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Family reconciliation, your wedding plans back on track… and just a little more drama to go with it. Again.
This week, we read part two of a wedding submission about the sister’s lies, manipulation, and boundary-crossing behavior being finally exposed, forcing a reckoning that flips the entire family dynamic. Just when everything is out in the open and a reset feels possible, the story refuses to end there.
As I dive into what happens next, the stress doesn’t slow down, it multiplies. The mother-in-law pulls back, and support starts to feel conditional at best. Every step forward comes with something new to figure out, until the ex-wife’s eight demands take a turn just days before the wedding.
Also, turns out the drama had more to say. Our Book 2, Drama Ever After is in the works!
Listen to this episode for unexpected turns, family drama, and a wedding that really can’t catch a break.
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Must-Hear Insights and Key Moments
- Living Under One Roof – Staying with family during planning brings tension right back to the surface, proving that proximity doesn’t fix problems.
- The Wedding Dilemma: Blocked & Uninvited – A listener gets removed from a bachelorette group chat, blocked, and uninvited after already paying for the wedding.
- The Sister Still Doesn’t Get It – Even after everything is exposed, accountability is shaky, and the behavior doesn’t fully stop.
- Mother-in-Law Switch-Up – Support starts to shift, energy changes, and what once felt helpful begins to feel uncertain.
- The Bridal Shower Letdown – Plans that were once promised quietly fall through, leaving the bride to adjust expectations in real time.
- Money, But Make It Stressful – Loans, shifting budgets, and financial pullbacks turn support into another layer of pressure.
- Flight Plans in Flux – Travel expectations don’t align, adding tension to an already overloaded timeline.
- Court Date Before “I Do” – Just one day before the wedding, a legal situation involving the ex-wife raises the stakes and threatens the entire plan.
- The Drama Doesn’t Peak, It Piles – Instead of one big explosion, this story builds layer by layer, proving some wedding chaos doesn’t end, it evolves.
Words of Wisdom: Standout Quotes from This Episode
- “When people show you who they are, believe them. ”
- “ Never loan money you aren’t prepared to give away. ”
- “People don’t communicate, and they just take what one person says instead of actually confronting the situation. It could have all been avoided.”
- “ I appreciate when people are forward with how they feel and communicating because passive aggression creates more problems.”
- “Every relationship is so different and nuanced. It’s hard to know.”
*This conversation is for entertainment and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Please seek a licensed professional for your specific situation.
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Christa Innis: Hey guys. Welcome back to another episode of Here Comes The Drama. We are the podcast that dives into the chaos, hilarity, and unforgettable moments when it comes to weddings, events, and beyond. I’m your host, Christa Innis, today’s episode is a solo one. So we are just gonna dive right in. Starting off, I’m gonna read the review of the week.
This is from Toria. I look forward to all of the drama. It’s my guilty pleasure. Thank you for your kind review. If you guys are loving the podcast, please help me out by leaving a review, sharing with a friend. It just helps the word. Get out to more people and more people listening to these crazy and wild stories.
just a quick little update. I know I haven’t talked about it in a while, so I thought I would just share here. I’m currently working on book number two. if you are watching the current skit, which as I’m recording this, I’m on part 31 of the Bride Brielle skit. I’m recording this like a month ahead of time when you actually will listen to it.
So who’s to say if the, if this skit will still be going on, or if I took a pause and did something else. But, as I’m doing this skit, some of you guys are commenting like, can this be your next book? I love this story. This story’s so interesting. so it led me to. Realize I need to share more about the current book that I’m working on.
So in case you’re new here, book number one was, here Comes the Drama they focus on the characters. Ferris and Sloan from a skit that I started, gosh, we’re talking like two summers ago now. It’s wild. and the book came out Middle of June last year. and it was a great success.
It’s been so much fun sharing and seeing it all come to life. My goal has always been to write a book, so because you guys loved it so much, that book covered most of season one of the Ferris and Sloan story. I say most of in season one-ish, because once I took it onto paper, there’s a lot of things. I moved around, new dialogue added.
I made sure it just like. Flowed better, if that makes sense. because there’s some things when it as did it as a skit, it just didn’t really make sense. so the next book I’m working on is Drama Ever After. This is book number two. That kind of covers season two-ish. This one we’re really diving into the details, the background of each person, adding way more scenes that were never in the skits because as a one person.
Actor, skit, creator. There’s a lot I can’t do. Okay. A lot. So my imagination runs wild with a lot of these scenes and, let’s just say this book really takes it to a whole new level. I have my proof back, my manuscript back from my literary agent, and I’m currently going through all of my detailed edits, more of the, Developmental edits. I’m learning all the phrases as I go. So yes, so there is a book too in the works. I don’t have details on when it’ll be released or what that’s looking like yet. Um, we’re kind of going through a different process for this one than the first one. lots of exciting things ahead.
Not saying that the bride, Brielle won’t be a book, but the Ferris and Sloan storyline is my first priority. And then we’ll kind of see from there. If you have not yet read, here comes the drama, a Ferris and Sloan story. Grab your copy today. You can get it on Amazon, Cobo, Barnes and Noble. there’s a few others I’m not thinking of.
We have all the links below. You guys can check it out. and tag me on social media when you get it at. Hey Krista Ennis. I love seeing like where you guys are reading the book, your thoughts on the book. Create a cool video, I’ll reshare it. it’s just means so much to me to see it out there in the world and, hear what you guys think.
Wedding Dilemma: Blocked, Uninvited, and Owed Money
Let’s get into this week’s wedding dilemma. So these are different situations you guys are currently going through. Many of you guys DM them to me. You can also email it to me at hello@kristaennis.com and they’re kind of situations you’re going through currently and you just want some advice on again, I always wanna start this by saying I’m no expert, so this is just my own personal advice. Take it or leave it. Okay. This is what she says. They say, I should say, so I worked for this woman while she was planning her wedding. When I first started my job, she asked if I would go to her hen as we call the bachelorette party here.
and later I received a full wedding invitation, which I was happy to accept. I paid money toward accommodation for the hen party was about to pay for the other activities when I realized I had been removed from the group chat and blocked. I was also uninvited from the wedding. Am I okay to go to my former employer’s place of work and demand my money back?
Whoa. Okay. So I feel like there’s a lot missing from the story too, because it says you worked with a woman that was planning her wedding when you started a job. She had asked if you wanted to go at the end, you’re saying your former employer’s place of work. So somewhere in between that, I don’t know how long it was, you stopped working with this person because originally I’m thinking like.
doesn’t she know she’s gonna see you at work every day? Like, isn’t that gonna be awkward? So it sounds like to me, maybe you don’t work there anymore. I don’t know. Maybe you left, maybe you lost your job. I’m not sure the situation maybe you don’t talk to this person anymore. They don’t talk to you.
I feel like it’s very complicated when it comes to coworkers, right? Like. When you see someone every day, you’re like, these are my best friends. I would die for these people. I’ve had coworkers like that where I’m just like, you see them all the time, so you make plans with them.
You, wanna do things outside of work with them. You really get to know people that you work with. there were people that, like when I was getting married I worked with, that I invited to my bachelorette that if I wasn’t working with them, I’m like, would I have invited them? I don’t know.
Then I invited them all to my wedding. Now I’m trying to put myself in your shoes and being like, okay, if I stopped working somewhere or if someone had stopped working with me during that, it would really have to depend on my own personal relationship to that person. Now, if it’s a weird situation where maybe you guys ended on bad terms and other coworkers are going to this, and she’s like, I don’t know, it’s like,
Weird situation now. So I think she shouldn’t come to the wedding because it’s gonna be like a coworker table. Sure. But the bride should still be communicating with you. The fact that you paid is the biggest issue I’m seeing. They should be contacting you and being like, Hey, so I know things are kind of weird since we don’t work together anymore.
And I just think it would be better if maybe you just didn’t come to the bachelorette. every relationship is so different and nuanced. It’s hard to know. again, I feel like a lot is missing from this to know what happened no matter what, they should be giving you your money back.
I don’t also know what kind of place you worked at. Is it a place with customers? Is it a place where you’re in an office and secluded from people? Is it a place that allows people to show up? Is it a place with high security like, Let’s see. It says you’re blocked from the group chat. I would try to contact the bride directly if she has not blocked you.
It says the group chat blocked you, which this is so weird. that’s what makes me think like there’s some kind of weird work thing where they’re like, okay, you can’t socialize with people outside of work that don’t work here. believe me guys, I’ve worked for bosses before that. When you.
You leave the company or when someone else gets fired or leaves the company, you have to sign an NDA. It’s crazy. they’re like, you can’t socialize with people outside of work, which is bonkers and so weird. so it makes me wonder if it’s something weird like that.
Either way, at the end of the day, because you paid towards this, they should be communicating with you and paying you back. The whole thing about you being removed from the group chat and blocked with no one communicating to you, any of this is so weird. also, how do you know you were uninvited from the wedding?
Did she communicate this to you? Did she say, Hey, since you’re fired, fired, I’m assuming or since you quit our work? Since I don’t see you anymore, I really don’t think you should come to the wedding or did something else happen that told you you were uninvited from the wedding? So, like I said, I feel like a lot’s missing here.
so based on what I do know, I would say contact the bride if you have no way of contacting anybody. depending on your place of work, I think it would be maybe okay just to, um, call the place of work and say like, Hey, can I get my money back for this? This is so hard because I just don’t get the, whole group chat blocking you.
But also can I add something else to this? Sorry guys. I’m kind of all over with this one ’cause this is just a very odd situation. She said she starts working for this woman. So wait, I’m reading this differently now. The woman is the boss. So she started working for this girl, this woman, when she was planning her wedding.
when you first started, she asked that you wanna go to her he party. I think that’s a little fishy. I’m not inviting someone I just met, let alone someone that works for me to my hen party. Or my bachelorette. So this sounds to me like she didn’t have the funds for something. Ooh, guys, now I’m getting really into like conspiracy about this.
Okay? This woman wanted a really great bachelorette party, right? She was like, I don’t have enough money to pay for the things I want. I’m gonna hire somebody and invite her right away. Tell her the cost of it. Get her in this group chat. Then I’m going to fire her when I decide I don’t want her to come, or when I decide that, we’ve had enough of her, because that’s so odd to me that the first day or one of the first few weeks when she, this person that sent this in, started this job, the boss is like, Hey, do you wanna come to my bachelorette party?
Like what? I would never invite someone I just met to my bachelorette party. So this sounds to me like it was a setup from the beginning and they wanted to get to your money. So going back to your former employer’s place of work, because she was your boss, it was her wedding then. Yeah, I would, I don’t know how much you paid.
But it says you paid towards the accommodation, and other activities. Oh, you were about to pay for the act,other activities. So we don’t know how much you paid, but you paid her. This was your I think I would go back. If they blocked you, I’d be going back. If not, you might have take other legal action again, depending how much it is.
cause chances are someone like this, is not their first rodeo. All right guys. I hope that was great advice. I know I was kind of all over the place, but that’s wild. I reread it and I’m like, wait, this woman is the boss and she invited her employee the first day, that’s her first week or whatever.
That’s very odd to me. So she is like a fake like buddy. Buddy. Like, oh my God, you should come to my party and then talks about you behind your back. We all know people like that. All right. If you guys have a wedding dilemma or any kind of dilemma you wanna send me and get my, UN expertise, please send it my way.
Would You Rather: Wedding Drama Edition
You can DM me on Instagram at Hey Christa Innis, or email me at hello@kristaennis.com. All right, before we get to this week’s story. Let’s do a quick little, would you rather, would you rather your mom hate your partner or your mother-in-law openly criticize you? Oh, I don’t like either of those. I don’t like either.
if I had to pick one,
God, this is hard. usually, I’m like, okay, I know what I’m gonna do, but
why does my mom hate my partner? I think I would say that one. ‘ cause in my mind I’m like, okay, I can either change that, like maybe she has her own judgments and I can change it, or I just have to create a boundary. But for a mother-in-law to openly criticize. I guess it’s like hate from either side, so it’s either like I get hate or my partner gets hate.
I don’t know. I feel like you’d have more control with your own mom maybe. I don’t know. That one’s hard. Would you rather deal with a passive aggressive comment or full blown confrontations?
Full blown confrontation. I’d rather have a confrontation. Me as someone that hates confrontation.
I’m like, sweating. And there’s not even a confrontation happening. I think the older I get, I appreciate when people are forward with how they feel and they’re communicating because passive aggression, it creates more problems I think because as someone like me that always thinks people don’t like them, so we could get along.
Spiel about this, but I will literally hang out with best friends of mine and on my drive home I’m like, oh my gosh, they hate me. They literally hate me. And it could literally be at the dinner or wherever I’m at, at their house. And we’re literally having a one-on-one talk and they’re like, oh, I’m so grateful for you.
You’re my friend. And I’m literally like, oh my gosh. What did I say? Like, they probably hate me. This is the last time we’re hanging out and I don’t know what that is. Someone can tell me. so yeah, let’s do the confrontation. Would you rather your parents overshare your business or your in-laws pry nonstop?
I would say pry. I’d rather have someone pry and I come off as maybe they’re interested in learning more. I don’t know. Would you rather your family guilt trip you or your partner’s family give you the silent treatment? About what? Mm, I think I’m gonna go, gosh, um, silent treatment because that just, I mean, if someone’s giving a silent treatment, I don’t have time to care.
Would you rather have parents who want control or in-laws who disappear unless they need something?
Probably these are really hard this week. Maybe parents who want control, I don’t know. Uh, okay. Would you rather your parents demand guest list control or your in-laws dictate traditions? I’m a bad one to ask these questions to because like my wedding, like. I was very like, this is what I want. And no one really said like, I wa I was like laid back, but also like I knew what things I did and didn’t want.
Um, like when it came to the actual like wedding and ceremony itself, like other things, I was laid back. Like someone could have shown up in the white dress and I probably wouldn’t have cared. Um, I would say more so. Guest control? No, I would say dictate traditions maybe. So like if something was really important to their family, I think I would more so do that than someone demand guest list control, because no one’s gonna invite someone I don’t want in my wedding.
Would you rather have financial help that comes with opinions or zero help and zero support? I would rather have financial help that comes with opinions. Um, because like I’ve said before, if you. Have mutual respect for your parents or your in-laws. That’s mutual respect. There should no be no problem with opinions.
It’s when people hang it over your head and say, I’m gonna control your day now because I gave you money, or I have a right to change things because I gave you money. If they’re gonna give opinions, I think, yeah, it’s everybody’s. It can be everybody’s day. Let’s all celebrate together and enjoy the day for all of us.
Last one. Would you rather be judged for how you spend money or how you don’t? Ooh, I think what would hurt more would be judged for how I spend money. Because it’d be like, well, if it matters to me, why does it matter? So I would rather be judged for how I don’t spend money and be like, okay, well I’m a good saver.
Wedding Submission: Part Two Begins—The Sister’s Lies Come Out
I dunno. Or like, oh, you should spend money on this. Okay, well I don’t want to. Here’s this week’s story submission, and now there’s a little backlog to this. Backlog might be the wrong word, but we’re gonna throw it in there anyway. So two weeks ago I had a Cliff Notes gal on the episode and um, it ended with the person saying, this was just part one.
There’s so much more to come. Let me know when you’re ready for a part two. And we were both like, oh my gosh, we need to get a part two. So right away we emailed the person and said, would you like to send us more to this story for us to read on the podcast? Um. So she sent us, she sent us a lot more, you guys.
So we’re gonna throw in a little clip here from last week, or I’m sorry, from two weeks ago, so you guys can kinda get caught up quickly. If you do not have time, I do. First, I recommend if you do not listen to it yet, go back to Cliffnotes Gal episode from two weeks ago. Listen to this story. But if you do not have time, we’re gonna throw in a quick clip here just to kind of refresh your memory and then we’ll get into this part.
Okay. Hopefully that jogged your guys’ memory a little bit. I know right before I was recording this, I kind of like read through it again. Um, it was a wild one. So let’s get into her update and, uh, what happened since then? It is, it’s long, so. Before we get into it, guys, go grab yourself a drink. Get comfy.
Get your comfy on. Um, like, I don’t even have a bra on right now, so do what you gotta do to get comfy. Um, I got my energy drink.
All right. Here we go. After the phone call from my parents, I felt deflated and unsupported. My mother-in-law was very understanding and said it was okay. We could have a wedding here at home, but I really wanted my granddad, who was almost 90 to be present on my wedding day. We decided to pause the wedding planning for a bit and take a break despite pressure from my mother and sister to provide a date.
We focused on normal life. Communication with my parents became less and less because I didn’t feel like calling them as much or flying out to see them. My mother-in-law started planning my bridal shower and my partner and I decided not to do bachelor and bachelorette parties. Oh, that makes me so sad.
It’s like when someone deflates your balloon, like balloon like that, you just stop going to them for things. And it sounds like all the things that she wanted to do, she’s just like, I just don’t care anymore. Because she was excited and then they were just like, yeah, like every little thing was just a critique and control.
In May, however, my granddad was involved in a car accident. Even though he wasn’t hurt, it made me realize time wasn’t something we had. Thankfully, my partner understood and we decided to get married in my home country so my granddad could be there. We chose a date and started on the invitations. We picked a Saturday so no one could use the excuse of needing time off work or not being able to attend.
I picked up the phone and called my parents. My mom answered, and as soon as I said we were getting married in Belgium, my home, she became excited and started sharing many ideas. So they were like kind of weird, like not really talking, and then she’s like, Hey, we’re getting married again. And the mom’s like, hoo, like, okay.
My dad still said he would not walk me down the aisle, but he would be there on my wedding day. Why that’s so weird. Why would he not walk her down the aisle? I still don’t understand that. We gave them a rough outline of our ideas and what we wanted for the day. My mom seemed okay with our suggestions, but also had a lot of things she wanted.
Time flew by and in August we flew to Belgium to start wedding preparations. The venue we chose didn’t include caterers, decorations, or anything else. Just a building in the middle of the woods, a massive outdoor fire pit and enough sleeping spaces for guests traveling overseas. That sounds like an awesome venue.
I love that. It’s all built into one. I always say like. Having a wedding where like everything is on one site is so nice. Like those are my favorite to attend. I know it’s not always feasible or near you or always works, but when it can work, it’s like it’s bomb. Like, you can walk everywhere, take a bus, you know, whatever.
It’s, it’s, it’s really nice. All right. We stay with my parents and you could feel the tension from everything that had happened. The one strong bond we shared felt fragile. For the first two days, we avoided wedding talk and tried to reconnect. However, I noticed my sister had no sense of boundaries.
Well, yeah, we learned that the last time when she came onto your fiance. I still, if your sister does that, like how do you respond? I don’t think I would want them near my partner. That’s weird. She obviously has no boundaries. She kept coming downstairs late at night wearing nothing but a see-through dressing gown, clearly positioning herself so my partner would see her.
Okay, this, this is where we have to be like I’m distancing myself and I get it. You want to like make things right? Sounds like she really wants everything to be fine and work with them, but. When people show you who they are, believe them. Right? That’s what we’re saying. Um, I wouldn’t be staying with them.
I wouldn’t trust someone like that. Something snapped in me on day three. I raised my voice and told her to back off and show some respect. My partner felt uncomfortable and let me handle it, but when my sister started lashing out at me, he stepped in and told her to stop treating me that way. My dad, who had only caught half the story, came down on both of us, like a wall of bricks.
I told my partner to go upstairs and start packing our bags. I told my family I would never stay with them again, and that they were all uninvited from the wedding and my life. Oh, so this was her thing, like not her thing, but she, this was the moment where she was like, that’s it. I’m not taking any more bullshit from you guys.
We’re done. Upstairs. I could hear my dad shouting at my sister and the door slamming, but I was beyond angry. After about 30 minutes, we came downstairs with our bags packed, ready to leave. My partner had left a few things in the garden, so he kissed me and went to grab them. That’s when my mom pulled, that’s when my mom pulled me aside and my dad followed my partner into the garden.
Family Reconciliation and a Sudden Shift
What. I had a long conversation with my mom and found out that since our visit the year before, my sister had been causing most of the arguments. She’s older than me, has no partner and felt it was unfair that I was getting married. First, she told my parents lies about my partner, claiming he went through their belongings when they weren’t looking, stared at her too much, shouted at her, and was rude.
I showed my mom proof that none of that was true, including countless texts where I asked my sister to be respectful and considerate of my partner’s nocturnal epilepsy. So they’re just believing the sister until this moment. All these negative things, and then they’re finally realizing that the sister’s just starting all this drama.
She had started making extremely loud noises. As soon as she heard him waking up, which can trigger seizures. I had to ask her daily to stop. By the time I finished talking with my mom, I heard my dad and my partner calmly talking in the garden. When my partner saw my face, he motioned for me to come outside.
My dad then admitted all the false accusations my sister had made and apologized for not asking me whether they were true. Wow. My dad has MS. And diabetes and his health has been declining over the past few years. The stress was too much for him, and avoiding conflict felt easier. our presence, increased tension, which my sister had framed as coming from us rather than her.
And that made him push me away. My dad and I have always been very close, something my sister has been deeply jealous of. She bonded more with our mom as she isn’t interested in fast cars or getting her hands dirty like my dad and I are. My dad is also extremely protective of me because I left my home country after an abusive relationship that I barely escaped because of that.
My sister planting seeds. My current partner was aggressive, triggered alarm bells for him. Yes, they saw my partner angry in the mornings after my sister deliberately pushed his EP epilepsy to the limit. No, he cannot control his mood. When his epilepsy is triggered, he becomes a shell of himself until the she, until the seizure actively settles.
We all sat down and finally realized my sister was causing all the issues for no reason. I asked where she was and my dad said that he had sent her out so we could figure out how to fix things. As soon as I said I would never come back, my dad realized he didn’t wanna lose me. We agreed my sister could return to the house, but she had to stop the lies and the drama.
I obviously, I don’t know what’s gonna happen, but. My thought from just this is no matter what, you need to stay somewhere on your own. The sister’s not gonna change with one conversation. And I’m not saying you can’t give her the opportunity, but she has crossed the line so many times that I think space is gonna be the best thing.
Like get your own place. You can see them for breakfast or whatever, see ’em at certain times. But you do not all need to be staying together at this point. When she came back, she acted like nothing had happened. Smiling and saying hello as if we were best friends. My partner ignored her completely. I stood there uncomfortable.
My dad broke the silence by asking her why she lied and why she tried to trigger my partner’s epilepsy. She denied everything until my partner laid out the proof. She began stuttering. She complained it was unfair. She couldn’t do her normal morning routines while we were there. That being quiet for an hour after my partner woke up wasn’t realistic.
My partner explained again that it was only for an hour and that he sat in the garden afterward. She only had to wait about 10 minutes for him to go outside. She claimed we had never explained it clearly many times, or we had many times.
See, I feel like this is all stemming from, I mean, obviously there’s like a lot of. There’s a lot of anger and jealousy it feels like, but I feel like this is now like being even more vibrant because they’re staying together in this house, like all these like morning routines and stuff, just get your own place.
She then shifted blame onto me saying I was dad’s favorite, that I was younger and I shouldn’t be getting married first. That caused all the arguments and that. I caused all the arguments and that I never spent time with her. So jealousy again, I don’t get the age thing. I don’t think it really matters who gets married first.
That all comes from insecurity. If you are feeling bad about yourself, every little thing like that’s gonna bother you.
After about 10 minutes, both my partner and my dad shouted enough. My partner told her not to speak to him until she could show me respect. My dad told her that if she couldn’t behave respectfully, she was the one that needed to leave and stay at her own place. My sister owns her own home, but mostly lives with my parents because it’s cheaper.
Utilities, food, laundry, everything. But if she already owns her own home, like isn’t she paying for that house? So why does it matter if it’s cheaper living with your parents? I dunno. Okay. We agreed to stay out of each other’s way as much as possible. That night, we went out for dinner privately to make amends.
The evening. Turned out surprisingly well, my dad and my partner bonded. My dad agreed to walk me down the aisle and my mom offered to pay for a church wedding where she sang in the choir. This just shows again, passive aggressive comments we’re talking about, like this just shows when one little thing just boils and boils and boils and people don’t communicate and they just take like what one person said instead of actually like confronting the situation.
It could have all been avoided. Now they’re all like, Woohoo, we’re so excited. You’re getting married. Let’s do this. Oh, walk you down the aisle. Like what? Let’s just talk people. Holy cow. With the venue and church sorted out, and my parents on board, we avoided discussing the dress. Over the next few days, we planned decorations and flowers.
Mother-in-Law Pullback, Money Stress, and Travel Drama
My mom’s friend, a professional photographer, gifted us our wedding photos. Other family friends volunteered to help decorate the venue. Things finally felt calmer. However, my mother-in-law grew quiet and distant. Oh, okay. So now she’s not happy. Maybe because they’re involved again. When we told her we made amends and that my sister caused the issues, she simply said, Hmm.
Weeks passed quickly with calls from my parents as we finalized details for our December 20th wedding In early October, I asked my mother-in-law about my bridal shower. She told me there wouldn’t be one. What is going on with all these people? Does no one wanna see this poor bride happy? I feel like now the mother-in-law is mad that the family is back and involved because maybe she’s not needed as much.
But then I would be like, all right, I’m gonna make this the best bridal shower ever because she deserves it. What she said once we chose, we once, she said once we chose Belgium for the wedding, she couldn’t afford both and canceled the plans, but offered leftover wine and sparkling wine for my partner’s sister, sister’s shower.
Okay. So again, I understand if, if someone’s moving their wedding to Belgium, that is gonna be very expensive, especially if you’re staying there, you have to do flight accommodations. That can definitely get expensive. However, if the mother-in-law said, I’m hosting your bridal shower, don’t worry about it.
I’m gonna do everything for it. If all of a sudden she can’t afford it anymore, she needs to again communicate and talk to the bride and say like, Hey, well now that you moved it to Belgium, I don’t have the budget for it. I can’t afford it. Because then at that point the bride could be like, you know what, let me um, ask my parents, or maybe some friends can chip in or maybe I can chip in, or maybe we don’t need a shower.
Maybe let’s just do like a luncheon. Let’s just, you know, whatever they can communicate, like what is going on with people. Gosh, okay. I was disappointed, but understood. She said she couldn’t afford flights or food and felt excluded because some conversations in the group chat were in Dutch. I explained, I translated everything.
She dismissed it saying she felt like an ornament. So she’s saying she can’t afford the shower. Well, she’s saying she couldn’t afford both, but now she’s saying she can’t even afford the flights to Belgium. So she might not be able to afford either to involve her more. I suggested she decorate the Christmas tree and help hang lights at the venue.
She seemed happier. So can she. Can she go to Belgium? I’m so confused. Two days later, she invited me for tea alone. She asked if I could help pay for her flights. I loaned her 300 euro, clearly stating I needed it back by December.
Uh, okay. I mean, there’s a famous, there’s like a not famous quote. There’s a quote about like, lending money, and it’s basically like, don’t expect it back. I’m gonna, I have to find it. Like, it’s basically like, okay, hold on.
Here it is. Never loan money you aren’t prepared to give away. So basically like don’t expect it back. It’s saying like it’s. Common wisdom because like if you desperately need the money, you shouldn’t be giving it to somebody. So if you’re like, okay, I can loan them $50 because if I don’t get it back, it’s not the end of the world.
It’s not the end of the world. I always said that twice. Um, like, yes, we should have all intentions that someone’s gonna pay us back and we should hope that, but don’t lend money that you can’t afford to not have. Right. Um. You aren’t prepared to give away, right? So I feel like this is coming a bad way. Um, okay.
I booked flights that day and didn’t tell my partner right away. He wasn’t thrilled about it, but accepted it. So I’m guessing she booked her flight later that day, later during my partner’s birthday, his family revealed they hadn’t booked flights and shortened their stay. Despite us already booking accommodations, paying for food, and hosting everyone, they complained about hair and makeup.
I explained we were over budget and couldn’t afford more. My partner supported me. I’m living the partner’s support in this. It sounds like he’s very involved and is like behind her. He’s honored by her side, making sure they’re on the same page, which I feel like is. It’s a problem when they’re not right and, and they’re catering to everybody else.
Ex-Wife’s Eight Demands
So it’s good that they’re on the same page. Um, but I feel like things are gonna get worse then things got worse. His ex-wife, whoa, we’re getting more details here. Refused to sign, I’m sorry. Refused to release his son’s passport unless we met a list of eight demands. So he has a son and an ex-wife. I, I don’t think that was said before, unless I’m forgetting.
Wow. Okay. Eight demands. We compromised where we could, but she refused. We had to seek emergency legal action with a court date set for December 16th, the day before our flight. Oh my gosh. I mean. Sharing a child with someone has like that you’re no longer with co-parenting has gotta be super hard. I’ve seen things, I’ve heard stories like, so we don’t know their situation.
We don’t know why they got a divorce, why, you know, she doesn’t want the son to go. Maybe there’s other issues, but also like as a, as a mother, I’m like. Letting your child go overseas with another family, that’s gotta be a little scary too. So, trying to listen from all points of views here, um, that’s gotta be a lot.
It says, amid court prep decorations arrived, alterations were happening, and my partner’s custom suit arrived wrong. Thankfully, it was fixed in time, 20 days before the wedding. My mother-in-law called to say she wouldn’t repay the loan until January. I needed that money for nails and hair. Told you, I told you.
Especially before your wedding, if you need the money for it, you can’t be lending people money. And again, obviously everything’s hindsight’s 2020. Um, but yeah, oh my gosh, with no extra funds. I used Box D and Stick on Nails. My partner made the best of it as he always does, guys. And that’s where it ends.
That was like a novel in itself. Um, maybe there’s more because we need to know about the wedding and what happened with that, but I just feel like there’s a lot of like immature people in this story. So we went from like her family to being like terrible to the mother-in-law, being awesome, to now the family’s involved and the mother-in-law doesn’t want anything to do with her.
People need to set their egos aside and work together to make the bride and groom’s day like. Right. Um, obviously there’s a lot to this story that we don’t know. We got a lot of information, but there’s still a lot missing. Like, I don’t know anything about this ex-wife and the son, um, or the, her relationship with the mother-in-law with the ex-wife.
Gosh, this is, this is a lot to, to figure out. I’m glad, like I said, I’m glad that the partner has been on your, like, on your side and he’s supporting you. Um, but man, this is, um, so, so it sounds like his family did come. What’s the sister’s situation? How do we feel about that? Because the, to me, the sister crossed the line so many times, I don’t, I don’t think a conversation is gonna make that better.
The fact that she tried hitting on your fiance is just super weird to me, and I don’t think I could let that go. Um. So, yeah, I don’t know. Tell me what you guys think about this. Like I said, we got a lot, but we also are missing a lot. I’m glad we got the continuation. But how did the wedding go? I mean, it must have happened this last December.
Did the son get to come? Is there gonna be more? I don’t know. All right. Maybe we should reach out to her for part three. I’m telling you, you know, it’s funny, like. When I started doing the podcast, it was because I was getting so many of your guys’ stories and I had like, at that time I think I had like 300 or something stories and I was like, I gotta put these on the podcast because the skits start becoming like more of like, what’s up here?
I just kinda like create them. Um, and so I was like, I need to a podcast where I can just read them, where I can read these real stories. I was looking recently, I’ve got like, I think it said like 700. Unused ones in the document, maybe even more. I’ve not had the time to like scroll through all of them. So you guys never disappoint.
You’ve got some wild stories. If you are listening and you have a wild story to share, please submit it. There’s a link below. You can submit your stories. Um, we’re always looking for new stories. We use them for our YouTube channel podcast, live reactions. Um. And then I also started a new thing on social media called comment section confessions.
So when you guys reply in the comments on things, sometimes we’ll reshare those as well because it’s wild. It’s a wild world out there guys. And um, all we can do is laugh sometimes because it’s, it’s crazy to think that these things are actually happening. Um, and. I feel like a lot of times when people write in these stories, they, it helps them kind of release something and it’s almost like therapeutic to be able to share that.
Alright, well that was, that was a long one. All right. As always, like to end these with some confessions, so here we go. This question we asked you guys was, what wedding cost do you regret the most? I have to think about if I have one that I regret the most. Honestly, like we were pretty, frugal is the wrong word, but I was pretty clean, clear about how I wanted to spend money for the wedding and stuff.
Um, maybe favors, ’cause everyone’s, everyone always says like, you don’t really need favors. Um, but like, we didn’t do like an expensive plated dinner. We did a taco bar, we did pizza for after. We did pizza for our rehearsal dinner. Um, we got married in off season on a Friday, so we saved money on the venue that way.
We did open bar, but we didn’t do like the top package. So, um, that was probably the most expensive, but to me that was worth it. I think that was probably the most expensive. Um, but yeah, let’s see what people say. Okay. This person says a live band. Ooh. I’m curious why I, I’ve been to some weddings with live bands and they were, they were amazing.
I didn’t know live bands could perform like that. ’cause I had always thought like, oh, DJ over live band. But I’ve been to like two or three weddings where there was a live band and they could sing any song. It was so good. Actually it was at like a women’s camp last summer. I can’t think of the name of the band.
I can’t remember it, but I think, I know they were from Pittsburgh. Um, because they played the office theme song, but they could play like any song. I felt like it was a live, like, like there was a live dj. Like they were so good. Um, okay, this person said custom napkins. Yeah, that seems like ACOs we don’t need, um, this person says.
Letting my husband get talked into purchasing a second suit seven years, and the second suit hasn’t been used. I’m wondering if that was like at your suit, like try-on or whatever, and they’re like, here, get a second one for half off, or whatever that happens. That happens. I’ve heard of a lot of people doing like a lot more, so brides doing like multiple outfits now.
For me, I was like, I got this beautiful dress. It’s comfortable. I’m wearing it the whole time. Um, I’ve seen now like some women have up to three outfits and this is no shame if that’s your thing, if you’re like a fashion girl and you saw multiple things and that’s in your budget, you go like, go on with yourself.
Like, I think that’s great. For me that would be like a waste. ’cause I’m like, I’m spending money on this dress, I wanna wear it. Um, this person says alcohol. Um, this person says photo booth that were only used by less than 10 guests. I’ve noticed that with photo booths, like they’re fun, but I feel like they’ve kind of gone down since like.
I feel like weddings that I went to in like the early, like 2010s that I had, photo booth, those were like amazing. Those were so fun. And every once in a while it’s like fun to come home with like the photo thing, but they’re, they’re expensive. I, I don’t, I never looked at pricing for them, but I know there’re a few thousand dollars and people still get photographers on top of that.
So that’s, that can be a lot. All right guys. That’s all I have for this week. Thanks for hanging out with me. Um, again, if you guys love this episode, please do me a favor and share it with a friend. Leave me a review, tag me on your socials. Um, I would love to hear what you guys are thinking about the podcast.
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