toxic bride behavior

“He never proposed… but she booked the wedding anyway.”

In this week’s wild submission, a bride schedules her own wedding without a proposal, spirals into a blackout reception meltdown, and leaves her guests walking out before sunset. But that’s not even the biggest twist.

Then, I dive into a complicated bridesmaid fallout during a real-life family crisis and ask the hard question: where do boundaries end and empathy begin? This solo episode is messy, dramatic, and full of hard lessons.

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Must-Hear Insights and Key Moments

• Booked Without a Proposal – A bride schedules her wedding date without her partner’s knowledge… and chaos follows from there.
• The Blackout Reception Meltdown – Guests leave by 6PM after the bride spirals, curses people out, and blames everyone else.
• Vendor Money Mystery – Thousands were “paid”… except the vendors never received it.
• Sibling Jealousy Showdown – A bride faces pressure to make her unsupportive sister maid of honor.
• Missing Cousin, Bridesmaid Fallout – A heartbreaking family situation collides with wedding deadlines and communication breakdowns.
• When Weddings Expose True Dynamics – From control issues to emotional manipulation, the red flags were loud.
• Would You Rather? Wedding Edition – Exes, divorced parents, awkward photos… we’re choosing chaos or calm.

Words of Wisdom: Standout Quotes from This Episode

• “If you’re already struggling, marriage and kids are not going to fix it.”
• “Just because someone is family doesn’t mean they automatically get a spot in your wedding.”
• “Be really firm on what you want and surround yourself with people who are going to love you and support you.”
• “You cannot expect people to fund a wedding you can’t afford.” 
• “Nice people without boundaries get walked all over.”
• “Other people’s lives don’t stop just because you’re getting married.”

*This conversation is for entertainment and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Please seek a licensed professional for your specific situation.

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Christa Innis: Hey guys. Welcome back to another episode of, Here Comes The Drama. I’m your host, Christa Innis, and one of these days I’m going to post and share a completely full of blooper episode where I don’t redo it a million times before starting. You know, you guys hear like the fully edited version. So I think a lot of times people think like it’s scripted or I plan it out, but no, I record and stop so many times because sometimes I just jumble over my words. Um, same with skits. Like I, I think sometimes people think I have a fully scripted out, like storyline, but half the time I’m just seeing what comes out and seeing what happens. Um, so I have to rerecord a lot. I don’t have. A camera on me at all times though, to catch all these wild bloopers that come up.

Especially when I record on like TikTok or certain platforms, I have to like just go back and erase. Um, ’cause one time someone was like, can you post your bloopers? And I’m like, girl, those are deleted. Those are long gone. But maybe one of these days I will. Um, it’s something I need to get over of just like that perfectionist side of like sounding good.

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Wedding Dilemma Begins: Sister vs. Maid of Honor

All right, starting off, we are gonna do wedding dilemmas.

So this one was actually sent to me on my phone, so I’m gonna read it on here. Currently. Now when this comes out, this skit will probably be over, but if you remember, the bride, Brielle’s family doesn’t like the groom. Um, a quick little synopsis is the girl gets engaged to Grant. It’s Bri, Brielle and Grant.

They get engaged and, um, their, when she, when they tell the family, they kind of just look at them like, okay, whatever. And they move on from it. Right now the part one was inspired by a story that was sent to me and I read it on YouTube, but um, then I just kinda went wild with it because there was literally only one little section that was sent to me and I just kinda went crazy with all these side stories anyway, so, um.

The girl, someone messaged me, obviously she’ll stay anonymous, but the woman that messaged me said she had a very similar situation going on. So this family in this story that was sent to me, they just were not supportive. They were calling, um, Grant, the groom lazy because he moved in with her and quit his job, meanwhile also going to school and getting a new job.

But they just did not think that he was good enough for her. Because of the job he had or what he was doing with his life. And they were just so, um, they spoke so negatively about him and they were just rude to her about wanting to get engaged to him. So obviously they had their own issues. Um, in this skit obviously I add a lot of extra drama. But anyway, here is what the current dilemma, she says, I have a similar situation going on. My sister didn’t congratulate me either. She only did after my mom told her to. Now she’s texting my fiance and she expects to be a part of my bachelorette party and wanting to plan everything. At the same time, my mom expects me to make her part of the wedding, even as my maid of honor. It’s horrible. I already have a maid of honor. It’s a girl my sister and mom hate because she’s been with a guy for some years that my sister wanted as well. Whoa. That’s a whole thing. Okay. And they both expect me to unfriend her.

I mean, really, I even just invited my sister to go dress shopping with me just to include her in something, even though I didn’t really feel like it. My sister has always been the problem in her family and makes everything about her. Ooh, this is definitely a dilemma because it’s very common that parents want their siblings together in a wedding, and I get it. I mean, you, you want to see them together. Who doesn’t want their kids to be friends? Right. However, given everything that she’s explained, how the sister sounds, I don’t know if she’s jealous or just mad, but the fact that she didn’t congratulate her and how to be told by the mom to congratulate her, you can tell they don’t really get along very well.

They’re not close. She already has a best friend. I don’t think siblings have to have each other in their weddings. Um. And especially not maid of honor. I feel like there’s like this like idea that your siblings have to be maid of honor or best man and that everyone else follows suit. It should be about how close you are and who you want up there and who’s going to support you.

Um, and it’s hard when you have your parents telling you this person needs to be in your wedding. Um, but it sounds like you know what you want to do. You already asked your friend to be the maid of honor. It’s so weird to me that your mom and sister hate her because they both liked the same guy. Like for one mom, get out of the drama.

That has nothing to do with you. Like, okay. Two. I mean, I don’t know how recently it was, but it sounds like your friend’s been with this guy for a long time, so the sister needs to let it go. I don’t know. Um. What I’m getting from your text here is that you don’t even want her to be in the wedding at all.

So I think it’s really big of you to invite her and include her to certain things that you feel comfortable inviting her and including her at. Right? So if you invite her to this dress shopping, it sounds like it didn’t happen yet. If she does, you know, if she acts, you know, supportive and is kind, and then afterwards is texting you other things.

Go by your gut. If you feel good about it, then maybe invite her to be in the wedding. If at this dress fitting or dress shopping she’s rude or puts you down or is making sly snide comments, maybe that’s your sign to just go with your gut. Um, it’s hard when parents hold things over your head, like I’ve talked to people before that.

They’ve said, oh, my parents said if I don’t have my brother as the best man, they’re not paying for anything. Or they’re gonna tell my family not to come. And that’s just childish. That’s just like, I don’t understand that reasoning. Um, because why would you want her up there next to you if she’s rude, doesn’t support you and doesn’t wanna like, be happy for you?

I don’t, I don’t get that. I don’t think that just because someone is a family member, they have to be in your wedding. So really listen to your gut, see how she starts acting. Maybe these little kind of things that you invite her to see how she responds. Definitely don’t make her your maid of honor. It sounds like you already asked someone.

So that’s set in stone. If they bring it up again, say like, Hey, I already asked my friend to be the maid of honor. If, um, you have other people, you’re gonna have you in the wedding as well, just make sure you sound like you have your ducks in a row, even if you don’t completely just say, you know what?

I’ve talked to this friend and this friend, and they’re already gonna be in the wedding. So sister can kind of figure out if she wants to be on your good side or if she wants to keep being like, not very supportive. Um, so there’s a lot of different moving parts in it, but I feel like ultimately you gotta listen to your gut because there’s so many people that I’ve also heard from that caved, right?

And they’re like, you know what? I’m just gonna be the peacemaker. I’m gonna have this person in my wedding. And then they regretted it because they did something. They made it about them. They were rude at certain events. Um, so you really have to listen to your gut. She wants to plan everything. Say no, we got that taken care of.

Talk to your maid of honor. Have her plan the bachelorette. If your sister says, well, I’m not coming, if I’m not planning it, then say, alright, we’ll, we’ll miss you then. Um, be really firm on what you want and surround yourself with people that are going to love you and support you because it’s your time to shine.

All right. That is the dilemma for this week. Let me know what you guys think. What would you do in this situation? I know it’s very complicated when parents get involved and they want, you know, siblings to be together, but at the end of the day, it’s your wedding and you wanna be surrounded by people that are gonna support you.

Would You Rather: Exes, Remarriages, and Awkward Parents

All right? Getting into it. Would you rather, would you rather remarry in the same venue as your first wedding or remarry in a courthouse with zero photos? Okay. Speaking on like personal, like I’m saying, if something were to happen, uh, and I was getting remarried, I would not want to go to the same venue.

I think that’s very odd to me. Um, especially if you’re inviting like some of the same people. So I would go courthouse. I dunno. I also feel like as I get older, I’m like the smaller and smaller host. So like even if my husband and I were to do like a vow renewal or anniversary party, I wouldn’t wanna do, I don’t know, maybe anniversary party would be different than a remarry, but you know what I’m saying?

Um, I don’t know. I feel like I would go courthouse. Would you rather have your ex publicly congratulate you online or privately text you? I miss you the week of your wedding. Probably publicly congratulate you online. Let’s not make it weird. Why are you privately texting me? No. Because then everyone else can see like, oh, that’s weird.

Um, okay. Would you rather your ex try to try to talk for closure at the wedding? Why is he at your wedding or post? Should have been me on their story.

That’s okay. This is getting into some like romantic comedy type type stuff. The funniest part about this is my husband puts together these show notes, so he like put these all together. Um, okay. Um, I’ll go with the post. Should have been me on their story because that makes them look weird. Don’t come to my wedding and talk about closure.

Would you rather your divorced parents refuse to be in the same photo or they agree to photos, but start snip sniping at each other the whole time? I would say agree to be in photos because. You know, if they’ve got their own thing going on, the photographer can say, okay, stop for two seconds. Smile. Great.

Now keep yelling at each time. Um, ’cause the refusal, I’m like, it’s a picture that you’re gonna put on your wall. It’s for you. They’re your parents. Doesn’t matter if they’re married or not anymore. Let’s grow up for like a couple minutes and then part your ways. Would you rather your parents. Would you rather your parents new spouse try to act like your bonus parent or refuse to come because they feel excluded?

I mean, these are hard. I mean, my parents are still married, so I’ve never had two, um, I’ve never had a stepparent. Um, I’ve known, I have friends with divorced parents, so I mean, I guess I can think through their lens maybe as much as I can. Um.

I guess it depends on how new the spouse is. You know, like if they got married a week before and they’re like 25 years old, so they’re like younger than me, I would have an issue with that. But if they’ve been married five years and they’re happy and I love their relationship, then yeah. Um, I wouldn’t want someone.

To leave because they felt excluded. I think if they were important enough to me as a stepparent, I would include them. Um, so yeah, I know that was like a really complicated answer. Uh, would you rather kick your sister out of the wedding or let her stay? But she gives the vibe, she hates you the entire day.

This relates to that first dilemma. Um, if there are issues, I would say just kick outta the way. Leading up to the wedding, there’s constant issues where she’s saying rude things, putting you down. Just clean, sweep out, um, because you don’t want her like glaring at you in the background of photos or like talking crap about you behind your back.

So, yeah. All right. Last one. Would you rather invite a close family member or invite. Wait. Okay. Would you rather uninvite a close family member or invite them and risk them causing a scene? Um, okay, uninvite. If it’s someone that’s gonna cause a scene in a negative way, then I would just not invite them.

They’re no, no questions asked. 

She Booked the Wedding Without a Proposal

All right, let’s get into the first story. I did include two because this one seemed kind of shorter. But sometimes I talk a lot, so We’ll, we’ll, we’re gonna see how that goes. Okay. Here’s this week’s story submission. This story is about my brother and his now ex-wife’s wedding.

First of all, he never even proposed. They attended their local Catholic church regularly, and one day she went to the priest, asked about what dates were available, and literally booked a wedding without my brother knowing. Oh. What, okay, I need to know, does anyone know someone that has done this before?

Like I’ve heard, I’ve seen things like in TV shows and like movies, and I heard one story where they booked a venue like two years in advance because they were like, it, it like books out. This is my dream venue. And then during that time they met their fiance and it ended up working out, but the fiance was a part of it.

To just go to the priest and be like, what dates are available? And then book it. That’s kind of interesting. Okay. So yes, this is exactly the type of person you’re imagining. She was awful, bossy, controlling, and abusive towards my brother. Wow. Our whole family was hoping they would break up, not get married, but my brother is kind, gentle, and at that point they already had two children.

So he went along with it because he thought it would make life easier. No marriage, if you’re already struggling, marriage and children will only complicate things. It’s not gonna make things easier. I think we like see it all the time where it’s like people think, oh, if we have kids together, we’ll it’ll be the dad I want him to be, or she’ll be this like, no, if you’re already struggling, it’s not gonna make it better.

Wedding planning was a nightmare. They had no money, but she wanted everything and she demanded that we all chip in. We live in the UK and while some families do help pay for weddings, it’s far more common for couples to pay for their own weddings like I’m doing now. We aren’t poor, but also don’t have thousands of pounds we can just hand over because someone demands it.

Yeah, that’s the thing I always say is like. It is great when family wants to help or can help in any way, but you should never get engaged expecting that people are gonna pay for your wedding. When you get engaged, you should be like, okay, this is our budget between the two of us, and then if people wanna help, that’s great.

That’s a gift then. But to have this idea of this huge expensive wedding and not being able to afford it yourselves, I think that’s a problem. We gave money where we could, and all she did was complain. 

Reception Meltdown + Guests Walking Out by 6PM

Then four weeks before the wedding, I broke my foot and ended up in a boot. I didn’t wanna cause any drama or attention, so I found heels the same height as everyone else’s and wore one heel, so it would still look normal.

She was not happy about that either. What did you want her to do? Like to take the boot off just for your wedding day? Like you gotta do what you gotta do. At the church. Oh wait, when the day finally came, the venue looked beautiful and we were under the impression that everything was fully paid for, or so we thought at the church, the priest at the church, the priest accidentally called her by the wrong name during the ceremony.

Oh, no. That’s like the worst kind of person for that to happen to because she’s already like in a bad mood. She’s mean. Not a great person. It sounds like. Honestly, that should have been the first warning sign. It immediately put her in a, in a horrible mood. Yeah. I think most people wouldn’t be happy. When we got to the main venue, she was rude to everyone.

She swore directly at people’s faces, called them awful names. I would be leaving if the bride was treating me that way. I would be out of there. There’s no way. And told everyone she would not listen. Told everyone who would listen that she hated today. Then she got absolutely wasted, not tipsy, not fun drunk, just full on drunk, and she’s got two kids, I’m assuming that are there.

Okay. She started walking around telling people to F off, flipping everyone the middle finger, and acting like she wanted the entire day to burn to the ground. What, this was your idea, this was literally your idea and. It’s just like not up to her standards or something. By 6:00 PM nearly everyone had left, including most of the guests.

And keep in mind, the wedding only started at two. Okay? So people are like, yeah, F this, I’m outta here. I’m not staying. I wouldn’t be staying for that. The only people still there were my younger brother and her sibling.

Oh my gosh. She then spent the rest of the evening crying because she couldn’t understand why no one stayed. I stayed mostly because I couldn’t believe what I was witnessing. I ended up getting merely tipsy with my brothers and honestly just laughing at how unreal it all was. The next day she sent a giant message to everyone who attended, telling them they ruined her day.

So you think it’s your day and you can just go around talking to your guests that way. People that traveled far attended this wedding, took off work whatever they needed to do, and they ruined your day. No one responded. And I think most people went low contact after with her. 

Unpaid Vendors + Secret Affair Reveal

A few weeks later, my brother called me and my mom upset.

That’s when we found out that she hadn’t actually used the money we gave her to pay the vendors. We ended up paying an additional 2,800 pounds to make sure my brother didn’t have trouble or debts hanging over him because of her. What? Where did she use the money for? Then, because it always gets worse three months after the wedding, she told my brother she was pregnant with their third child.

They welcomed the baby eight months after getting married, meaning she was already pregnant when she was blackout drunk at her wedding. Oh my. That was my first thought is like, not her being pregnant, but like having the kids at the wedding. ’cause it says she already has two kids, but she was pregnant the whole time.

Wow. And then about two months after their daughter was born, she told my brother to leave and admitted that she’d been having an affair with someone from work. Is that person the baby’s father? I have so many questions. They’ve now been divorced for four years. I hope he is happy. I mean, that’s really hard because now you have children together, so like you can’t divorce, you know, like you still are gonna be around her. You still have to see her for certain things. Oh my word. Okay. I would love to say it’s been peaceful, but she’s still awful. The only upside is I don’t have to deal with her anymore. Even typing this out, it doesn’t feel real. It honestly sounds like a made up story, but I unfortunately, but unfortunately it all happened.

My brother is genuinely one of the nicest people you’ll ever meet, and this completely wrecked his mental health. Thankfully, he has a lot of support behind him. That makes me so sad because like it’s that nice guy, nice woman, you know. Nice person, right? That gets walked all over. They think they’re being a good person, but you need to have those boundaries because like at the end of the day, someone like this is gonna suck out your soul because they’re just like, I can get whatever I want with this person because they, they’re the nice guy, or they’re the nice woman, nice girl.

Um, I’m glad they like separated, but like I said, it’s hard like when they’re three kids together, um, to. Balance what that life looks like and it’s hard for the kids then to be shuffled back and forth. Um, ’cause she’s now presumably with this guy from work, maybe. Um, so that’s, oh my gosh, that’s, wow. Well thanks for sharing that.

And I wish the best to you and your brother and your whole family because that sounds like a whole rollercoaster to be thrown into. Um, only for it to end like that. Wild. Okay guys. I got a second story. We gotta, we gotta do a second story ’cause that wasn’t that long. All right, let’s get into it. All right.

Second Story: Missing Cousin + Bridesmaid Fallout

My husband and I got married in the middle of COVID on June tenth in 2021. At that point, we’d already been married together at that point. We’d already been together for seven years and had pushed our wedding date back an entire year because of the pandemic. I had a friend who had been my childhood best friend since we were eight years old, so of course I wanted her to be one of my bridesmaids.

During the planning process, a very close cousin of hers went missing. The entire family was searching for her. There were daily search parties, and my friend was spending a lot of time going out on her own to look for her cousin. Obviously, I cared deeply about the situation and completely understood that it took priority.

Because of that, I gave her extra time to go get her bridesmaid dress. However, our wedding was in June and the bridal shop told me that the, that March was the absolute latest month. Anyone could order their dress. They needed time for shipping and alterations. That’s pretty understandable. There usually is some kind of deadline no matter where you get a dress from.

I explained this to her and told her I completely understood that her cousin came first and that it was totally okay, but I also couldn’t keep pushing the dress deadline back. I gently suggested that if things were too overwhelming, she might want to, might want to consider not being a bridesmaid. I think that’s a very, um.

Mature conversation to have. Right? Obviously she’s going, the bridesmaid, the friend is going through a lot. I can’t even fathom what that’s like to have a missing person in your family, close friend, whatever that is. Um, I can’t even imagine, like, I literally just watched a show about a child missing and I was like, I, I wouldn’t even be able to go to bed.

Like, I’m sure it consumes you in ways that you can’t even imagine. Um, so that’s very challenging to be like, I love my friend over here who’s getting married. I wanna support her, but my cousin, like my, my cousin, takes priority. She got very upset with me and said she already had an appointment at the bridal shop later that week, and we’d be getting her dress for the bridesmaid dresses.

I gave everyone creative control. The only rule was that the dresses had to be burgundy. The style didn’t matter. Every other bridesmaid sent a picture of their dress in the group chat before buying it so no one had the same one so I could approve them. Her appointment day came and went. Then days passed, about four days later, I reached out and told her I couldn’t wait any longer and that I was really sorry, but I was going to have to move forward without her as a bridesmaid.

I mean, again, it’s a mature conversation. Sometimes people like. You have the people pleaser that’s like, okay, whatever. It’s fine. We’ll keep them in. Um, you know, doesn’t matter what they do. This story aside, you know, in generation in general, we hear a lot of stories where we have like a terrible bridesmaid or something and they’re just like, okay.

I just kept them in though because I didn’t wanna cause any drama. This is a respectful conversation. She said, Hey, I understand you’re going through a lot. Please don’t like, I understand that’s a priority. Please don’t feel like my wedding’s a priority. Like you can step down. It’s okay. No hard feelings.

Um, and then it sounds like she like was reassured. So it’s hard when, it sounds like multiple weeks passed, right? Because we’re saying, um, her appointment came in. Went okay. So she, later that week was her appointment, so it came in, went. Multiple days passed and then four days later, so we’re talking at least like a week and a half, and she hasn’t hear, heard anything.

So for me, maybe I give too many chances. I would be reaching out and saying like, Hey, do you need help with anything? How’s everything going? I probably would’ve reached out one more time. Again, I don’t know if she did or not, but I’m sure the bride is like, okay, we have to move forward. Like you need your dress and at this point the shop can’t even get your dress to the wedding in time.

She said she had already bought her dress, couldn’t return it, and went on about how unfair I was being. I told her, honestly, I had no idea she bought anything because she never said a word. Here’s the communication, or sent a picture like everyone else. I said, if she had already had the dress to send me a photo so I could see it, that made her even angrier.

So I’m thinking she probably doesn’t have the dress. I think she’s probably just saying that. We also have to understand it’s a really complicated situation. She’s probably like all like think about when you have like so many things going on, right? And then on top of that, her cousin’s missing, like I don’t know where they’re at in the process during this, but many sleepless nights.

I’m sure many calls with family members. She’s out searching, all doing all these things. So then she’s trying her best in all these different areas, right? And then this friend’s, like, you’re not in the wedding anymore. I can understand getting a little angry. I. I’m not saying she’s right or wrong, I’m just saying I could understand where you’re like, look, I’m trying my best, my cousin’s missing.

Like that’s again, I can’t even, like, I can’t even imagine what I would do or what, what that kind of does to your mental health. Right. Um,

she started cursing me out.. Calling me inconsiderate and a bad friend, even though I truly felt I had tried to be as understanding as possible. I explained again that everything was already booked and planned. I couldn’t postpone the wedding three months before the date. Yeah, I mean, you can’t postpone the wedding.

You’ve everything booked and paid for. I, I’m wondering if she’s. Somehow the bridesmaid was asking you to postpone it or just because she didn’t have the dress, you were like, I had to postpone it now. Um, ’cause I would, I wouldn’t go to that length. I reminded her, she’s still invited, still included in the photos, still seated with my family.

I genuinely didn’t understand why she was so furious. She cursed me out again, she didn’t attend the wedding. On top of that, she convinced on top of that, she convinced another bridesmaid to drop out of the wedding too. They’re now best friends and I haven’t spoken to either of them since. Was the cousin found?

I, I need to know this. This is, this is hard. This is really hard because like I said, it’s a complicated situation. I mean, I’m just thinking too, if like you had a death in the family or if there was, you know, another kind situation where that like takes a lot of their brain space, right? But at the end of the day too.

Things are still going on. You’re still getting married, everything’s still booked. You can’t push back the wedding date. You need your bridesmaid there already. I think there’s a lot of communication issue in this point. I’m sure your bridesmaid or ex bridesmaid’s hurting a lot. Um, she’s probably, like I said, sleepless nights helping family out.

But where do you draw the line? Right? Where you like, okay, I either need you, I don’t, can you be here or not? I think with someone like that. I would have said, okay, I’m glad you got your dress. And just trust them, because at the end of the day, you either have an extra person up there or you have one less person up there.

So I’d say like, okay, great. Glad you got your dress. You’ve got a lot on your plate. And then if she showed up that day, then you’d have her. If not, you wouldn’t have her. Um, and if she didn’t have the dress, then that’s her own, you know, her own problem. And then you can just take other pictures with her.

Just because of the situation, everything she’s going through. If it was someone else, like a bridesmaid being really nasty, um, out of nowhere and just being rude, then no. I would just be like, okay, you’re out of the wedding. Again, I’m not supporting her, cursing her out and calling her ins inconsiderate.

But again, I don’t know what that would do to someone’s mental health. Going through that and having a family member missing? I don’t know. We don’t know what happened. I don’t, there’s no closure here. So, um, it sucks when friendships fall out because of weddings. Um, but even more so stressful situations or life changes, um, can bring out people’s colors in different way.

Right. I don’t wanna say true colors because I’m not calling either of them bad people. Um. It’s just a challenging situation. Of course, I’m not calling either of bad people. I think, I think the cursing out was a bit much, I don’t think I would do that to a friend. Everyone handles situations differently.

Um, like, you know, during my wedding I had, uh, one of my bridesmaids had, um, a family, a family thing going on, and I was just like, you do what you have to do. I only care about you being at the wedding. And that’s why, that’s like, that’s the closest thing I can think of. Like, um, a couple serious things that happened and I was just like, if you can be there, that’s great.

If you can’t or you have to miss my bachelorette party, it’s okay. We’re still friends. At the end of all this, my wedding comes last. Your family, everything that’s going on with your family right now. Precedent. So that’s where I’m like, that’s how I think I would be in this situation. Um, but again, I was also a very like type B bridesmaid I or type B bride, I would say like, yes, everything on my part, on my side of things, I was like, okay, I planned out everything.

I was very organized. But when it came to like. Groom suits and dresses. I was very like, okay, groom suits, order this off this site. Done. Um, here’s the, we’re gifting you guys the shoes. Here’s that dresses. Pick whatever style you want. Pick the color out of the, these family colors, you know? Um, but I was like, but if someone just like had told me like.

I like this dress. It goes along with it. I probably would’ve been like, that’s fine. I, I wasn’t crazy about stuff like that. So, I don’t know. It’s, it’s hard in those situations when, um, there’s other, other issues are kind of coming up and people are dealing with other stuff. We have to remember that our wedding, other people’s lives don’t stop because of our wedding.

And, you know, we hear of like, pregnancy, other engagements moving. Um. But this is the first time we heard of something like this where someone was missing. So yeah, that’s what I have to say about that. You guys let me know what you guys think. If you go, um, just a reminder, all these episodes are posted on YouTube in full, so I always love to hear what you guys think about these stories because you gotta remember I read these first time as I react to them. So a lot of times you guys will call me out a couple times, not, not anything bad, but you guys will be like, oh, I think they meant this. And I’m like, you’re right. Because sometimes I’m reading it and I’m like, what does that mean? Because I’m reading it in real time. I’m thinking about this camera.

How’s this gonna sound? You know? So, um, lemme know what you guys would do in that situation. ’cause that’s, that’s a very complicated situation, for sure. 

Wedding Confessions: What Low-Key Ruined the Vibe

All right, let’s end with some confessions and then we’ll be, we’ll be on our way. Okay. Okay. For this week’s confession, we asked at your own or someone else’s wedding, what low key bothered you, but you pretended was fine.

Okay. I love this question. Here we go. All right. Wedding, I was in the guest ate dinner while the wedding party had hours of photos. What that would. Annoyed me so bad if I was in a wedding and they were like, you need to be in all these photos and not eat. I think one of the biggest issues, biggest issue, I don’t know.

One of the issues I see is when. The brides, the bride and groom or the couple getting married, always think that the bridesmaids and groomsmen are there to serve them. Um, I’ve been in some weddings like that. I’ve seen weddings like that where they, they’re like, oh, they’ll just do this. They’ll set up the whole venue.

They’ll, um, be in the pictures and then they’ll be on their way. And I’ve been in weddings where like I was treated like. So well, like one of my best friends, she had breakfast for us, a lunch for us. She had her like sweet, like anything you could want. She just wanted to take care of us. She was like, I don’t want you guys to lift a finger.

And that’s not to say like, you know, you have to pay more money for certain things. It’s just kinda looking at like how you’re treating people that are taking time off to be there for you to spend money for you. Um, so. That’s wrong in my opinion, what this person can invest, okay, this person says waiting two hours for the reception to start while they bar hopped with the wedding party.

Oh my gosh. So they pushed back the reception because the bride and groom weren’t back, is what I’m guessing. You would hope they would have cocktail hour with hors d’oeuvres. I’ve done a, I’ve been to a couple weddings where the cocktail hour is more like an hour and a half. I don’t know, maybe two sometimes.

But that’s when they have like little bites for everybody. That’s, again, you need to be treating your guests like, thank you so much for being here. They’re your guests. Let’s keep them fed, let’s keep them hydrated. Um, we can’t forget about them. Okay. The couple arrived late to the reception because they snuck off to the hotel room first.

I mean, I know the couple weddings where the couple like breaks off just to kinda like calm down. If it’s not stopping the wedding, I don’t mind it. Like if you guys are already getting fed and whatever, I don’t mind it. But if they’re holding, they’re waiting for them to do anything and you’re just like sitting around, then I think that’s a problem.

All right, last one. Because of the room, our table couldn’t see the whole dance floor. We were off to the side. That’s hard. Sometimes when it’s a really big wedding, there’s someone that’s shoved in the corner and that’s one of the reasons why I kept my invites to a lower number. ’cause they told me like, oh, if you invite this many, you’re gonna have a couple in the hall or like down a little bit.

And I was like, I don’t, I don’t like that. Um.

Okay. I was gonna see if I missed any good ones. You guys sent some good ones. The small venue because it was way too hot and everyone was dancing. Um, the couple disappearing for too long, for photos. I mean, you know, like, this is the thing you have to remember. It’s their wedding day. You are there as a guest if they go take photos for a long time.

They want these special photos for their wedding day. Again, if you are fed, if you, if there’s drinks, if there’s music, enjoy the time. It’s not like the couple’s gonna be sitting at the table with you anyway, so just let them do their thing with the, with the, um, photographer or whoever. All right. A relative’s partner invited their friend to meet them at my evening reception without asking.

That’s weird. That’s weird. Don’t meet anyone at your way. All right guys. That’s all. I have birthday this week. Thanks for hanging out with me again, if you love this podcast, share it with a friend, leave a review. It really helps more people hear the podcast and I can create some more fun content for you.

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