mm-hmm. Okay. And so for someone that wants to book you, Chase- Mm-hmm … should they go to your website, go to your social media? Yeah.
Sandra Weir: So they can go to my website.
It’s www.theweddingannynyc.com. And they can also find all the links to every social media link in my, in my Instagram.
Christa Innis: Awesome.
Sandra Weir: Yeah.
Christa Innis: Yeah. Mm-hmm We’ll, we’ll put it in the show notes as well.
Sandra Weir: Thank you. Thank you so much.
Christa Innis: Um, okay, so we’re gonna do a little game here.
Sandra Weir: Mm-hmm.
Christa Innis: I think. We’ve g- we got, like, all these, like, little options.
Um- Yes … okay. Let’s see. Let’s do, like, a little rapid fire. Okay. So, um, let’s see. The… Okay, first thing that comes to mind.
Sandra Weir: Mm-hmm.
Rapid-Fire Wedding Chaos and Childcare Emergencies
Christa Innis: Here’s a s- I’m gonna give you a scenario- Okay … and then just try to answer in, like, five seconds or less. This might be… I’m trying this for the first time. Mm-hmm. Let’s see how this goes.
Okay. A ring bearer locks himself in the bathroom
Sandra Weir: A ring bearer what?
Christa Innis: Locks himself
Sandra Weir: in bathroom. Locks himself in… Um, literally call 911. Yes.
Christa Innis: Um, flower girl starts crying before photos.
Sandra Weir: We distract her right away with a toy.
Christa Innis: Mm-hmm. Toddler spills juice on the flower girl’s dress.
Sandra Weir: Oh, my goodness. We speak to toddler, and we take care of that dress, ’cause it’s probably dirty now.
Christa Innis: Yeah. Um, the parent disappears during cocktail hour.
Sandra Weir: Parent disappears during cocktail hour. That’s fine, ’cause we got the kids. We’re taking care of them. We’re feeding them.
Christa Innis: Yeah. Mm-hmm. Um, two cousins start fighting during dinner.
Sandra Weir: We take them out of that room. Yes.
Christa Innis: Um, a toddler falls asleep on the dance floor.
Sandra Weir: Uh, we just bring them b- back upstairs or wherever we, we had it set up for him.
Christa Innis: Yeah. Mm-hmm. Love that. Great. Great answers. Thank you. Um, okay, and then we’re just gonna do one little, one last little thing. It’s called what more, what’s more likely. Mm-hmm. So just maybe weddings you’ve been a part of. Okay.
Sandra Weir: Okay.
Christa Innis: Either a child cries during the vows or someone falls asleep during speeches.
Sandra Weir: A child cries during the vows, for sure.
Christa Innis: Someone loses a shoe or someone loses a child.
Sandra Weir: Someone loses a shoe. Seen that many times.
Christa Innis: Yes. Um, a flower girl refuses to walk or steals the spotlight.
Sandra Weir: A flower girl steals the spot- the spotlight, yeah.
That’s more likely.
Christa Innis: Um, a parent leaves the diaper bag behind or forgets snacks.
Sandra Weir: For get snacks.
Christa Innis: Mm-hmm Uh, a toddler dances all night or crashes before dinner?
Sandra Weir: A toddler dances all night.
Christa Innis: Yeah.
Sandra Weir: We have fun with that.
Christa Innis: I love that. I love that.
Sandra Weir: Yeah.
Christa Innis: Okay, awesome. So let’s get into this week’s story submission.
Mm-hmm. These are sent in from followers, and we’ll kinda pause and react as we go. Okay.
Sandra Weir: Mm-hmm.
The Groom Who Chose Skating Over His Wedding
Christa Innis: Okay, here we go. It says, “I don’t even know how to describe my wedding except if it could go wrong, it did, and my groom was nowhere around for any of it. My ex and my brothers ended up saving the day. It started after the rehearsal dinner.
One of the groomsmen needed to pick up his tux. He had never been to our house before, so he and his very intimidating wife came over with their kids to get it. The plan was for me to meet them, then drive about 45 minutes to the venue to stay overnight with my bridesmaids. After 20 minutes, my fiancé, let’s call him Ethan, still hadn’t shown up, so I called him.
He said he was on his way. An hour later, still nothing. His friends needed the tux, and I needed to leave.” I wonder why she couldn’t just bring it to the… Maybe I’m missing something. Like, bring it to the place, unless-
Sandra Weir: That’s what I was thinking, yeah.
Christa Innis: Yeah. Why
Sandra Weir: couldn’t she just bring it?
Christa Innis: Going their way earlier?
I don’t know. I’m like, and maybe they’re going, like, an, a day earlier or something, but that’s interesting. Hmm. “So I called again. ‘Hey- Mm-hmm … where are you? Your friends need his tu- need the tux, and I have to head out.'”
Ethan: “Oh, Liam bought me a shop light for the wedding, so I stopped for a quick skate lesson.”
Sandra Weir: What? What?
Christa Innis: What’s a shop light?
Sandra Weir: Oh my God, I don’t know what a shop light is, but the skate lesson, what?
Christa Innis: Yeah, I’m like, wait, a sh- a skate lesson? Um, me- Oh my God … “Your friends drove 19 hours with three kids. They’re waiting at our house, and we expected you over an hour ago.”
So the, so the groomsmen, the wife, and the kids are waiting at the house this whole time it sounds like for the groom.
Sandra Weir: Got it. Okay.
Christa Innis: Okay, that’s- That makes more sense … would be really awkward. So it seems like- It’s- … they were, they were everywhere they needed to be, but the groom- Mm-hmm … is just, like, over skating.
Sandra Weir: He was just missing, yeah, and so she couldn’t leave. Oh my God. Yeah.
Christa Innis: Oh my gosh.
Sandra Weir: That’s crazy. I mean, I feel like, I mean, grooms don- they don’t live in the same space for the wedding. Like, it’s a total different experience for them, so I could see that happening. My, my husband was like, when we got married, he went to the gym on, you know, the day of our wedding, and he was just-
in the pool before and while I was getting ready, so I can see that happening. The, i- it’s a little weird, the skating, but –
Christa Innis: Skating is a little weird …
Sandra Weir: they just have so much time.
Christa Innis: Yeah. Well, it, it’s funny. It’s like that, um, I can’t think of the sound, but it’s like that viral, like, TikTok where it’s, like, showing, like, the bridesmaids and the bride all getting ready.
There’s, like, so many things on their list- Mm-hmm … and it’s, like, the quick music, and then it’s showing, like, the guys, and they’re just lounging in bed. Chilling. Yeah … smoking cigars, drinking whiskey, and it’s just, like, two different zones.
Sandra Weir: Like- It’s two, two, yeah, it’s a whole different experience for them.
Yeah. That’s, that’s for sure. Oh my
Christa Innis: God. No, so this sounds- That’s crazy … to me like it was one where, like, she did all the planning. She did- Mm-hmm … the scheduling. It was all on her plate. But, like, he can’t even just show up to the
Sandra Weir: thing- Yes …
Christa Innis: which is very frustrating.
Sandra Weir: Well, that, that, that speaks volumes for the marriage.
Like, we don’t know how that’s going right now.
Christa Innis: I… That’s exactly. If that happened
Sandra Weir: before. Well, she
Christa Innis: said, so I’m wondering what, who’s the ex, ’cause she said, “My ex and my brothers saved the day.” But is it her groom? I don’t know.
Sandra Weir: Mm.
Christa Innis: Um, okay, so
Sandra Weir: he- So yeah.
Christa Innis: Like-
Sandra Weir: Imagine that. The c- she cancel the wedding. Oh my God.
Christa Innis: Yeah. Ooh, okay. Let’s see what’s going on here.
Sandra Weir: Oh my goodness.
Christa Innis: Um, so then her hus- or fiancé- Mm … said, “I just want to land this clip, then I’ll head, head home.” What is this skating thing? At that point, I told him to just let me know where the tux was so I could give it to them and leave. Turns out it was in his car.
Sandra Weir: Of course.
Christa Innis: So he finally- I saw that coming … said he’d go home. What terrible planning
Sandra Weir: That is-
Christa Innis: Ugh …
Sandra Weir: yeah. That’s so- That makes no sense. Like- No … just, like, unnecessary drama for the day.
Christa Innis: Yeah.
Sandra Weir: Oh,
Christa Innis: my God. “The next morning, I woke up at 7:00 AM to call- to a call from the bartender saying he couldn’t make it due to COVID.
This was 2021. I immediately started panicking.” Jesus. Oh, my gosh. What a time to get married. Yeah. “My sister suggested calling my ex, who is a professional wedding bartender.” Oh.
Sandra Weir: Oh, my gosh. Gosh, this is where- I, I see where
Christa Innis: this is going … the ex comes in. Well, it’s not the ex-husband, it’s an ex- Okay … like-
Sandra Weir: An ex-boyfriend,
Christa Innis: yeah
boyfriend.
Sandra Weir: Mm-hmm. Yeah.
Christa Innis: How do we feel- Oh, my gosh … about that? That’s a little odd.
Sandra Weir: I, I would… I don’t know. I, I’m totally against that. I know a lot of people are open to having their exes at their weddings, but I just don’t think it’s a good idea.
Christa Innis: No, ’cause it’s like- I, I really
Sandra Weir: don’t …
Christa Innis: you broke up for a reason.
Mm-hmm. And it doesn’t even ma- like, unless it was, like, in elementary school and you dated and you, quote-unquote, “dated”-
Sandra Weir: Yeah … for
Christa Innis: a
Sandra Weir: week-
Christa Innis: Like, in
Sandra Weir: your childhood …
Christa Innis: yeah. Yeah. But I don’t know why- That’s different … you’d call him an ex then, so it’s obviously not that.
Sandra Weir: Yeah. Oh, God.
Christa Innis: And why would your… I don’t know.
It’s weird that the sister was like, “Call your c- call your ex. He used to bartend.”
Sandra Weir: Oh, God.
Christa Innis: What,
Sandra Weir: what- You can call anyone else. Like, there’s h- like, thousands of b- bartenders. It doesn’t have to be his Anyone can open a
Christa Innis: beer.
Sandra Weir: Yeah. Oh, my God. Oh,
Christa Innis: my God. Okay. Mm-hmm. So, um, she said c- she suggested calling the ex, who is a professional wedding bartender- Oh, my God
at a high-end hotel. He agreed to help. Said his friends would come, too, but they needed the alcohol at the venue early so they could plan the menu. I called Ethan again. “I need you to bring alcohol.” Ethan, “I can get it there by 1:00, but I’m going hiking with my guys.”
Sandra Weir: My God. What?
Christa Innis: This groom is- Why is he-
stressing me out.
Sandra Weir: It… Yeah, it’s just, why? The most random things on the wedding day. That makes- Yeah … absolutely no sense. And, like, the fact that he’s not helping her with anything.
Christa Innis: Yeah, this poor bride. Like, you can just see it now, like their wedding planning was, like, he had, like, the b- most basic task, he couldn’t do that, and then her task is, like, a mile long.
Sandra Weir: Yeah. That’s-
Christa Innis: Oh, my gosh …
Sandra Weir: ugh. Sorry.
Christa Innis: Um, okay. So she says, um, “The wedding is at 2:00. You’re supposed to be here early. The photographer arrives at 11:00.” He said, “I can get there by 1:00,” ’cause he’s hiking. The wedding was at 2:00.
Sandra Weir: Oh, my
Christa Innis: God. What? This guy is wild. He just said- Oh, my God … “I’ll be there dressed by 11:00, but the guys still want to hike.”
This is your future wife.
Sandra Weir: Yeah, I mean, he’s prioritizing his friends. That, yeah, that doesn’t- Yeah … sound very well. Mm-mm.
Christa Innis: No, if you can’t even- I
Sandra Weir: don’t like where this is going.
Christa Innis: No. If you can’t even do, like, a simple task on your wedding day, this marriage is doomed. I’m sorry. Yeah.
Sandra Weir: I agree. I agree with you.
Wild.
Christa Innis: Uh, she said, “What about the alcohol? Ethan: Just give them the garage code.”
Sandra Weir: Oh, my God.
Christa Innis: So e- so then I guess her fiancé now knows the ex is coming to bartend the wedding. Okay. Mm-hmm. “At that point, my sister and I drove back from our… Okay. At that point, my sisters and I drove back home ourselves to pick it up, leaving the other bridesmaids at the venue to decorate.”
This is, like, stressing me out. Yeah. “On the way, I called my wedding par- planner to update her, and she told me she was also sick and couldn’t come.”
Sandra Weir: Oh, my God. What?
Christa Innis: What wedding planner, though, wouldn’t call and tell you that morning? She’s literally just telling you as they’re going to the venue.
Sandra Weir: I know.
That’s… Why?
Christa Innis: Wow. She is not wrong when she said everything that could go wrong is.
Sandra Weir: It is, it was going wrong, yeah.
Christa Innis: That sounds so unprofessional. If I was, like, being a wedding planner for somebody, I would call them the day before or first thing that morning that I didn’t feel well, and have a backup- Yeah
or something.
Sandra Weir: Absolutely. Wow. You always need to have a backup for everything. Even if you have a wedding planner, like, have your maid of honor, you know, taking care of a few things in case stuff-
Christa Innis: Yes …
Sandra Weir: you know, things like this happen.
Christa Innis: Yeah, and I feel like- Wow … someone always needs to go know what’s going on because, yeah, if the wedding planner’s not there, then it’s, like, re-explaining it to everybody or finding someone.
That’s a lot.
Sandra Weir: Oh,
Christa Innis: my goodness. She goes, “So now, no bartender, no planner, no groom. I was spiraling.” Oh, my God. “Thankfully, the venue owner stepped up to help. My parents and younger brother met us at the house, helped load the alcohol, and we got back to the venue at 10:00 AM. The decorations weren’t how I envisioned them, so I started scrambling to fix everything.”
Oh, my God. “Meanwhile, the photographer, hair, makeup, and DJ all arrived on time.” Okay, we got those. At least. We got those people. “I kept trying Ethan. No answer.” This guy. What? Why are we still considering marrying him?
Sandra Weir: Yeah, no, no.
Christa Innis: Gosh. “Hair and makeup were getting frustrated because I kept delaying getting ready, and my bridesmaids had to chase me down.
I finally said I wasn’t getting ready until I heard from him.” That’s when my ex, let’s call him Noah, showed up with his friends and a bucket of alcohol Jell-O. Oh, like Jell-O shots. No. Like a, like a full- Oh, my God … sandbox pail. She call- she calls it alcohol, like, Jell-O, but okay.
Sandra Weir: Oh, my gosh.
Christa Innis: He handed me a tequila shot.
What is happening in this story?
Sandra Weir: This is the weirdest story I
Christa Innis: know. I didn’t know this, like, ex-
Sandra Weir: Hating the Jell-O shots.
Christa Innis: Like, fiancé’s not even there. Okay. You’re hanging out with your ex, drinking with him. Oh, my God. He handed me a tequila shot. His friends reassured me they’d take over the bar, and they literally sent me off to get ready with the biggest Jell-O shot I’ve ever seen.
Mm. I finally get started getting ready. Ethan showed up around noon with his groomsmen- … all dressed, and I sent them off to the skate park for photos. Is he a… Oh, he must be, like, a skateboarder?
Sandra Weir: Maybe. I mean, that’s the only reason I would think he was doing that on the day of.
Christa Innis: I don’t know why. This is- So strange
actually so funny. When she first says something about skate- Mm-hmm … I was picturing him ice skating.
Sandra Weir: Me too. That’s what I was pi- I was
Christa Innis: like, why is she- I was, like, picturing him, like, twirling and trying to, like, land on his skate.
Sandra Weir: Yeah.
Christa Innis: But now I’m like, oh, skate park. He’s skateboarding.
Sandra Weir: Okay. And that, that makes more sense.
Christa Innis: Yeah. It also gives… I feel like I know his vibe now. Okay. He’s like a wedding.
Sandra Weir: Yeah, like a tomboy. You, I don’t care about anything.
Christa Innis: Yes. Oh, my God. Totally, like, grungy. Yeah.
Sandra Weir: Yeah. Oh, God.
Christa Innis: Um, okay. An hour before the ceremony, Noah’s friends came back with another tequila shot- Oh … and some bad news. Ethan still wasn’t back.
And neither was the caterer. I called him. “Where are you?” Ethan, “At the bar.” I looked out the window. “No, you’re not.” Ethan, “No, like, at a real bar. We stopped for a drink- What? … after photos.” This guy does not wanna get married.
Sandra Weir: No, he doesn’t. Nope.
Christa Innis: He’s like, “I gotta get- Well, literally it doesn’t matter … I gotta get all my drinking and my hanging out with the boys before I get married ’cause I’ll- Oh
you know, my old ball and chain,” like
Sandra Weir: I know-
Christa Innis: That’s what he probably- Like a bachelor party. Yes. Oh, no. He’s, like, acting like it’s a bachelor party.
Sandra Weir: Oh, God.
Christa Innis: Um, me, “We already paid for a full bar at the venue.” Ethan, “Well, we’re leaving now.” I told him we had 30 minutes and he needed to get there. Meanwhile, my brothers tracked down the caterer who had accidentally double-booked.
They were on their way but had no staff now to serve the food.
Sandra Weir: Oh my God. What?
Christa Innis: So my brothers, cousins, and uncle stepped in, setting everything up during the ceremony and serving all 200 guests themselves.
Sandra Weir: No way.
Christa Innis: Oh.
Sandra Weir: No way that happened. Oh my
Christa Innis: God. And they can’t even enjoy the wedding.
Sandra Weir: That’s insane. I mean, so sweet for- of them, but still insane.
Christa Innis: Yes.
Sandra Weir: Oh my God.
Christa Innis: And it’s like, that’s a, that’s a big wedding. 200 people- Yeah … like.
Sandra Weir: Yeah.
Christa Innis: Uh, geez.
Sandra Weir: Oh
Christa Innis: my gosh. Although, nowadays, I feel like that’s considered like mid-size. Oh, that sounds really-
Sandra Weir: Yeah. It is big.
Christa Innis: Mm-hmm.
Sandra Weir: Oh, God.
Christa Innis: And despite everything, guests had no idea how chaotic the day was. The Jell-O bucket became the highlight of the reception.
It got passed around between my bridesmaids- … my family, my ex and his friends.
Sandra Weir: Oh my God.
Christa Innis: And somehow everything came together. This story is so weird. Sorry. So
Sandra Weir: they got married. The groom showed up at some point.
When Everyone Saves the Wedding Except the Groom
Christa Innis: Yeah, it says, “That’s the story of how my seven bridesmaids, his ex…” Or no, “My seven bridesmaids, my ex, his two friends, and my entire family pulled off a wedding in just a few hours with everything stacked against us.
And honestly, if we hadn’t already been legally married, his actions that day might have made me call-” There you go … “the wedding and just throw a party without him.”
Sandra Weir: I was waiting for that. I was waiting for that, because I feel like if she wasn’t married, she might not have gotten married.
Christa Innis: Yeah.
Sandra Weir: I wouldn’t have, at least.
Christa Innis: No.
Sandra Weir: So many red flags.
Christa Innis: And yes, that, just that last sentence alone- Oh my gosh … saying that it was your bridesmaids, your ex, his friends, and your family that pulled off the wedding. Y- your groom nowhere to be seen.
Sandra Weir: No.
Christa Innis: Your groom’s showing up late. He’s causing more of the stress than anybody.
Sandra Weir: That’s crazy.
Yeah, I feel like if your partner doesn’t back, back you up, then, you know, who else will?
Christa Innis: Mm-hmm.
Sandra Weir: He needs to be your, like, number one in everything. Yeah. That’s absolutely crazy, but this was the weirdest story I’ve heard.
Christa Innis: So
Sandra Weir: weird. So many things happening, the ex, the Jell-O shots.
Christa Innis: I thought it was gonna end with…
Like, when it first started I was like, oh, the, the fiancé’s the ex. Like, they broke up.
Sandra Weir: Yeah. Or, or maybe she’ll, dumped the groom and then- Go with the ex …
Christa Innis: hook up with the ex on her wedding day. I want the story with the ex here. Why is he an ex, and why are we still calling him? And he’s like, “Yeah, I’ll come help you.
I’ll-“
Sandra Weir: Yeah,
Christa Innis: that’s- “… I’ll be a bartender at your wedding, but also kinda get you drunk.”
Sandra Weir: Yeah, that’s… Maybe he was in the family for many years.
Christa Innis: Yeah.
Sandra Weir: That could’ve been,
Christa Innis: yeah. But it seems like the groom- Crazy … had no issue with it either. It makes me wonder if it was like because he knew he was kinda slacking, he’s like, “Whatever, I’ll let her,” like-
Sandra Weir: Handle it.
Christa Innis: Yeah. But I was like talking to someone recently on an episode. Mm-hmm. I don’t remember who it was, but talking about how like the wedding day and like leading up to the wedding day is just a pre-cur- is a precursor for your marriage. Mm-hmm. And so it’s like if you can’t work together to make this day work or like communicate or be there for each other-
Sandra Weir: Mm-hmm
Christa Innis: how is the marriage gonna be? Like, I don’t know. Exactly. I just… If he couldn’t even be there on time or do two things that she asked of him, how is this- What do
Sandra Weir: you expect?
Christa Innis: Yeah.
Sandra Weir: That’s true. Yeah, I mean- Yeah. I mean, that- that’s when- that’s one of your happiest days and you still don’t have, most of y- them don’t have kids.
You don’t have a mortgage yet. Like, there’s not many worries except for making that day perfect. And if they can’t, you know, deal with that, what do you expect when, like, the hard stuff comes to you? Like-
Christa Innis: Mm-hmm …
Sandra Weir: that’s, that’s so crazy.
Christa Innis: Yeah. It’s like, he’s just gonna dip out and go skate with his friends.
Sandra Weir: Yeah. Oh, God.
Christa Innis: I’m glad, I’m glad he got his hike and his skating in.
Sandra Weir: Right? Everything else doesn’t matter.
Christa Innis: Yeah. Oh, my gosh. That is-
Sandra Weir: Poor bride. I feel for her. Like, that would be horrible. I could not imagine going through that.
Christa Innis: Yeah.
Sandra Weir: Yeah.
Christa Innis: I know, and I feel like, too, like, looking back on your wedding day being like, he was nowhere to be found.
Like, thank God my family saved the day. It’s like-
Sandra Weir: Mm-hmm …
Christa Innis: that’s crazy.
Sandra Weir: No. And it’s so many, like, it’s, it was such a sh- like, a long time of things happening back to back to this poor bride. You know, like, I’ve seen, like, for example, I’ve seen, um, when people don’t have a wedding planner, um, the rings, like, no one can find the rings.
Like, we just saw that one in March. Really? Like, they were literally at, at the altar- … about to exchange rings, and no one could find the rings.
Christa Innis: No.
Sandra Weir: Yes. We were looking. E- I was even helping looking all the, with all the bridesmaids. That I, like, I’ll kind of get, because, you know, someone’s, typically someone’s in charge, but if you don’t have a planner then, you know, things can get, lines can get blurry and maybe- Mm-hmm
you don’t know or you don’t remember who has them now. But, like, going through so many things throughout the day, in your wedding day, that’s-
Christa Innis: Oh, my God … that’s like- Wait, so what happened with the rings? Did they find them?
Sandra Weir: They found them. Yeah. They were in a little box, but, like, I don’t even know they knew who were they handed f- to, because there was no one to help, like, no coordinator- Right
no nothing.
Christa Innis: Oh,
Sandra Weir: my. So yeah, they found them, but it was, like, at least five minutes they were standing there with no rings.
Christa Innis: And I’m sure in that, in that moment it probably feels like 30 minutes because it’s-
Sandra Weir: Yes … like, oh,
Christa Innis: my God,
Sandra Weir: they’re looking for- I feel like it was so long. Yeah. And I w- I can imagine being them and just waiting there on the altar.
Christa Innis: Yeah. Like, oh, my gosh. I know. Oh, my. I, I heard a s- a similar story where, um, the grandma, I feel like it was, like, right before the wedding, the grandma wanted the ring for, like, a picture. It was something.
Sandra Weir: Oh, God.
Christa Innis: She was like… And, and someone that, the person that gave it to her didn’t realize, like, she was super forgetful.
Sandra Weir: Oh, God.
Christa Innis: Like, “Okay, I’ll give it to you for a minute. Just make sure you put it back here.” She’s like, “Oh, yeah, I will.” And then it came time for the wedding and- Not having
Sandra Weir: the ring …
Christa Innis: the grandma was like, “I, I gave it back.” And they were like, “No, you didn’t.” Yeah. And, like, it was, like, this whole thing, and she was like, “Well, I don’t, I don’t know where it is.”
Oh, no. And they had a look and it was, like, it fell down, like, through a table, like, under the floor, and it was the same thing that was, like, during the reception. They were like, “Wait, we don’t have the rings. What’s this-“
Sandra Weir: Such a stressful moment. I mean-
Christa Innis: Mm-hmm …
Sandra Weir: you want everything to be perfect. You work hard to make this day happen for months, and, you know- Uh-huh
that’s, that’s, like, it shouldn’t be that hard to keep a ring in a box.
Christa Innis: Yes. Oh, my gosh, yeah. Crazy. Don’t… Give it to someone you trust.
Sandra Weir: I know.
Christa Innis: Okay, I always like to end these with confessions I write on, on social media. Mm-hmm. Um, people can, like, submit q- s- confessions anonymously. So- Mm-hmm … this was, “A big wedding fear you secretly had before the big day.”
Um, this person said, “My in-laws causing a scene, and they did.”
Sandra Weir: Oh my
Christa Innis: God. I’m gonna need more to that story.
Sandra Weir: Yeah, we need more of that.
Christa Innis: Um, “It’s a little silly, but I was terrified that my husband’s extended family would show up uninvited.”
Sandra Weir: Oh.
Christa Innis: I don’t think that’s silly, because you hear of things happening, like-
Sandra Weir: Yeah, of course
Christa Innis: but it sounds like they didn’t, I guess. Um- Oh … “Not married yet, but that my mom and step-mom are going to have a physical poten- a fight, potentially physical.”
Sandra Weir: My
Christa Innis: gosh.
Sandra Weir: They can’t control themselves on their wedding day? Come on. I,
Christa Innis: I know. It’s like you think- Oh my God … like, you should be able to, but the stories I’ve heard where it’s like people can’t even sit at a table with someone for, like- Mm-hmm
30 minutes.
Sandra Weir: Yeah.
Christa Innis: Um, I read a story where someone was, like, mad at, like, who she was sat by at the table and like demanded it was changed or she’s not gonna come, and I’m just like … Oh my God. Or people start fights in the bathroom. It’s just like, okay. It’s just- Crazy … it’s not about you. I know. Um, that my great-aunt, w- my dad’s aunt, would be rude to my mom and stepdad.
This said someone would turn up and try to cancel the wedding. Oh.
Sandra Weir: What?
Christa Innis: Where did that fear come from? Wow. Um, hating the, my hair because I hired my groom’s cousin.
Sandra Weir: Oh my God.
Christa Innis: Don’t hire someone that’s gonna make you afraid they’re gonna do a bad job on your hair.
Sandra Weir: I know.
Christa Innis: Um, okay, last one. My biggest fear was about guest behavior.
Mm-hmm. Ooh, I think that it says there’s gonna be more in another message, but I don’t see one. We gotta know more about this guest behavior.
Sandra Weir: Hmm.
Christa Innis: And then this other person said COVID, which valid, valid for that. Yeah, yeah. At that time, for sure.
Sandra Weir: Absolutely. Wow.
Christa Innis: Wow, okay. I feel like we, like, shared so many stories today.
Thank you so much for coming on. Yeah, thank you. It was- No,
Sandra Weir: thank you for having me …
Christa Innis: great meeting you, and yeah, chatting with… Again, I th- I think the business that you have is fantastic. Can you tell everyone again your business name, where they can follow you- Mm-hmm … find your content, and anything else fun you’re working on?
Sandra Weir: Absolutely. Um, business name, it’s The Wedding Nanny. They can find me on my website, www.theweddingnannynyc.com. Uh, same thing for my Instagram. It’s, uh, uh, ah, oh my God, theweddingnannynyc. Um, yeah, we have TikTok, but we really don’t use it much. It’s also theweddingnannynyc. So easy to find. Uh, if you’re interested in hiring our services, you can submit your inquiry through our, through our website, and then we’ll reach out within a few hours, and we’ll get this working for you.
Christa Innis: Awesome. Very cool. We’ll also link all of the details in the show notes. Thanks so much for coming on.
Sandra Weir: Thank you. Thank you so much for having me, Christa.