Older. Employed. Owned a car. Buying a house. Apparently, those were the “red flags.”
This week marks one year of Here Comes The Drama (yay!), and I’m sharing a deeply personal, most bizarre wedding story where an engagement triggered years of emotional manipulation, financial pressure, and escalating abuse. From blessing requests gone wrong to explosive ultimatums, we unpack how toxic family dynamics can surface during major life milestones. This story is heavy, but important.
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Must-Hear Insights and Key Moments
- The Podcast Turns One – We’re celebrating one full year of Here Comes The Drama with a special giveaway: a $150 Visa gift card or one of two $25 Amazon gift cards.
- Would You Rather: Wedding Edition – I’m answering your toughest “would you rather” wedding dilemmas, from feuding relatives to money with strings attached, during our one year special episode.
- The “Blessing” That Became an Interrogation – What should’ve been a respectful conversation spirals into grilling, accusations, and power plays.
- Control Disguised as Concern – Parents frame normal age gaps, financial stability, and independence as red flags to maintain control.
- Financial Manipulation & Wedding Ultimatums – From demanding a master’s degree to refusing wedding support, money becomes leverage.
- The Attic Incident – Screaming, verbal abuse, and a father apologizing to the boyfriend instead of his daughter push everything over the edge.
- Choosing Safety & Ending the Cycle – Moving out, going no contact, and protecting future children becomes the ultimate act of healing.
Words of Wisdom: Standout Quotes from This Episode
- Control doesn’t always show up as anger, sometimes it shows up as “concern.”
- When your independence threatens someone, the behavior will escalate.
- Green flags can look like red flags to people who benefit from your dependence.
- Money with strings attached is never a gift. Protecting your peace sometimes means choosing distance, even when it’s painful.
- Ending the cycle is an act of love for the next generation.
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Christa Innis: Hey everybody. Welcome back to another episode of, here Comes The Drama. I’m your host, Christa Innis, and I’m extra excited for you guys to be here today because it’s our one year anniversary. I can’t believe I’m saying that out loud because I still remember the. Coming up with this idea, feeling like it was so out of my reach.
And here it is. I just am so grateful to all of you guys for listening to sending in stories, to just sharing your support. It just means so much to me. So before I get too mushy and share too much about the podcast, I wanna read, this week’s review. It’s from Lady Tony. It says, when I was pregnant with my daughter in 2024, I got hooked with the skits on Insta.
Then I came across this podcast, craving for Drama. Satisfied. I love that because we all secretly, or maybe not so secretly, love the drama. Especially when it’s not our own. that’s the reason why, you know, I came up with this podcast. You guys wanted more stories, you wanted to hear more stories, talk more, hear more drama.
and you guys were sending me so many, and this is a fun way to share more of myself, to meet other people. It’s been a lot of fun. so before we jump into the full part of the episode, like I said, I wanna just celebrate something big here and that is, the podcast is a year old today. We also hit 250,000 downloads, which was well beyond my expectations.
I think I’ve said this before, but I thought we were gonna hit like 25,000 in the first year. That was my initial goal. so I’m just blown away by the support, the love, all the stories you guys share with me, people willing to come on the podcast. I’ve met so many amazing people that have been, just.
Eager to come on the podcast and just be real and have conversation. and it’s been really great for me to just expand because as I’ve said before, you know, I work from home. My husband works from home, and I, you know, it’s great to just meet people, but with having a toddler, we don’t. Always get out as much as we want to.
and so this is a great way to meet people from all over the world, all over the country. And, that’s just been such a blessing, such a gift to be able to do that.
The One Year Anniversary Giveaway
So, to say thank you to you guys after my blabbing here, I wanna tell you guys that I am doing a one year giveaway. not to be confused with the giveaway I’m doing for the new year.
It’s a little different, so pay attention to, to these specific details. but first I wanna share some fun stats about this podcast. So in the year, we have done 52 episodes. We had 34 unique guests. Many were on multiple times. I think maybe like five to 10 were on multiple times. I know my best friend, Yvette has been on like three or four at this point.
and some of the people I’ve interviewed, their episodes have not come out yet. And then I have some in my roster that are scheduled and have not been interviewed yet. So lots more exciting episodes coming out. This podcast has reached 50 different countries, including obviously the United States, well, Canada, United Kingdom, Australia, Germany, New Zealand.
Ireland, Sweden, Philippines, Netherlands, Denmark, Norway, India, Mexico, France, South Africa, and many, many more. so that’s very exciting. And yes, I know the UK includes many different countries. just kind of looking at my stats here quickly. so it’s just. Mind blowing to me still, just to know how many of you guys listen to it every single week.
And it makes me that much more excited to, also putting a lot more pressure on myself, but more excited to get the content out to you. So back to this giveaway, one listener will win a $150 Visa gift card, and two listeners are going to win a $25 Amazon gift card. So to enter, make sure you subscribe to the podcast.
subscribe to my YouTube channel and comment. Entered. The reason we are doing YouTube is because that’s an actual trackable way. I can’t see if you’re subscribed and I don’t have a list of subscribers, on my podcast. So unfortunately I can’t do it that way. So subscribe to my YouTube channel and then for this video, just come underneath it.
Just say Entered. You can say like, Hey, I love your channel. Hey, this is my favorite video. Hey, I’m getting married this year. Hey, I love the color purple. And then put entered if you want, just for a little extra detail, whatever that is. just comment on this video. We upload all of my podcast episodes on YouTube full, and then we do little clips as well.
So we’ll make it very clear which video we’ll put on the cover, so you know which one to put on there. So again, $150 Visa gift card for the grand prize winner. and then two $25 Amazon gift card winners. So, super easy to enter. Subscribe to my YouTube channel, and comment entered on the video.
And just to say, just to cover all my bases, this giveaway’s not affiliated with or sponsored by YouTube, apple Podcast, Spotify, Amazon, or Visa. It’s just. My personal way of giving back to you guys and saying thank you. All right. That was enough blabbing for today. But you know what, who am I? What am I saying?
Would You Rather — Weddings, Boundaries, and Hard Calls
We’re getting into more blabbing now. So let’s get into today’s episode. you would think I’d be a little more well rested for this episode. I’m currently drinking this Gorge Energy drink, not sponsored at all. my husband put this in my stocking this year. Isn’t it cute? If you’re looking at the video,
More caffeine than I’m used to. I did not get great sleep last night. It’s been a doozy. and yeah, we stayed up too late watching Stranger Things. I’ll get into that later. Okay. Let’s get into, would you rather, and then I have a long story so I don’t wanna take up too much time before that, would you rather seat feuding relatives together or leave one uninvited and deal with it forever?
Ooh, that’s hard. Seat feuding relatives together or leave one uninvited. That’s gonna depend on my own personal relationship with them. Right. I hate causing drama or like causing something to happen. But if I’m thinking of like a situation where two people just can’t get along and, let’s say it’s someone that’s like closer to me, I would probably rather just not have someone invited if I knew they were gonna cause more drama at the wedding,
seeing people together that I know aren’t gonna get along is just, it’s just asking for it at that point. So I think I’d rather just not invite one of the party. Okay. Two, would you rather your dad be late walking you down the aisle or your stepparent insist on being included last minute? I think I’d rather have my dad be late walking me down the aisle.
Hopefully not too late. cause that’s a problem. But again, all these things are very nuanced because if you’re close with your stepparent, I would hope you kind of include them in some way. It doesn’t have to be like them walking you down the aisle, but maybe you give them flowers and take photos with them ahead of time.
Maybe you do like a special moment with them. but again, it’s gonna depend on how close you are. If your stepparent is insisting, then my thought is maybe you’re not that close, so that’s why I’m gonna go with the late dad. Okay. Would you rather cover costs for a broke bridesmaid or ask for a step down?
Absolutely cover the cost. If this person means enough to me where I ask them to be in the wedding, I would absolutely be like, don’t worry about it. I will cover it for you. I’ve been in, not my own wedding, but I’ve been in other weddings where, a friend of mine reached out to me as like the maid of honor and was like.
You know what? I’m in three other weddings this year. I don’t think I can afford the bachelorette party. And I said, if you really wanna go, I will cover it for you. Like don’t worry about it. Please. Like, I wanna make sure you’re there for blank, actually come to think of it, I did have a couple bridesmaids, I wouldn’t say broke bridesmaids at all.
I’m not calling them that, but other ones that had other obligations like maybe other vacations planned or, they were having a baby other things going on where I just told them like, let me know where I can step in. I would never ask them to step down if they couldn’t afford something because the reason I’m asking someone to be in my wedding is ’cause they mean a lot to me.
so I don’t know. I just don’t like that of like, oh, you can’t afford this, or You don’t wanna spend this. You can’t stand up in my wedding. Nah. Would you rather your maid of honor, ghost planning, or take over everything? that’s a tough one. I had the most amazing maid of honor, Yvette, who’s been on my podcast many times.
She would never either. God, I’m so bad because it’s like I can’t just pick one. Okay, I’m gonna pick one. I’m gonna say take over everything. I would rather, because think about this. If your maid of honor is ghosting you, they don’t care. They don’t wanna be there, they don’t wanna be a part of your wedding.
Who knows what’s gonna happen to your relationship after your wedding day. so there’s a lot of things, a lot of issues going on there. So if I can have them just take over the wedding. Hopefully they’re good at it. I don’t know. Okay. would you rather someone bring an uninvited plus one or bring their kids to a child free wedding?
Ooh, gosh. These are tough ones.
I think I would rather have someone bring an uninvited plus one. Because a very, a specified child-free wedding is not gonna be set up for more kids. Plus I think that’s gonna cause more drama. ’cause imagine if there was someone else that was like, oh, I can’t bring my kids. Okay, I’ll leave them at home.
Or I’ll call a babysitter or whatever. And then they come and this other person came with their kids. So I think that’s gonna cause more drama, an uninvited plus one.
Course, depending on the person, but, I think that’s fine. ultimately it’s not fine, but I think that’s better. maybe they just needed a ride or, I don’t know. They don’t wanna come alone either or not ideal. Would you rather have a guest leave early and post about it or stay and complain the entire night?
Well, if they’re posting about it, are they posting like. Why they left earlier, why the wedding stopped? ’cause that’s what I’m thinking. Leave and post about it because if it’s my wedding day, I am not paying attention to what people are posting. I’m not gonna see until the next day. So sorry. If they took the time out to post about why they left my wedding early, then it had more of an impact on them than they would like to think.
Okay. Would you rather go over budget or cut your guest list in half? That’s hard because to me, people were the most important thing to me when planning everything out. it was really hard. There were a few people that were like on the, I don’t know, like I haven’t talked to ’em in a couple years, but when we were friends or when we did work together, we were really close.
So there was a lot of people like that. Cutting in half would be really hard though.
Now, I think I would say I would rather. Cut my guess list in half. Then I think I’d rather go a little over budget. It just depends on how much. Right. okay, last one. Would you rather accept money with strings attached or pay for everything yourself? Pay for everything myself, I’ve talked about this before.
We had help on both sides and then we paid for a good chunk ourselves. but we never had any meddling parents. both of our parents, or say all four of our parents were so helpful. They never overstepped. They, they’re talented in their own ways. And so I just found different ways to include each of them, especially our moms.
Um. Never did they once say, I’m taking this from you, I’m doing this, or go behind my back and change something. They were both so supportive, um, and they would never hold money or gifts over our head. Um, so yeah, I, I always really sympathize with people that have to kind of like balance it all out because.
In general, even though it is a gift, you do feel like, okay, they gave this to me, so I want to give that same respect back. I’ve never been in a, like in a bad relationship where it’s like a mother-in-law or a mom like holding money over the head, being like, okay, if I give you this money though, I get to invite my 50 friends from church, or I get to, um.
Change up the flowers or I get to, you know, whatever. I’ve never personally had to deal with that, so I’m, I’m sure it’s very difficult when you’re in that position.
When an Engagement Triggers Control, Not Celebration
All right, let’s get into it. This week’s line reaction, wedding story submission. All right. Huge fan of your videos for years. I actually started watching them while I was engaged, and the Ferris and Sloan saga genuinely got me through the worst of it.
Oh my gosh. Okay. I, I’m trying to think of how to say this. I love hearing that. But I also hate hearing that, if you know what I mean. Like, I hate hearing that people relate to the character so much because when I came up with it, it was just like so dramatic, so out of line, so wild. Like something I could never picture in my personal life.
Um, but I’ve had so many people say, thank you for creating this, because it allowed me to feel like heard and seen and like I wasn’t alone. Um, so. I’m glad for that part, but I’m really sorry that you had to go through this. Okay. My wedding story really began when my then boyfriend of a year and a half, and I decided we were ready to be engaged.
My parents and brothers had met him several times. I’d met his family and everything always seemed fine. My parents acted like they liked him. My mother even told extended family. We would definitely get married. When we’d only been dating for six months. Okay, wait.
So they said we’d definitely would get married when we’d only been dating for six months, which is an entirely different story. No one ever openly had a problem with him. He’s quiet and shy, and I always felt my family was intimidated by the fact that they couldn’t read or manipulate him. He didn’t give them anything to work with.
I, on the other hand, am a total blabber mouth and they often use that to make digs at me or gather information to use against me later. Oh gosh. Okay. By winter of 2021, we’d been talking seriously about engagement. We were also meeting with our priest for spiritual counseling. When we told him we were considering getting engaged, he was excited, but he also told us we need to book the date immediately.
If we wanted him to marry us within the next calendar year, there were only three slots left. Otherwise we’d have to wait an additional year, which we didn’t want, so we booked a date right then. Even though we weren’t formally engaged yet. Ooh, I like it. But I can see where the drama might come in.
There’s a lot of people that want to have a say over the date, which I don’t understand. I mean, I get like, so me personally, I get like checking in with family. Like we would, we always hold our family, like we wanna spring wedding. Um, and our venue, it was cheaper if you got married in March and on a Friday night.
So we were like, or not Friday night, but Friday. Um. So we kind of like threw that out there to like our parents at least. But everyone else we were like, if you can be there, be there. If you can’t, you can’t. Um, my boyfriend wanted to do the right thing and ask my parents for their blessing. I warned him that they were very controlling and wouldn’t be happy that they would be, that they would use the opportunity to bully him.
So you’re telling me she never saw any issues? With the family and him, or they never said anything about him, but right off the bat she’s like, they’re gonna bully you. They wanna control you, what? While he agreed it was ultimately my choice, he said he was raised to respect parents and still wanted to ask.
I reluctantly agreed and told him. I would let them know that he wanted to speak with them. Side note, I was living with my parents at the time. One morning I told my dad that my boyfriend wanted to ask him something important over Thanksgiving weekend. At first, my dad seemed excited and supportive. Then he said he needed to tell my mother.
I went to class and didn’t think much of it. When I got home, they were waiting for me and told me we needed to have a serious talk. Wait, but he didn’t even say anything yet. They must have like had like a clip. They sat me down and began grilling me with the most bizarre concerns about my boyfriend.
Okay, so this is like a bullet point list One, he was four years older than me. We were 22 and 26. Completely normal. Yeah. I think that’s a completely normal age gap. His job paid more than mine. Why is that a problem? And also what is this obsession? What people’s jobs pay If you are not paying the bills, why does it matter and how do they know what he makes?
Anyway? Three, he had a car and I didn’t, they had actively prevented me from getting a license up to that point. Okay, so they just don’t like that this guy is going to kind of be like your new family. It sounds like they were controlling you into not getting a license. Not, I mean, not getting a car.
That’s really odd to me. Number four, he was in the process of buying a house and they demanded that my name be on the title before marriage. Okay. As someone that has a daughter, if this was her partner, I feel like these are all great qualities, like he has a good paying job. He has a car, he’s in the process of buying a house.
These are all great things. You would be like, wow, he’s got his shit together. He loves you. He wants to take this to the next level. Like next step. Like why are they so like, Nope, you need to do this, this, and this. Why are these red flags to me? These are green flags. Um. Also like putting his her name on the house before marriage.
I mean, I don’t know, like legality stuff of that. I mean, I get like putting your, I mean, it’s not like she’s even talking about moving in yet, but I don’t know. Whatever. Okay. Last one. They even implied that he might be abusing me, which was completely untrue. Why would you say something like that, if anything?
He protected me from their ongoing abuse. Someone like that. And I’m not gonna make you know accusations because I’m only reading a story. I don’t know anyone in this story personally, someone that’s so used to controlling you and making choices for you. When they see another influence come in that’s allowing you to be a little more independent or kind of go away from their grasp, they’re gonna try to do all those things.
They’re gonna try to like point the finger at him and say, oh, he’s bad. He’s trying to hurt you. He’s trying to do all these things because they. They realize that when you get more independent and start thinking for yourself, you’re gonna realize that they’re the problem. On Thanksgiving day, my boyfriend still showed up, polite, respectful, and hopeful.
After dinner, he asked my father if they could talk. My father refused and said, now is not a good time. I don’t think it’s appropriate for you to ask me on Thanksgiving and make the holiday all about Jessica. Do they hate their daughter like this is, this is absurd. Like I don’t, I don’t think I ever use that word.
This is just like, yeah, I mean, in my mind, 22 is young, but that’s not for them to decide. She’s an adult. I think I was still living at home at 22, but I moved in with my boyfriend now husband at. 24. 24. I think we were dating at 23. You can’t, I mean, at that point you can’t. They just wanted her to stay like under wraps, under their control Q, the most awkward dinner imaginable.
My brothers kept making weird jokes about how women only get married because they’re gold diggers and kept putting, pushing, and kept pushing political arguments. No one wanted. Why do they hate her so much? So this was their problem with him making more money because it’s gonna look like she’s a gold digger.
I, I don’t know. This is wild. The next day was my cousin’s wedding. The whole family was acting strangely, but my boyfriend and I tried to enjoy ourselves. At the reception. I casually mentioned to my dad that I like the napkin color and would want something similar to that for my own wedding. He gave me a disturbed look and walked away without saying a word, dude, what is their problem?
‘Go Wait in the Attic’ — The Moment Everything Broke
The day after that, my boyfriend went back to my parents’ house for the conversation they had decided to have. The moment he walked in, it felt like a war room. They told him to sit down, then turned to me and told me to go wait in the attic. I wish I was kidding. Go wait. In the attic, where do you live? Is that, is that your room or do we need to call someone?
Hopefully you don’t still live there. This is like giving housemaid. Why are you in an attic and why do they want you to go there? This is scary. My boyfriend tried to insist that the conversation involved both of us, but my father demanded that I leave. I wouldn’t wanna stay with the dad. I’d be like, um, no.
She’s gonna stay with me, otherwise we’re both gonna leave for 40 minutes. They grilled him about his intentions and demanded. One that he agreed to financially support me getting a master’s degree, which I never wanted. Okay, wait. So first she’s a gold digger, but for marrying someone that’s making more money and now they’re telling him he has to financially support her in getting a master’s degree, but she never even said she wanted that.
Number two is that he put my name on the house title before marriage, even though the house was still under construction and no title even existed. This is, this is insane to me. Completely insane. I, I don’t even know, like, what do you do at that point? Like eventually I was allowed back in the room, my boyfriend again explained that a title didn’t exist yet, but they refused to accept it.
Then they turned to me yelling about how I thought I was going to pay for a wedding. They announced they didn’t believe in weddings. They don’t believe in weddings. Aren’t they married? And it’s not for them to decide. They wouldn’t, they said they wouldn’t pay a cent because weddings were a waste of money.
Okay? Just ’cause their marriage sucks, doesn’t mean they can put it on you, despite having had their own 50 K wedding in the nineties. So they have $50,000 wedding in the nineties, which today. Let’s look this up guys. A $50,000 wedding in the nineties is what in today’s world,
guys. $50,000 wedding in the nineties is equivalent to a 100,000 to $150,000 wedding today. And they’re trying to say, that is so freaking wild. Okay, here’s my philosophy, or here’s my theory. They’re either not doing well financially and. Maybe marriage wasn’t what they thought it would be because they’re unhappy people.
And so they’re thinking if their wedding was $50,000, they see how money has changed. They’re thinking they’re gonna have to cash, they’re thinking they’re gonna have to lend all this money to them, and they’re realizing they’re not happy in their own marriage and it was a scam. Um, so. They’re trying to be like, okay, well, she needs to get something out of this, so he needs to pay for her master’s degree.
I don’t know. That’s the only thing I can think of. I told them I didn’t need their money. They kept pushing. So my boyfriend finally said he had savings for a small wedding. My father scuffed looked him up and down and said, well, I guess we have a saver. They are jealous. They are so jealous of this boyfriend because he is doing well financially.
He has his shit together and he’s happy. He’s happy with their daughter and they’re not happy. There may, maybe they didn’t save money. They spent all their money on their wedding, and so now they’re living with the repercussions of their actions. Repercussions. Repercussions. Oh my gosh, these people. Then my mother launched into a how wait.
Then my mother launched into how I couldn’t get married the next year because I was also graduating and the family wouldn’t attend two parties for me in one year. That’s when I told them, we already set the date Oh, to be a fly on that wall.
They went ballistic. I’m laughing because I’m so uncomfortable and I’m not even there. Like, oh my gosh, this is terrible. This is terrible. They went ballistic, screaming verbally, verbally abusing me. Oh my gosh, and completely losing control. I finally snapped, yelled back, and stormed out. My father followed not to talk to me, but to apologize.
To my boyfriend for my behavior saying I’m sorry. She’s crazy. So now the dad’s like, Hey buddy, we’re friends. All these women, they’re so crazy. Get out of here. Get out of here. We walked down the block to the car and just stared each other. Finally, my boyfriend said, holy shit, you are right. He is like, yeah, you know what?
Um, I think I’m gonna take some time to think about this. Oh my gosh. That same day he offered to let me move in with him. He said he’d always suspected that my parents treated me badly, but he had no idea it was this dangerous. Um, and don’t tell, I mean, I know this is happening, this was in the past, but don’t tell your parents his address because they sound incredibly toxic.
Incredibly dangerous, abusive, like. Holy cow. This is, this is not good. We never got their blessing. We never got an apology. Two days later, after yet another argument, I packed my things and moved in with my in-laws at my husband’s insistence. I wish I could say I went, no contact with them, but the saga continued throughout our engagement.
Wedding and even the birth of our son and daughter. Girl, you’ve got so many stories to share. I, I have a lot of questions. Maybe I’ll reach out. Um, the fact that they were still invited to the wedding, they didn’t wanna offer anything, not saying parents have to or need to, of course not. Absolutely not.
But. It’s not like they were holding a string over your head. They were literally screaming at you. They never once supported you. They made fun of your boyfriend, then boyfriend. So to have them be a part of the engagement, your wedding, and now the birth of your son and daughter, I can see now why you relate to Ferris and Sloan story so much.
Choosing Safety, Breaking Cycles, and Protecting Peace
Oh, their first postpartum visit to our home is another insane story. One that ended with my husband banning them from our house entirely, but I think I’ve written enough for now. Oh, this poor girl. Oh my gosh. She really relates to Ferris and Sloan. It was, wasn’t until my grandpa. My only remaining tethered to them passed away in March, 2024 that I finally went no contact.
I am so proud of you. Like it’s so complicated. Relationships are so complicated, and you know, I’m not someone that you should be like, I’m not someone that’s like, oh, go no contact, because every relationship is nuanced. You never know, but based on what I know here. This was long overdue and I’m so proud of you and I’m sure it was very complicated and very hard to get to this point.
They still slander me daily on Facebook. These are emotionally, mentally, whatever else, spiritually emo i, immature parents. The fact they treat you like this and post about you on Facebook, like, ugh, tell ’em to grow up. Anyway, I hope you enjoyed my story. I feel like it has the right amount of chaos to be one in one of your videos.
And for the record, we did have a beautiful ceremony and reception. It was one of the best days of my life. Second only to the birth of birth of my children. And yes, my mother wore a black dress. No one really noticed. Okay, well I’m glad the mom. Elise, I’m assuming, behaved yourself at the wedding and hopefully the dad, they still had their wedding that they wanted, and it still was a beautiful day.
So I’m glad for that. I’m glad that some people were able to close their mouths on this special day and let them enjoy it. But that is a wild story. If you ever feel like writing in more and sharing the rest, please do. Um, a lot of people say like. Writing these stories out of things that happened to them or things that they’ve seen is kind of therapy in a, in it, it’s kind of therapy in itself.
Um, it allows you to really go through your emotions again and really understand what happened. And then hearing other people’s stories allow you to see that you’re not alone and you’re not crazy. Um, because I think sometimes like our mind plays tricks on us and it’s like, oh, it wasn’t as bad. It wa you know, it didn’t happen like that, but it was your experience.
So I think writing it out can be really helpful, um, and understanding yourself, understanding what happened. Um, and hopefully in sharing this, other people can relate to you and maybe give some advice. Um. Or if other people are in the early stages, maybe you are in an engagement right now where their parents or your parents or some other relative is acting like this.
Um, so maybe we can share some advice as well. Oh my gosh, this, this poor couple. I’m really happy for you guys being able to go No, no contact. I think a lot of times children can bring that out in people because you’re like, I don’t wanna subject my child to this, and the cycle ends with me. Proud of you guys for that.
Alright, let’s end this episode with some confessions and then we’ll, we’ll get on with our days. All right. This is your biggest wedding regret. We always like to mix these up on Instagram, so that was the question of the week. Here we go. My father-in-law tried to influence what I was wearing on my wedding day, but I refused, so he made me cry.
What’s with these father-in-laws trying to influence what the bride wears? I read another story like that about him picking out Amazon dresses because they were affordable, like he wasn’t even paying for it. I don’t understand that this regret. It says not getting a professional photographer and not enough pics with my parents.
I think that’s one of the number one regrets I see. Photographer is so worth it getting a good photographer or videographer because I will tell you, I still see my wedding photos. We have them hanging, I have ’em in a photo book and it’s, it was so worth it to me not trying to do a small ceremony on a beautiful, small chapel that I’ve always wanted.
Okay. That makes me sad. I think a lot of times we get influenced by other people around us, or we see movies or we see what our best friend did and we’re like, ah, I need to have a wedding like that. I need to have a big wedding. I need to do this. And it, it pulls us away from what is actually true to us.
Um. I wish I had switched out some friends in my wedding party for my cousins. That’s hard. That’s hard when you regret having or not having someone in your wedding. All right, last one.
I let my friend do my hair and makeup. She’s, I let my friend do my hair and makeup, but she is no longer in my life. She turned out to be narcissistic. Well, that’s a whole can of worms. I, I’m sorry. I’m sorry that happened. Um, is the regret because she was not good at hair and makeup or the regret is because you’re not friends anymore?
Because if she did it well, who, who really cares? Because you could just be like, oh, it was a hairdresser. If it was that she’s not your friend. You only did it because she was your friend at the time and it was a bad hairstyle and makeup then. Yeah, that’s, that’s, that’s a regret I would have. Fun fact, I did my sister’s hair and makeup on her wedding day, and I’m four years younger than her.
Um, I’ve always loved doing hair and makeup. I’m no. In no way, shape, or form a professional. You, you guys can see I’m learning every day. Um, but makeup was not something that, like my sister completely enjoyed I think at the time. Um, and I remember doing it for her prom too, and her, um, another dance too. Um, so that was like fun.
But I don’t think I’ve done it for anybody else. Yeah, I don’t know. Anyway, that was a wild episode, wild story. Again, thanks for being here, you guys. This is my one year. Birthday of the podcast of Here Comes the Drama. Um, it’s just been so much fun to create so much fun meeting all these people, hearing your stories.
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