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“Am I still the most important woman in your life?”

In this week’s jaw-dropping submission, I dive into a bride’s story of boundary-crossing chaos that exploded during wedding week, from hospital drama and rehearsal dinner meltdowns to ceremony-day tantrums and reception sabotage. This MIL is all about being the “most important woman” in her son’s life, and trust me, it’s WILD.

I react in real time, call out the red flags, and give my unfiltered advice on how to protect your peace and set boundaries.

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Must-Hear Insights and Key Moments

• Anniversary Giveaway Celebration – I kick things off by celebrating one year of Here Comes The Drama and share how you can enter to win gift cards.
• “Am I Being a Bridezilla?” Dilemma – A bride reached out asking if she was being controlling as her bridesmaids pushed back on dresses, budgets, and bachelorette party expectations. I break it all down.
• Bachelorette Budget Blowups – Money tension flares when expectations weren’t clearly communicated. I weigh in on fairness, financial boundaries, and how to handle these sticky situations.
• Hair & Makeup Control Debate – I get real about when it’s reasonable to set appearance guidelines for your bridal party… and when it’s straight-up micromanaging.
• Mother-in-Law Wedding Horror Story – A jaw-dropping submission shows years of boundary violations that spiral into full-blown chaos during wedding week.
• The “Most Important Woman” Moment – At a funeral lunch, the MIL asks the groom if she’s still the most important woman in his life. I break down why this is a huge red flag and how to handle it.
• Wedding Day Meltdowns – From rehearsal dinner drama to groom suite invasions and family photo hijacking, I walk through the wedding-day disasters and what could’ve been done differently.
• Boundary Advice & Protecting Your Peace – I close the episode with actionable advice on standing up for your partner, setting limits with toxic relatives, and keeping your emotional well-being front and center.

Words of Wisdom: Standout Quotes from This Episode

• “When you agree to be a bridesmaid, you’re agreeing to the bride’s vision.” 
• “Communication would’ve saved about 80% of this wedding stress.” 
• “Your wedding gifts are gifts — not emotional leverage.” 
• “You don’t get unlimited access to someone’s life just because you share DNA.”
• “If someone is competing with their child’s spouse, that’s not love, that’s control.” 
• “Protecting your peace is more important than keeping toxic people comfortable.”
• “Your wedding is not the place for someone else’s emotional meltdown.” 
• “Being family doesn’t excuse toxic behavior.” 

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Christa Innis: Hey guys. Welcome back to another episode of, Here Comes The Drama. I’m your host, Christa Innis. Thanks for being here. If it’s your first time, welcome, you are in for a drama filled episode as always,

But this week we have two long stories because we have our regular follower submission at the very end. But in the beginning we have a wedding dilemma and typically those are shorter segments where people just wanna get some quick advice for something that’s going on right now with their wedding planning or event planning.

But this one’s a little bit longer, but I decided it was a good podcast story to take on. you guys will see why, but I thought it was a good one to discuss on here. Before we dive into that, our new year giveaway has ended. So we did a new year giveaway, just to give back to you guys.

I’m excited for what’s to come this year with the podcast. so the names of our four winners have been announced on social media and then there’ll also be in our show notes below. So make sure you check down below. If you shared the podcast in any way to enter, you might be one of the winners.

Anniversary Giveaway Celebration

Now don’t worry if you missed the giveaway. If you didn’t enter or you didn’t win because we currently have our anniversary giveaway going on. that was kind of bad planning on my part, but maybe it’s good planning ’cause there’s extra winners now. So one winner will get a $150 Visa gift card, and two listeners will win a $25 Amazon gift card.

And to enter, just make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast, subscribe to my YouTube channel, and then comment, enter on this video, for the episode. So if you guys aren’t aware, all of our podcast episodes are also put on YouTube in full video. and if you just comment below, enter just needs to be in your, comment at some point so you can say, Hey, I love the color purple, my favorite food spaghetti.

That bride was crazy. And then just put entered at some point. winners will be announced on March 12th, and we will reach out to you directly, and kind of let you know the next steps to claim your prize. And of course, just to cover all my bases, I just wanna say the giveaway is not affiliated with or sponsored by YouTube, apple Podcast, Spotify, Amazon, or this is just purely outta the kindness of my heart.

No, but, just a way to give back to you guys. We’ve had an amazing year of episodes and I just can’t believe it’s already been the first year. I’m just blown away by your support and your excitement. and it just makes my day. So thank you guys so much for being here with me and listening to the episode.

Today I am drinking coffee out of my wicked mug. If you guys don’t know, if you don’t follow me on socials or see my stories on Instagram, I think I update stories a little bit more on Instagram, but you’ll see me post about my mugs. my husband got me this for Christmas this year. It’s so cute. If you’re watching the video, you can see it, but it’s like wicked.

It’s alpha on one side and Glenda on the other as I splash. Coffee in my eye. Yeah. Um, okay. Anyway, if I’m not waking up by drinking this coffee, it’ll surely wake me up by splashing it in my eye. Anyway, that was interesting. 

Wedding Dilemma Begins: “Am I Being a Bridezilla?”

Okay, let’s get into the episode. Um, okay. We’re gonna start with the wedding dilemma and the title of it.

If this doesn’t pull you in, I don’t know what will is. Am I being a bridezilla? So I thought this was interesting. I have not read through the whole thing. I did a quick little glance and I was like, Ooh, this is a podcast one. Let’s get into it. Okay. So this is a long dilemma, like I said. So we’re gonna dive into some different parts of this.

I am gonna pause at certain parts because I feel like if I wait completely to the end to respond, I’m gonna forget many of my points and I’m gonna forget what happens. So let’s dive into this together. All right. She says. All right, so I need some advice on wedding planning.

I’m getting married in 2026. I have three bridesmaids, including my maid of honor. My maid of honor is my sister. Let’s call her Anna Bridesmaid. One is Sarah and bridesmaid two is Laura. During the bridesmaids dinner, when I asked the girls to be in my bridal party, they immediately asked about dresses and if I’d been looking yet.

I told them yes and showed them what my maid of honor would be wearing. I’ll attach the photos later. They said it was beautiful and would look great on Anna. Okay, so they liked the maid of honor dress. Then they asked what their dresses would look like, so I showed them an option for the bridesmaid dresses.

Sarah completely freaked out. She told me the dress wasn’t beautiful, that it was ugly, and that it would make her look like a nun. She said she would feel uncomfortable in it and wanted to keep looking, okay, I’m gonna pause there before knowing anything. I would never react in that way. If, the bride came to me and said, what’s your opinion?

Do you like this dress? I could be like, you know what? It’s not my favorite. That’s not my style. I don’t like blank about the dress, but if it was me that said, Hey, have you started looking? And she showed me a dress and was like, here, this is what I’m kind of thinking. I’m not gonna be like, oh, I hate it.

That’s disgusting. I would look like a nun. I’d feel blah, blah, blah. And you need to keep looking like. When you are agreeing to be a bridesmaid, you have to agree to their vision, right? Yes. We don’t want you to be uncomfortable. You should wear something that makes you feel comfortable. you don’t want like a super tight dress where you can’t walk in or you don’t want something that’s gonna show cleavage if you don’t feel comfortable in that, right?

 it’s about what you are comfortable in. Yes. But ultimately you are agreeing to fit the vision for the wedding. So there’s a little bit of push and pull here. okay, so she says two days later I came up with two more dress options and showed them to the bridesmaids. So now that you’re giving them options, now you’re kind of agreeing to let them give their full opinion when you are a bride and you’re like, this is the option.

This is what we’re doing. They kind have less wiggle room. if you’re like, I haven’t really decided yet, so tell me what you like. Then you’re letting them give their opinions. Laura said she didn’t love any of the dresses, but she loved me enough to wear them for the day. She said it might not be her style, but it’s ultimately my wedding for the day.

That is the right response. That is the right response. ‘ cause let me tell you, I’ve been in tons of weddings. some I loved some, I absolutely adored and loved some. I was like, nah, I don’t think there were any at the time of wearing them that I completely hated. Looking back, I’m like, whoa, what were we doing?

But it was probably more the style. at the time of wearing them, I don’t think any of ’em I hated. but again, it’s what you kind of agreed to as being a bridesmaid. That being said, and I’ve talked about this before too, I’ve been in some weddings where the bride had no clue what she wanted.

She didn’t know the color or the style. So we all went blindly to a shop together and we kind of chose together. was it always peaceful or was it always unanimous? No, many times it was picking favorites or it was whoever’s voice was the loudest or it was voting. Right. Those are more tricky because you’re getting so many opinions.

And that’s my one piece of advice I would say to brides is before you talk to your bridesmaids, have an idea of what you want, the color, the general style, maybe a couple places, because when you don’t have an idea and you open it up to all these opinions, then it looks like you’re picking favorites.

Right. And then you have to be the. Mean person and say, no, no, no. so that’s my advice is before asking, say, these are the dresses, right? Like for me, and I’ve talked about this before, so I’m sorry if I’m repeating myself, but for me, I knew I liked Birdy Grey. Again, not sponsored, I’ve just worn them for so many weddings.

I liked Birdy Grey. I liked that you could order them online. I liked that it was all under a hundred dollars. So I said, I like all the mauve versions. I don’t care if you get light mauve, medium mauve, dark mauve, there’s even a patterned one. I was like, any of those are fine. Any style dress in the mauve family. So I knew this before even telling any of my bridesmaids.

Now again, if one of my bridesmaids came to me and said, ah, I hate the color mauve, I, I don’t know what I would’ve done. I guess it just depends on the situation. it looked great on everyone. And generally I think everyone liked their dress. So it gets tricky when you kind of open people up to that.

Right. Um, okay. Sarah, however, so this is bridesmaid one said the dress was absolutely hideous and that she would not wear it. She insisted we needed to keep looking. So now I have a problem with Sarah. Okay. I get, again, being, wanting to be comfortable in a dress, but to go off the deep end and say the dress is hideous.

We need to keep looking. It’s not your day girlfriend. Like the bride has an idea. She’s now shown you three different dresses. I think you just need to say, like, suck it up and say you’re gonna, do it for her wedding day because this is supposed to be like one of her best friends, right. After that dinner, Sarah called both Laura and my sister Anna, and tried to convince them that the dress I chose wasn’t a good option.

She wanted them to join her in pushing me to keep looking and convince me to change my mind. So she realizes the other two are easier to like get along with. So she’s like, okay, if I can convince them to tell her, then she’ll change the dress. Sorry that I keep touching my hair if anyone’s watching.

Someone commented once, like, can you not touch your hair? And I’m like, I wish. I don’t even realize I’m doing it sometimes. So sorry. anyway, so I sat the girls down and asked them what kind of dress they were hoping for. Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no. Now you’re giving them full reins. Now you’re giving them full reins.

And maybe this is the type A, I don’t know if I was a Type A bride, I probably was, I don’t know, type A B, I think I was B. I think I was a type B in some ways. Now you’re opening up all the opinions. So like, doesn’t matter what you say, they’re gonna tell you what they want. I was asking what kind of dress they were hoping for because the options I chose were normal bridesmaid dresses.

Sarah told me she wanted a dress where she could show more cleavage. She wanted it short and tight, and if it was long, she wanted it very tight. Okay.

I have no issues with a tight dress. Obviously it’s up to the bride. Right. But you want it short and tight. Typically, a bridesmaid dress is gonna be floor length. I’ve worn a lot of jumpsuits in weddings, floor length. even as a guest at a wedding, I’m not wearing a super short dress. I think maybe a couple times I have shorter.

It just depends. Everyone has their own, whatever they’re comfortable in, right? But to specifically say the bride, I want a short and tight dress. I want my cleavage showing.

Do it outta your wedding. She says, I’ve tried explaining to her, my family is very conservative and I’m trying to choose something that fits the vibe and is appropriate for the wedding. And I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a short, tight dress. again, when you are a bridesmaid and you are agreeing to be a bridesmaid in someone else’s wedding, you are fitting their vision.

You are fitting what they want for the wedding, right? You don’t get to just pick a short and tight dress for the club because you wanna look hot up there. everyone deserves to look beautiful and great. But again, we have to kind of fit what we agreed. We agreed to be in someone else’s wedding.

It’s not your wedding. 

Bridesmaid Behavior + Bachelorette Budget Chaos

All right, fast forward to planning the bachelorette party. we started sending prices in the group chat to make sure everyone could afford the trip and the activities we were discussing. Everyone agreed the prices were reasonable and we were planning to have our money in by the deposit date.

I’m guessing for like an Airbnb or something. But Sarah waited until two weeks before the deposit date was due to tell me she wouldn’t have her money until the week before the trip. She also expected me to cover her cost, even though I’m the bride. So this is a two part thing. So she waited to say she didn’t have the money, or she wouldn’t have it until a week before, but then she expected the bride to cover her cost.

So what does her not having the money have anything to do with it? If she thinks this whole time the bride’s gonna cover her cost, that’s where I’m kind of lost and confused. This is something that has to be established before all of this. You need to make it clear. ‘ cause like I said, pretty much all the bachelorette parties I’ve been a part of, we pay for the bride.

All the girls split it, so we don’t want the bride to have to pay for her own drinks or all this, but you gotta talk to your people, right? If it’s just the four of them, that can be pretty expensive, right? Whereas if you have 10 girls and you evenly split it, then they’re all not paying as much. Right. so I don’t know if there’s other people there as well.

She said when I told her normally everyone pays for their own way to the bachelorette party and the bridesmaids split the cost for the bride. She flipped out. Why is the bridesmaid just finding out about this? Because if she’s never been in a wedding before, I can’t really blame her for not knowing. And again, this is gonna differ for different friend groups.

For where you’re located country-wise, where in US or otherwise? it’s different. My friend group, like when we even go out for a birthday dinner, we’re not letting the birthday person pay birthday person birthday girl. We are splitting it. The three friends that came, we’re gonna split their meal.

That’s just how our friend group is. We do a bachelorette party trip. I’ve been on bachelorette party trips where there’s five girls. I’ve been on bachelorette parties where there’s 30 girls. get into that another time. 30 women I should say. And that was probably my first, no, that’s why my second bachelorette party and I planned the whole thing with two other people and that was probably the most stressful thing I ever planned.

But anyway, when you do that, when you have different amounts of people, it’s going to differ. But anyway, you need to let people know all of those. We always paid for the bride. We split it all. We did not want the bride paying for drinks, how to get there. any of that. My own bachelorette party, I think I was able to sneak in one round of drinks for my friends, but other than that, they took care of everything for me.

That again, you should never, as the bride, you should never assume that they’re going to pay for you, especially if you’re flying somewhere. Like you need to know your friend’s budgets. when I went on these more expensive bachelorette party trips, I was already like, mm, somewhere late twenties, somewhere.

Early thirties. Yeah. Late twenties, early thirties were the more expensive ones where I could afford a little bit more. Right. if I were in my early twenties, I don’t think I’d be able to afford these longer, longer trips. So you really have to know your audience. You have to know if they can afford it, and we can’t get mad at people when they say they can’t afford it.

She said she wouldn’t be able to afford it and that my wedding was costing her around a thousand dollars, which wasn’t fair. Full stop before I keep going and I know some people don’t like when I keep stopping, but there’s a lot to say about this. That’s a lot of money to a lot of people. A thousand dollars to put into a wedding is a lot.

And she is now communicating to you, I can’t afford this. So at it’s our job at that point as the bride to say, do we need to tone back the bachelorette party? Can I help cover some of her? I don’t think it’s completely like black and white. I don’t think it’s like, well, she’s a bridesmaid so she has to pay her way.

I’ve talked about this before. When I was a bridesmaid, I had a couple bridesmaids reach out to me, or it was a maid of honor. I had a couple bridesmaids reach out to me and say, I don’t think I can afford this. and it was a local one ’cause they had other bachelorette parties, they had other vacations planned and I said, what can you afford?

I’ll cover the rest. I said, maybe don’t come one of the nights. maybe, we’ll, let me see what discount I can get at the hotel. So I tried as the maid of honor to do other things. Okay, so she says, what I wanna point out is that I, the bride have already purchased a lot for them, including their wedding shoes, their jewelry, the pajamas we get ready in.

All the bachelorette party favors, all the decorations. Okay? This is where I’m gonna get, like think I am a against the bride in this, You purchasing bachelorette party decorations and favors is not their problem. That is a gift, Pajamas for them to get ready in is not their problem. That is also a gift.

I got gifts for my bridesmaids. I would never be like, I did this for you, so you owe me, you can spend more money at my bachelorette party because I did this for you. No, those were gifts. You don’t need matching pajamas. You don’t need bachelorette party favors and you don’t need decorations. Are they great?

Are they nice? Yes. Did I have ’em at mine? Yes. Did I have them at most of the perpetual art parties I went to? Yes, absolutely. But it’s not the bridesmaids problem if you spent more Right? That does not take away from the fact that she is still spending around a thousand dollars to be a a part of your wedding.

 I absolutely don’t think you are the bridezilla, when it comes to the dress situation. So far what I’ve read, but this part, if she’s coming to you and saying, I can’t afford it, she have waited until two weeks before? Of course not. But it seems like there’s some communication issue between the two of you guys.

She didn’t realize that she was expected to cover her way, and also that you were expecting all the bridesmaids to chip in and pay for her. So this needs to be established. She said, I’m also basically planning my own bachelorette party because my maid of honor lives in Miami and won’t be there for the first night.

During all of this, Sarah and Laura also texted in the bachelorette group chat that they wanted to go skydiving, which would be $359 per person. Okay. I might have to take back some of what I said, but at the same time, they didn’t have enough money to pay for the trip deposit on time, so now wait. So they both didn’t have enough money, and they said they couldn’t even put aside $10 for one of my meals because the stress is becoming so overwhelming.

I eventually stopped bringing up the bachelorette party bridesmaids dresses and other wedding related details. Here’s the thing, if I was hearing from multiple people in my wedding party, they couldn’t afford the deposit or they couldn’t afford certain things, I would tone it back. I don’t know if they’re flying anywhere.

I don’t know if they’re renting a house, but it sounds like, okay, maid of honor can’t make it there the first night. Maybe we just take out the first night. Maybe we make it two nights instead of three or whatever they’re doing. Right. Maybe we take out something, let’s work together to see how we can make it work.

I am typically, the bride is not involved in planning, but it sounds like, I’m not hearing any of their names or any of their bridesmaids. So it sounds like it’s just the four of them. So I get why she’s very involved. but there’s again, a lot of communication. Um, it’s hard. It’s, it’s like we have to remember when people are going to our bachelorette, they’re also taking off vacation days.

They’re taking time away from their families. They’re spending money away, so they also are gonna wanna do things they enjoy. This is where I think. Bridesmaids plan away from the bride and then they surprise you. But we also need to, work together on the budget. Okay, guys, this is still going.

Hair & Makeup Debate

There’s, there’s a lot. There’s a lot going on. So I’m saying like this is the longest dilemma, but I feel like it was one that really needed to be discussed. Okay. Later hair and makeup came up. The bridesmaids asked if I was going to pay for them to get their hair and makeup done. I told them no. If they would like to hire the makeup artist, they are welcome to pay for it themselves, but I won’t be paying for everyone.

I told them I want the bridesmaids to have minimal makeup and curled hair while I, the bride will have more extravagant makeup and hair. When I explained this to Sarah, she told me she wanted to do her own hair however she wanted, and wear her makeup however she wanted. I understand. Wanting to feel comfortable and I’m.

Really not trying to be selfish, but at the same time, it’s my wedding. All right? I need a sip of coffee for this one.

I’m not gonna lie in reading this alone, I kept moving side to side of like whose side or whose team I was on. Okay? First and foremost, if you are not requiring hair and makeup to be done, you do not have to pay for it as the bride. this is my own personal take. You do not need to pay for it. If you are saying everyone needs their hair and makeup done, you should be paying for it.

 I recommend brides, even if they’re not gonna be paying for everyone to get their hair and makeup done. Reach out to all your brides and bridesmaids and groomsmen, whoever would want hair and makeup, whatever parents. See who all wants it. Done. If you have a good chunk of people that want it done, you should hire a makeup artist and a hair person.

That’s not saying you’re paying for it, but that’s saying you have someone there on site. if you’re not requiring it and no one wants to pay for it, then they should be able to do it themselves how they want to. if you are telling them a certain way to do their hair and their makeup, you should be paying for it.

I don’t know. Is that a hot take? Because now you’re telling them that they have to either tone it down or tone it up from what they normally do. Maybe they don’t know how to curl their hair, so they need someone hired. So you’re telling them You want it a specific way. So I think in that case in point, you should probably pay for it.

Sarah is saying, I’m willing to do my hair and makeup, but I wanna do it how I’m comfortable doing it. I’m sorry, I’m with Sarah in this moment. If I’m a part of a wedding and I’m being told, Hey, you have to do your hair this way and your makeup this way, I’ll try my best. Sure. I’m not gonna be like rude about it, but, everyone has their own like talents and how they’re comfortable with doing hair and makeup, so I kind of go back and forth on this one.

I don’t think you’re being a bridezilla of course, but I don’t think we can control too much about how people do their hair and makeup. You can say like, oh, I don’t want bright red lipstick. Sure. but to say minimal makeup. Then you get extravagant. it’s kinda lost on me. ‘ cause I think you should want your bridesmaid to look just as beautiful.

Have them do full glam if they want, have them do their hair how they want. It’s not like she’s, I mean, maybe she is, but it’s not like she’s trying to like do space buns with like, glitter all over it. I mean, I’m sure, hopefully not, but unless that’s her vibe. so I get having some, hey, like, I really want everyone to do an updo.

Sure. I really want everyone to do loose curls. Okay, sure. But when you get too specific about what everyone should look like, that’s when I gets kind of lost on me. Okay. Next one. This is the last little issue. About a week later, the dress conversation came back up again. Sarah told me her budget for the dress and her daughter’s dress is $200 total.

I guess her daughter’s in the wedding or coming to the wedding. This is the first I’m hearing of the daughter. Her daughter’s dress is $35, meaning the remaining budget for her own dress would be around 165. The dress I found for her is $90. She told me it was too expensive, so I showed her another option for 65, but she said there was quote, no way in hell she would wear that dress to my wedding because it would make her uncomfortable.

So I’m guessing that was the first one. Sarah has been my best friend for seven years, but at this point I don’t know what to do. Wouldn’t a best friend be willing to wear a dress for six hours for my wedding, even if it’s not their favorite style Or am I being extra and selfish?

Also, am I being selfish about the hair and makeup expectations? Is that me being too controlling? it’s not that I’m worried she’s going to take the spotlight, but Sarah likes being the center of attention and the day isn’t about her. Do I sound selfish? Am I being a bridezilla?

All right. So obviously I’ve shared my points throughout this, but let me do the dress budget thing. this is gonna depend if Sarah’s daughter is in the wedding as the bride, I would be paying for the daughter’s dress. We paid for any of the kids that were in our wedding, we paid for them. if not, I mean, you can say your budget is a certain amount, but if like you wanna stick a little bit lower, that’s her own choice.

Right. Okay. So let me ask, answer your questions. Wouldn’t a best friend be willing to wear a dress for six hours for my wedding, even if it’s not their favorite style? Yes, absolutely. You are not being extra or selfish about that. I think you need to tell ’em straight up, this is the dress I chose, wear it or don’t.

I don’t know. I would wear it for my best friends. They could tell me to put on a brown paper bag and I would wear it, because it’s their day, right? So, I don’t know. I do not think you’re being extra selfish or bridezilla for that. Am I being selfish about the hair and makeup expectations? Is that me being too controlling?

I would say yes a little bit. I think you are being a little too controlling about that. Like I said, if you are hiring a makeup artist and paying for it, then you can control how the hair and makeup is done. If you are hiring a makeup artist and they are paying for it, or they are doing it themselves, you gotta just let them do it.

That is my own personal opinion. someone else may have a different one, but I think you’ve gotta let them do what they’re gonna do. You can again, give guidelines, but that’s it. she says, it’s not that I’m worried she’s gonna take the spotlight, but Sarah lives being the center of attention.

Here is my problem about that statement. You already see an issue here. Why are we worried our friend is going to take attention away from us? It says, I’m not worried, but she likes being the center of attention.

No matter how she gets her hair and makeup done, she will not be the center of attention. And that’s not gonna add to it. Someone trying to be the center of attention is gonna be louder or, move around a certain way. I don’t know. Right? Trying to take away from you. And if you’re worried about that, she’s probably already not a good friend to you.

‘ cause most friends are gonna wanna lift you up. Either supporting you, help you in any way, right? allowing her to do her hair and makeup, how she wants it to. Giving her full glam how she wants it to, that’s not going to take away from you. Everyone’s gonna know you’re the bride. So I would say pull back the reins a little bit on that.

Let them do what they want, but be more firm with the dresses. Say the next time the dresses come up, say, okay, you know what, gimme a week guys. I’m gonna finalize it and then I will let you know what dress we need to order, okay? and just be clear on that. Now, I think the wedding is coming up pretty soon, so if you haven’t already ordered the dresses, you’re probably gonna wanna order them soon.

I will message you that, because by the time this comes out, it might be a little bit closer to the date. I think it’s gonna come out a month from recording this. So I’m gonna let you know my points directly. I would be very clear, all right, I looked over all these dresses, this is what I decided.

Because right now you’re giving them too many options and you’re allowing them to give their opinions. So if you don’t want them to give their opinions, tell them this is the option. here’s the website you can choose from A, B, or C. By next week. Let me know what you picked. If by next week they haven’t picked the dress, or they haven’t ordered the dress, you say like, Hey, we need to order it by this date.

Do you still wanna be a part of this wedding? then let them know. And for anyone listening now, that is like in these beginning stages of planning their wedding, communication, communication, communication. In the very beginning when you ask to be a part of the wedding, tell them what the expectations are.

Say hi. Just letting you guys know. we are gonna have a bachelorette party. Typically, that means like bridesmaids cover it. Please let me know your budget. we can talk about it, at a later date, but I just wanna make sure like you guys know, this is the expectation. It’s really important to be clear.

 especially when friends are from different groups, they might all do it differently, and I don’t think it should ever be an expectation without communicating that they’re gonna pay for you. For me personally, it was more important that a certain friend could make it to my bachelorette party or to my wedding than being able to afford something.

So if someone came to me and they were like, I can’t afford to get my dress, I’d be like, well, Can I pay for it? How can I help? And again, your gifts that you got, the bridesmaids as extra or the bachelorette party decorations or gift bags. Has nothing to do with their own personal budget.

That’s something extra that you wanted to give them as a gift. So that has to remain as a gift. That’s not a string attached. All right. I hope that helps. I know that was a lot, but I really hope that helps and I hope you guys have an amazing rest of your wedding experience and wedding planning. And, I’ll be sure to reach out my direct comments to you, she did send me pictures of the dresses, but for her own privacy, I’m not gonna share them on here because I don’t want her, bridesmaids to know.

 but yeah, that’s my own personal take. I mean, looking at the dresses myself, I think they look, yeah, maybe they’re a little more conservative, but I don’t see anything wrong with them. I think they’re perfectly acceptable and beautiful dresses. and.

I take that back. No, they’re gorgeous dresses. I would absolutely wear these as a bridesmaid. the first one looks a little more conservative, but I think it’s still gorgeous. It’s very cute. It’s without showing the picture. It’s like an off the shoulder. sure it’s up a little higher, but it’s off the shoulder, which is sexy.

 and it’s a perfectly good length. It’s like a little longer. The other one is off the shoulder and shows a little leg. So totally sexy. Totally a cute dress. I think I would wear it. So there’s that. Again, I’m not the end all be all when it comes to, Opinions and dresses. That’s just my own personal opinion.

All right, guys, that was just the wedding dilemma. We’ve still got a lot more drama to dive into. All right. Again, if you have a wedding 911 or a wedding dilemma you want me to, talk about on the podcast, which I do these on my solo episodes, you can email me at hello@christainnis.com. Use the subject line wedding 911.

Would You Rather: Wedding Edition

All right. Before we get to this week’s line reaction, we’re gonna do a little would you rather,

all right. Would you rather a relative live stream, your ceremony or post unapproved photos immediately? as long as it’s after the ceremony. I would say post unapproved photos. I don’t need to approve every photo livestream. The ceremony feels a little invasive to me because if you weren’t invited to be a part of the ceremony, I don’t want everybody seeing that, and I don’t know where that is or that is on Facebook.

Do people live stream weddings on Facebook? No. No, thank you. would you rather be guilt tripped into inviting someone or deal with the fallout for not inviting them? Deal with the fallout if they were not on my original list to invite, that’s because they weren’t close enough to me. Oh. I would will say a couple years later, I do have some regrets of people I did not invite, but no one ever guilt tripped me for inviting them or not.

I just thought about it later and I was like, I kinda wish I would’ve invited them. But what can you now, okay. Would you rather have an empty dance floor or dance floor chaos with injuries? Ooh, what kind of injuries are we talking about? I hate an empty dance floor. I despise an empty dance floor.

Why have a dance floor if no one is on it? The best weddings I’ve ever been to is when there’s a packed dance floor. Maybe some people fall. I don’t know. We got heels on, so that’s why you take ’em off. I’m gonna say injuries, praying and hoping they are minor injuries. Like maybe someone just falls in their butt and they have to like sit down and sit out for a little bit.

Empty dance floor. No thank you. I don’t wanna be to an event where there’s an empty dance floor. when my husband and I went to our first wedding together, I knew he was the one because no, this is just me being, funny. my family, when we were at weddings, we were all on the dance floor all night long.

You can see my mom, my parents are on the dance floor. my cousin, like we aunts and uncles, we are all on the dance floor. So, when I went to the first wedding with my husband and his family, they were the same way. I was like, yes, I have a fun. Fun in-law, like family to go into at that point we’d only been dating like six months, so I wasn’t thinking about weddings yet, but, you need a crowded dance floor.

Anyway, that was a long side story. Would you rather seat exes together or seat feuding relatives together?

This sounds like a familiar one I did before, but whatever. I think I’d rather seat exes together because I think in general, and this might be just my own perspective, i think relatives that are feuding goes a little bit deeper, right? That’s gonna hurt a little bit more. Someone knows how to get under their skin.

Exes. I think it goes one of two ways. They either know how to completely ignore each other at that point ’cause they’re just done. or they can just like banter and just be like, you’re an idiot. I don’t know. Or if you read enough romance, comedy, romantic comedy books, maybe they’ll just vibe that night and have like a little, little fling for the night.

 Okay. Would you rather a guest bring someone you hate or not show up at all? Not show up at all. I don’t want someone I hate at my wedding. Would you rather have people RUP yes and not show or RUP no and show up?

Professionally speaking, I would say yes and not show up. But as a bride, if it’s someone I invited that I was like kind of bummed that they weren’t coming and then they just showed up, I’d be like, oh my God, you’re here. What a nice surprise. After the fact, after we eat dinner and stuff, would you rather cut decor or cut the open bar?

Cut decor. We need the open bar. Thank you. Would you rather go cheap on flowers or go cheap on food? Cheap on flowers. I used a friend’s, I don’t know, silk flowers and they looked great. I would not go cheap on food, but we did go cheap or on food. I did not do a full plated thing that was like $200 a plate.

We did a taco buffet, taco bar, and then we had late night snack of pizza. Yes, and I got married in my thirties. 

The Mother-in-Law Red Flags

All right, here we go guys. Who is ready? Holy macaroni. This is a long, all right, let’s get comfortable guys. Pour a glass of wine, get a cup of coffee, whatever time of day it is. Whatever you drink, buckle your seat belts.

Let’s dive in. Let me start by saying that overall the wedding was absolutely beautiful, truly something out of a storybook. I had an incredible support system that worked hard to keep almost all the chaos away from my husband and me on the day itself. We started dating about five years ago, and the very first time I met his mother, just one month into our relationship, she talked extensively about her pregnancy and about me eventually carrying his kids.

Whoa. One month in I’d be like, okay, it’s a little, a little much. That would’ve scared me away. It was a strange thing to say to someone you’ve just met, but it didn’t stop from there. She continued to bring it up every chance she got when we decided to move in together, she invited herself to stay with us for a week.

How, how does that happen a week? Who is not talking to her? Your husband is not telling her, no mom, this is ridiculous. Get out. How does that happen? That week caused so much chaos between my husband and me. That was their first place living together and she ruined it. Your first week living together is like so exciting, but also scary ’cause you’re like, okay, am I gonna learn these weird habits?

Are we gonna like mesh well? And then you’re like, this is like a fun, well at least for me it was, it was like a fun sleepover. I’m like, oh my gosh, we never have to leave. Oh my gosh, this is so fun. imagine if their mom was there. That would kill the vibe. Okay. Why did he say no? I have so many questions.

I ended up breaking down crying in a target parking lot because of her antics. Later that same evening, she had him crawling inside a trash compactor and refused to let us back into the car until he did it. What? For the next three years, it was an exhausting and toxic cycle. She terrorized my husband, my family, and me.

Eventually we bought our home and decided to host Thanksgiving instead of splitting the holidays among four sets of divorced parents. Both of our parents are divorced, but only mine get along something his mother despises and frequently comments on because she can’t do it herself.

Oh my gosh. I still have so many questions about that first week of her just moving in and welcoming herself. Why did your husband not say anything? I’m just very like my space kind of thing. So like when I invite people, I want more the merrier. I love combining friends and groups. Like just all come one, come on and come all, but don’t show up unannounced.

And don’t expect you can like, make, stay and don’t extend that. Stay. Like if you ask me, I’m like, yeah, we’re, I’m more than willing to help. But like when I read stuff like that, I’m like, oh my gosh, it’s terrible. The first Thanksgiving was manageable despite a few fits. A year later, we decided to host again.

This time we were engaged. The FaceTime call to tell her about the engagement was memorable. So was the mom not at. Oh, she was saying she FaceTimed before this. Okay. She spent the entire call showing us the shoes she had picked out for the wedding, and repeatedly saying that she was the first to know he was going to propose.

In reality, I was with him when we picked out and bought the ring and he called my parents first to ask for their permission, then his dad and finally his mom to let her know he was planning to propose. He proposed in May and by Thanksgiving we already had the venue dress photographer and possibly catering booked.

You go girl. When Thanksgiving rolled around, she arrived in a foul mood, furious that my parents were already there and complaining that she wanted alone time with us. We had explicitly told her a month prior that Thanksgiving would be a family affair, and that if she wanted alone time, she should come by after the holiday.

Completely respectable. Completely normal. She has a huge fear of missing out and insisted on coming anyway, and then demanded alone time. Once she arrived to accommodate her, I took my parents to visit the wedding venue the next day so she could spend alone time with her son. Despite this, she spent the entire week throwing tantrums, so she stayed with them again a week for Thanksgiving.

What’s going on here? On Thanksgiving Day, she packed her bags and threatened to leave. The following day, she attacked my mother so badly that my parents ended up getting in their car and leaving shees. Once my parents were gone, we sat down and had a long conversation agreeing to a clean slate and a fresh start.

Ooh. Despite finally having alone time, she claimed to want to move her flight up an entire day and left early after that, unless we reached out. There was complete radio silence until her husband went to the hospital and had his leg amputated. Wow. Okay. We flew out as soon as we could, but by then he was in hospice and she was actively planning his funeral while sitting beside him.

Wait, I wanna pause for a second before I get into that. Why was she so mad about Thanksgiving? They said it was a family thing, but she wanted alone time, but she refused to come early or stay late, so then she wanted to leave early. I think I’m missing something here. Okay.

Back at the hospital. Now while we were there, so my husband could say goodbye to his stepfather, who played a huge role in his life. She brought friends into the room to question us about the wedding. What now is the time when her husband is dying? She brings friends to question you about your wedding.

We repeatedly told them this wasn’t the time or the place, but they wouldn’t stop. Who are these people she hired? Because I don’t believe this woman has friends that would do this. I mean, maybe, I don’t know, but that’s just so odd to me. He passed later that week and the funeral was scheduled for a month later at the service.

Countless people, many of whom my husband didn’t even know, came up to congratulate us and said they couldn’t wait to attend the wedding. What you do this like create a bulletin board or post it on Facebook and tell all her friends the date. This is wild.

She also invited his ex-girlfriend and her now husband to the funeral and spent most of her time with them. I thought she was gonna say she invited the ex-girlfriend to the wedding, but still, despite previously insisting they hadn’t spoken in years. That’s weird for the ex-girlfriend. Why are you showing up?

Like it’s good to pay your respects but also like maybe you can just like send a card to the mail, send flowers. I don’t know. We later found out they’d also been visiting the hospice, but only when we weren’t there at the lunch afterward. It was just us, his mother, his step sibling, and their spouse. his mother used that moment to ask my husband if she was still the most important woman in his life.

No. Why are we doing this? why are we doing this? Do you feel like there’s a competition between your son’s fiance, Lord have mercy. You are in two different brackets, not even in the same field. Why? Why? When he said no, that I was, she launched into attacking him. Don’t we want our kids to be happy?

This is just like mind blowing to me. When he told her it wasn’t the time or the place she turned on me. I told her the same thing. This wasn’t appropriate. We had already addressed things before and she was the one continuing the behavior. We got up and left. Good for you. That’s setting a boundary saying I’m not, I’m not gonna entertain this tantrum right now.

Wedding Week Meltdowns

Five months later, wedding week arrived. Oh my gosh. Or just already wedding week. I don’t know if I could invite someone like that, but again, I’ve never been in a position where I had a toxic parent or in-law like that, throws tantrums and asks their son if they’re the most important woman still in their life.

Her dress had already been a battle. She chose every color except the one we asked for. So she would match the family even after being told she stand out negatively. She ultimately chose a dress nearly identical to my bridesmaid.

See, and again, I don’t think there’s a problem. I don’t think most parents of the brighter groom would do that if you get along with them, if they have a similar color or style. I don’t think that’s a problem, but you can tell she probably did it. As a way to be like, look at me. I’m in the wedding party.

She and another family member spent the three days leading up to the wedding, calling and harassing my husband. why are they be invited still? I would have security out front. Have you seen this woman? She’s not allowed in here demanding alone time and more involvement. Why does she need to demand alone time?

If you need to demand alone time with anybody, you’re not, as important to them as you think. You don’t have to demand alone time. We had already offered them the rehearsal dinner at a sendoff brunch, but they complained they couldn’t afford it. We canceled the brunch and his father stepped in to plan and pay for the rehearsal.

At the rehearsal, they harassed my bridesmaid by repeatedly asking which groomsmen had been inside her.

What? This is so inappropriate.

This mom seems like a creep. I’m sorry. That is so weird to me. And we’re saying they, so it’s her and another family member. Who is this other family member? Is it a sister? Is it a uncle, a brother, a cousin. Like this is so weird and pestering her. Pestering the bridesmaid about who she should go home with.

It got so bad she moved tables, but they followed her and continued I’d be kicking ’em out during my father-in-law’s speech interruptions and shouting continued because they were upset. Certain people weren’t mentioned. That’s at the rehearsal Dinner. Lord have mercy. On the wedding day, she asked his family to arrive when the chapel opened and reserved front row seats.

So they’re there hours early putting their coats down. This is my seat. It’s reserved. His mother threw a fit when the usher offered to show her to her seat, shouting that she wasn’t being allowed to see her son. My mother stepped in, calmly to explain things, but his mother complained about sitting near her ex and demanded a different row.

Come on, if you can’t sit for 30 minutes during a ceremony, you shouldn’t be there. When my husband went to greet her before returning to get ready, she followed him into the groom suite and slammed the barn door so hard. She broke the shelves next to it. I was supposed to be escorted into that suite for lineup, but when the door opened, she was standing there.

I immediately turned around and went back to my room as I would too. This is insane. Holy cow. This is a grown toddler. This is what happens when people aren’t told no. When they’re kids, they become entitled, rude and mean adults that don’t understand boundaries. This is it. This is wild. The ceremony itself was beautiful.

During family photos, she repeatedly pulled my husband, wait, I wanna stop. The ceremony itself was beautiful. Okay. I’m glad she was able to like, hold her shit for a minute and not do anything wild. so we’re gonna pause on that. I’m really glad she, the bride in the groom were able to have a beautiful ceremony and enjoy themselves.

All right, back to the drama. During family photos, she repeatedly pulled my husband away from me, and the photographer had to stop her multiple times. She also followed the other family members demanding to be included in their photos and made an extremely inappropriate comment to one of them. where’s the line?

Because it’s been crossed so many times. It’s gotta be like, we’re at 20 times now. at what point do we kick someone out like this?this is literally just a energy sucker like this. She’s a vampire. She’s literally just taking all the positive vibes and energy outta the room. I feel so bad for couples that get married with someone like this because they’re quite literally taking all the joy outta the day.

Like, I’m glad they had their beautiful ceremony, but this woman is exhausting to just read about. I can’t even imagine having to witness her in person complaining about everything, making everything about herself. Nothing is good enough. she’s competing with the new wife. Like, come on.

Throughout the reception, she shot us dirty looks and interrogated guests about why they were invited when we were leaving, she approached me not to apologize, but to discuss gift logistics. Gift logistics. What does that mean? I told her it was a tomorrow problem and walked away. Early in our relationship, I had no backbone.

That changed after she attacked my mother. Since then, I had no issue standing up to her. I later learned she deliberately blocked doors during cleanup, refusing to help because she said she’d been told she wasn’t needed. 

Post-Wedding Fallout and Boundary Advice

A few days later, I posted sneak peeks photos of my husband and me, my parents, my bridesmaids, and one with his dad.

The next morning, another family member sent my husband vicious messages saying we shouldn’t have invited them at all. We had debated revoking their imitations, but decided to give them one last chance.

So why is a family member sending the husband mean things, saying they shouldn’t have been invited?

Are we talking about the mom and her? Whatever family member is being awful. Okay. It’s been a month since the wedding and people are still telling me new stories about their behavior. Since those messages, we haven’t heard from them at all.

Okay. I don’t know who his other family member is. I’m guessing it’s the one that was like teaming up with the mom being rude to the bridesmaid. they were just saying, oh, we shouldn’t have been invited because she didn’t post pictures with them. That’s what I’m kind of getting from it. This was longer than I intended, but honestly it was cathartic.

There’s so much more that’s happened, but those were the major highlights, especially leading up to the wedding. Here’s hoping there’s a lot less contact by the time we try for kids. I would say no contact. I’m not a no contact person, obviously, like I can only speak from my own personal experience, I shouldn’t say I’m not a no contact person.

I believe if you and your gut are fully uncomfortable or people seem dangerous around you, or people are constantly putting you down and you don’t be around them, no contact, absolutely low or no contact. What I meant is like, I’m not always just telling people like, no contact, no contact. This story. If you are bringing kids into the mix, it’s only gonna get worse.

It’s gonna get 10 times worse because people like this feel like kids are not people. They feel like they also have more of a right to them because it’s their DNA, right? So it’s her son’s DNA in this child. So they feel like they have more of a right to them. I’ve heard so many horror stories about grandparents.

Again, I’m very lucky that my in-laws and my parents are not like this. so I’m gonna keep reiterating like I’m not speaking from personal experience. But before this, before what I do now, I worked for a mom and baby company and I managed a Facebook group of moms over 50,000 moms. And I would hear wild stories of how toxic in-laws or toxic parents would come in and say things to their grandkids.

They would try to show up at the hospital room. They would just be aggressive. So think all these things, but worse with kids. so I would definitely get on the same page with your husband. It sounds like he is now, but early on I’m like, why is he letting the mom stay with you guys for a week? What’s going on here?

 and get on the same page about boundaries with kids. Okay? If we’re gonna have kids, are we gonna let people in the hospital room? Are we gonna let visitors come by the first couple weeks? Are we gonna let your mom watch the baby? I would say no. and you need to follow some accounts that are really good about showcasing this and showcasing boundaries.

But, hey, it’s Janelle Marie is a really good one. She talks about like toxic, in-laws when you have kids and like setting up those boundaries. But one thing that she said, I’m gonna butcher how she exactly said it, but she said something about, if you can’t respect me as a person, why should I allow my child near you?

Grandparents like that trying to get rights to the kids. And it’s like, well if you’re not gonna respect me, their mother or you talk badly about the mother, you have no access to this child. So hoping you guys are able to maybe even get therapy though, the two of you guys to kind of figure out what boundaries you need to set.

But I can say from personally, someone talking to me like this and acting this way on my wedding day would have very low, if not no contact with me. ‘ cause she just took all this joy. She cannot stand that you are more important to your husband than she is. And so she was seeing what she could do to take from that joy.

So the best thing to do. Show her how happy you guys are. Show that you pay no mind to her drama and keep that contact low, but your husband has to be on the same page because if you say no contact, and then he’s still sneaking off and seeing her. I don’t know if he was, I’m not trying to make stuff up, but that can cause an issue, right?

So you need to be on the same page, especially if you want to have kids together. Alright guys, that was a lot. If there’s updates, I’m gonna reach out to her and see if there’s any updates and we can kind of talk more about that. But you guys just, I cannot say this enough, get on the same page with your partner.

So many times I feel like it’s hard because when it is that person’s parent, they see them from a different viewpoint. but it also helps when their spouse or their partner is like, Hey, they acted this way towards me. They treated me this way because you now need to stand up for your partner. you chose to marry them, right?

So you need to. Stand up for that partner and set healthy boundaries. If someone keeps crossing the line, we don’t have to invite them to the wedding. she sounds very toxic, very hurtful. and just kind of gross. That’s gross behavior. That’s all I have to say about that. All right. Lemme know what you guys think in the comments.

All right, here we go. Now let’s get into some weekly confessions and then that’s all we got for you this week. this was a long episode you guys, I kinda lose track of when I started recording. Okay. Confessions, DIY confessions editions. What went wrong? What fell apart? What do you wish you hired out instead?

I remember the years of DIY weddings. I mean, I think they’re still kind of there, but I was a part of, and I helped with a lot of DIY weddings. Some were turned out great, some turned out actually absolutely beautiful. We were so exhausted by the actual wedding day. and you don’t always save a lot of money.

You think you’re gonna save a lot of money, but you don’t always. Alright. I did flowers for my brother. They were beautiful, but now I want to do more. Oh, that’s a good one. I love that. Hey, maybe you can start a side business. Maybe you should do that. If you enjoy doing flowers, so many brides would hire out for that.

 the flowers that I borrowed from a friend, she, I think spent, I don’t know, we both were talking about like, she got married six months before me. Her quote was like four or $5,000 per flowers. My quote that I got was like three or four, and I was like, I just can’t. Uh, flowers are not that important to me.

So she made these silk flowers. She ordered silk flowers, and then she made the bouquets and they were gorgeous. I’ll try sharing a picture on social media at some point. never thought I would do fake flowers in a million years. in fact, when my mom brought up fake flowers, I rolled my eyes. I rolled my eyes, and now I’m eating my words because they turned out great and I saved $4,000.

So you should start a business. I let my sister be the dj. Our first dance had a short ad in the middle of the song. Yeah. I didn’t know.

 ads played in the middle of the song. That’s when it’s worth, if you’re saving money on a dj, at least pay for ad free music.

Our DJ was the worst. He showed up an hour late and didn’t bring a microphone and played music like the Thriller. I don’t even like Michael Jackson. We should have just used a playlist. yeah. Was this actually a DJ or did you just find someone like on Craigslist? No offenses to Craigslist, DJs just saying, yeah, let’s make sure they’re in actual like business before hiring them.

I ended up looking like a zombie on my wedding day due to stress. This is what I was just talking about. I’ve done a couple of DIY weddings where it’s like all hands on deck. We’re up super early in the morning, super late at night. I was a bridesmaid for a couple of them. By the time the wedding comes, you are just exhausted and you wanna be in bed by 9:00 PM but it’s not possible.

So that was one thing, like when I got married, I was like, I don’t want my bridesmaid to feel like they’re working for me. I want them to be up there as like royalty, part of the squad, So that’s hard. You kind of have a, do your checks and balances of what’s most important for you.

Okay. last one made my own invitations. And looking back it looked hideous invitations. There’s such a span of invitations. I know people that spent thousands on invitations and I was like, that’s not my thing. You can literally go to Canva again, not sponsored. You can go to Canva and there’s like pre-designed ones and you can like change out names and stuff and just get them printed.

I think I did, uh, not Zola, Zola, Zola. You can order invitations through. I did that. They beautifully designed ones and you just kinda like type it in. And then I just moved stuff around. You can save money invitations and just do one of those. You can do Zazzle for invitations. I’ve done Zazzle for a lot of things.

 yeah, you just have to like be really know your strengths and know your talents and then things that you’re not the best at either hire out, ask a friend for advice. There’s a lot of helpful things out there. It’s just a quick little Google search.

 All right. That’s all we got for this week. Thank you guys for hanging out with me. I know this was a long episode, but you guys love the drama. I wanna know what your guys’ take is on the first episode or first story for sure. I mean, just gimme your take on everything, but especially that first one with Bridezilla.

I wanna help this bride. Is she being a bridezilla? What things would you tone back? What do you agree with? What do you disagree with? are her bridesmaids being a little too much? Are they being a little too picky? Sharing the comments below. if you are listening to the podcast on your phone, you can go to YouTube.

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