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What do you do when your maid of honor says yes to the role… and then acts like your wedding is the last thing she wants to talk about?
This week, I’m reacting to a story from a bride whose best friend slowly checked out of wedding planning, while another bridesmaid stepped up and became the support person she desperately needed.
Then we’re diving back into the mother-in-law seating chart saga, where a simple table assignment spirals into family drama, emotional manipulation, and threats that had me asking… are we really doing all this over a seating chart?
From friendship disappointments to wedding power struggles, we’re talking about boundaries, expectations, and protecting your peace when other people try to make your wedding all about them.
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Must-Hear Insights and Key Moments
- The Maid of Honor Who Checked Out – A bride notices her best friend becoming increasingly distant throughout wedding planning and wonders if it’s time to remove her from the role.
- The Birthday Cake That Said Everything – What should have been a simple birthday request becomes a painful reminder that expectations and effort aren’t always aligned in friendships.
- A Bridesmaid Steps Up – Another member of the bridal party immediately jumps into action, planning a dream bachelorette after seeing the bride struggling alone.
- Should You Demote Your Maid of Honor? – We discuss how to navigate difficult conversations while preserving important friendships.
- The Seating Chart Showdown Continues – A follow-up story reveals even more chaos as a mother-in-law demands complete control over wedding seating arrangements.
- Threats, Tantrums, and Manipulation – Family tensions escalate when the mother-in-law threatens to cut off her son and withdraw support over table assignments.
- Why Boundaries Matter Before Marriage – I explain why wedding planning often reveals relationship dynamics that will continue long after the ceremony.
- Wedding Hot Takes – From guest list debates to family invitations and partner loyalty, I share my unfiltered opinions on common wedding controversies.
Words of Wisdom: Standout Quotes from This Episode
- “If someone has to threaten you to get their way, the problem isn’t the seating chart.”
- “You can love someone deeply and still stop carrying responsibilities they refuse to carry themselves.”
- “Being family doesn’t give anyone unlimited access to your boundaries.”
- “A wedding invitation should come from love, not guilt.”
- “If your expectations keep getting smaller and they’re still not being met, it’s time for an honest conversation.”
- “People show you who they are when they don’t get their way. Pay attention.”
- “Protecting your peace isn’t selfish. It’s necessary, especially on your wedding day.”
- “If you give them an inch, they will take a mile.”
*This conversation is for entertainment and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Please seek a licensed professional for your specific situation.
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Christa Innis: Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of Here Comes the Drama. I’m your host, Christa Innis, and I hope I sound better this week. I know each week will sound a little bit better. If you’re new here, I moved about a month ago, and I’m working on making my office/recording studio a little less echoey and a little more podcasty.
so I am making small changes every single week. If you are watching the video, you can see I have shelves now behind me, which doesn’t really help much, but I did add this little, like, felt mouse pad thing in front of me, so I think that should help a little bit. I have a tree coming. I have a chair coming, and I’m gonna add wood panels, with some maybe cork boards or something.
so I’m hoping you guys can hear me okay. I know it’s really annoying when you can hear, like, an echo, so hopefully that doesn’t stop you from listening. I appreciate all the feedback. It’s been super, super helpful. Just trying to figure out what works right now. if you guys do watch my skits regularly, you, you will notice I do film in a bedroom still because…
I shouldn’t say still. I used to film in a bathroom. So I film in a bedroom now because, It’s a lot, the sound is way better ’cause there’s a couch in there. It’s absorbing the sound way better. Here, I have a window with, no blinds yet, and then my French doors, so I feel like there’s just a lot of echo.
However, this is the best setup for filming right now. a lot of things we’re figuring out, but d- it doesn’t matter. In the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t matter. I just hope you guys can hear me okay. Always open to feedback, so just hopefully this is a little bit better. I’m also trying out this new microphone.
It feels funny kinda holding it, but, baby steps. Baby steps. like I said, I will have a chair, so I hope to film in a different part of the room for a podcast. and yeah, hopefully that works. Okay, starting off, I just wanna read this week’s, review. It says, “Love this podcast. Got hooked on Christa’s skits on Instagram and was so excited when I found her podcast.
Perfect for long drives.” Thank you for your kind review. Again, of course, if you are loving the podcast, please share it w- with a friend. Please leave a review. It really helps the word get out and more people enjoy these wild, drama-filled stories. Okay, let’s get started. Someone sent me a long wedding dilemma today, so let’s read it together and see what advice I can give.
And I would like to just say it is solicited, because you did ask for it, but I’m just giving it from my own personal, experience. Take what parts of it you would like and leave the rest.
The Maid of Honor Who Checked Out
Okay, this says, “Hi, Christa. I am getting married in October, and I think I’m at my wit’s end with this situation. My fiance and I got engaged a few years ago,
And I asked my best friend to be my maid of honor immediately. She said yes. Well, we had to postpone due to financial reasons, and finally got back into planning last year. The entire process, I feel like she has withdrawn more and more. It’s at the point where I don’t feel like I can bring up the wedding around her without it getting dismissed, subject changed, or otherwise glossed over.
Like, she has no interest in talking about it, and when we do talk about it, it feels superficial. I don’t wanna force her into a role that feels like she no longer wants, but don’t know how to approach the topic with her. The most she’s even discussed it with me recently is just mentioning the kinds of bridesmaids gifts she got at other weddings and what I might be doing.
That’s interesting. That’s very interesting to me that she doesn’t bring up how she can help with the wedding, but is just bringing up what she’s gotten as gifts being in weddings. again, like every wedding is different, so I do think it’s really important to communicate. But let’s see what else she asked.
The Birthday Cake That Said Everything
I sent the exact cake, a $25 to $30 Walmart cake, to her months in advance when I first mentioned it to her.
She also alluded to not having a wedding party or having a very small one when she gets married, always implying I would not have a role. Oh, that’s interesting. This is your best friend. Recently, I had a birthday celebration with her and a few friends. All I asked for my birthday was to not have to order my own cake.
I sent the exact $25 to $30 Walmart cake to her in months in advance when I first mentioned it to her. The cake was meant to be heart-shaped in pink and black with a pun written on it. I didn’t want gifts or anything. I told her I even pay for the cake or order it myself if she couldn’t or just didn’t want to.
The cake was important to me as a milestone of sorts and first time even really celebrating my birthday in years. Important context, my birthday falls on a holiday weekend where a lot of people buy cakes, so it’s important to order my cake way ahead of time. The week leading up to the party, she asked me what flavor of cake I wanted.
This made me a bit apprehensive, but I told her the flavor and offered to pay for it. On the day of the celebration, she picked me up and told me I can’t be disappointed about my cake because she’s really tired and it was hard to order one because of the holiday, so I already felt crushed. We get to the restaurant and she pulls out a cake.
It’s a small, white, round cake like you’d get from the bakery shelf and a few cupcakes. No writing on it at all. I felt really hurt. Initially, she was supposed to plan my bachelorette, but even trying to talk to her about it always gets kicked down the road. I even downgraded everything I originally wanted.
The Bridesmaid Who Stepped Up
I wanted a weekend stay at a cabin or a hotel and downgraded to an evening at her house to try to accommodate her and make it less stressful. After the birthday party incident, another bridesmaid reached out and asked about my bachelorette. I broke down and told her about the cake, feeling like I was burdening my maid of honor.
She immediately said she wanted to help plan it and take it off my hands immediately. Within hours, this bridesmaid had something booked, arranged for the others to take off time, and even asked me out to lunch to ask my ideas for my dream bachelorette. Wow. I told her everything while still insisting I didn’t need anything huge and she told me she had it all handled.
My maid of honor did not seem put off when she reached out about the dates and took it in stride. I’m incredibly grateful for that friend that stepped up when she didn’t have to. This brings me to my dilemma. ” I don’t wanna take advantage of the friend that is stepping up or make her feel unappreciated.
I also don’t wanna burn down a friendship with my maid of honor and still want her at my wedding. How should I handle this situation? Do I keep her as maid of honor in title but not responsibility? How do I talk to her about any of this? Thank you for your advice.” Okay. This is one of those situations where There’s definitely some hidden feelings.
Reading this through, it sounds like very clearly to me as an outsider, this maid of honor wants no part in this wedding. Whether or not she has the time, the money, you know, any of that, I shouldn’t say besides the point, it does matter, the fact of the matter is she’s not communicating it to you.
The fact that she mentions that she was very tired so don’t be disappointed in the cake lets me know that she’s kinda hinting at, “I’ve got a lot going on, and your wedding is kind of last priority.” And not saying it should be the first priority, because I always tell everyone, people’s lives should not stop for your wedding, right?
But it sounds to me like you’ve been very communicative with her about what you’re expecting, what you need, what you want. I mean, you pretty much wrote out exactly what you wanted for a cake, and it was the complete opposite. I would be disappointed in that, I think. when you have these expectations and you’re very clear about it.
You’re like, “I just don’t wanna purchase it myself. I’ll give you the money. This is exactly what I want.” And she did not do that. So to expect her to do anything else for the wedding, I would completely take that off my list. I would not expect it. So the main dilemma here is this other friend comes in, and she’s like, “Let me handle everything.
Stop worrying about it. I wanna do this for you.” without a even pause, she has everything planned for you, everything that you wanted, and really takes into consideration what you want specifically, and making it true to you, right? So this reads clear for me. you’re going to have a conversation with your maid of honor, and you’re gonna say, ” I really value our friendship.
Obviously, I would not have asked you to be my maid of honor in the first place if I didn’t. However, I can see there’s a lot going on. I understand my wedding’s not the most important thing. You have a lot of things going on right now, so I would like to kindly ask you just to step down as maid of honor.
I still want you as a bridesmaid. I still want you to be there and be a part of as many things as you would like. but for the time being, I just… Let me help you,” kind of thing. I think that’s the best way to go about it, because not saying the other friend necessarily deserves or needs to be maid of honor.
Some people just really wanna help and don’t care about the title. I’ve been a part of a lot of weddings where I was not maid of honor, but I did more than the maid of honor, just because I love being a part of weddings. Like, please don’t give me the title. Like, I was not asking for it. I did not want the title.
I just love being crafty. I love being hands-on, like helping where I need to. So, that’s your first situation though. I would just say to talk to her. Ask yourself what is most important to you. Is it that she has the title? Are you worried about ruining the friendship? Do you think she’d be offended by this?
Because I think a friend that you can have a honest conversation with, and you have a long running, history, she’s not going to be offended. She’ll kind of maybe say thank you. so yeah, I would say first and foremost, just be really honest with her about everything. Say, “This is how I feel.
I know there’s been some kinda disconnect. I don’t want this to affect our friendship.” and then include her in as much as she wants, but then this way you’re also not feeling like, oh, she’s maid of honor, she’s up here, I have to, ask her for all this help. I have to rely on her. Just do your thing, and if she’s there, she’s there.
Now ask yourself, would you like to promote the other, friend to a maid of honor? Is that important to you? Are you that close to this friend? There’s also no rule saying you have to have one maid of honor. If this friend is wanting to do it just as a bridesmaid, then let her do it. You don’t necessarily have to have a maid of honor unless you want that spot.
Like, maybe you really want a maid of honor speech. Maybe you really want a maid of honor to be there while you’re getting your hair done. You know, like, whatever that looks like for your support person, then maybe sit down with this person and say, ” I’m so grateful for how you stepped up, and I would want to know if you would be my maid of honor.”
Now, how close are those friends? How are they going to react? that could cause tension. I’m not gonna say it won’t, because sometimes people get competitive. People get odd about things like that. are they also friends? so I think it’s just important to ask yourself what you want in this situation, and it’s really hard, but it just sounds like you are…
I mean, reading this story, you care so deeply for your friend. You don’t wanna put too much on her. You understand, you know, she’s got a lot going on. You wanna make things less stressful. So you keep lowering yourself and your expectations to meet hers, and it’s still not working, right? You started here, and you’re like, “Okay, I’ll…
maybe we’ll do this. Okay, maybe we’ll do this. Okay, let’s bring it down here,” and she’s still not able to meet you. So ask yourself in this situation, what do I want? What’s important to me? Is the title important? Is her helping me important? Is her being my lifelong friend important? Or am I kinda realizing through this that I’ve been there for her more than she has been there for me?
so that’s what I would do. Reading this out loud, I’m like, okay, it’s clear to me that this one friend, the maid of honor, original maid of honor, is not valuing it as much. And again, whether that’s right or wrong, I can’t really say, because- People’s lives don’t stop. Maybe she’s really stressed at work.
Maybe she has kids and there’s a lot going on with her kids right now. we don’t know, right? And so I don’t think she’s a bad person. I think a lot of people, when they get put in this situation of being a maid of honor or bridesmaid, they get very overwhelmed. They wanna do it right, but maybe they’re a procrastinator, so they wait till the last minute and they’re like, “Oh my gosh, I dropped the ball.”
and we all have different expectations. Maybe you have high expectations and she feels like she can’t meet them. Not saying you do, it’s just important to hear and understand all sides. So that’s what I would personally do, talk to her and say like, you mean so much to me. I still really want you to be a part of this wedding, that’s why I originally asked you to be my maid of honor.
But I can see it’s a lot for you, and don’t take this the wrong way, please still be a part of my special day. I just wanna kinda take, the pressure off you.” So that’s what I would do. I hope that helps. If you have any follow-up questions or things that happen, feel free to write in again.
And again, if you guys are listening and you are going through a similar situation or any kind of wedding, engagement, proposal, family situation, feel free to write in. Again, I’m not a professional in this area, I’m just gonna give my own personal advice, and see it through my own lens. So you can email me, hello@christainnis.com and I’m happy to help.
I keep looking at my microphone because this one, when it dies, it just dies, and there’s like, no like, warning light or anything. So there’s been times I record and I go back to watch the video and I’m like, “Eh,” half of it you can’t hear the sound.
Hot Takes in Family Boundaries
Anyway, okay, before we get into our main story submission, let’s do a couple of hot takes.
Okay, parents who aren’t paying don’t get a say in the guest list I agree. That sounds like a question. I agree, but I also don’t think if they’re paying, they necessarily, you know, get a say. I think it also has to do with respect. I think as the bride and groom or as the couple getting married, who you want to allow in is up to you.
if you have parents that maybe you don’t get along with, you’re not very close with, that doesn’t mean they, just because they’re your parents or just because they’re paying, that they get a say in your guest list. I think if you’re like, “Oh, I love my parents, they love me, we’re involved in each other’s lives,” then I absolutely want them to have their friends and, family, you know, here.
So there’s a lot of nuance to that statement. Okay, just because they’re family doesn’t mean they deserve an invite. Yeah, 100%. If your parent is causing stress, you are allowed to set boundaries, even on your wedding day, especially on your wedding day. Yeah, I think that’s where you have to start sometimes.
Sometimes for, like, especially young couples where this is their first, like, thing out of the house where they’re, like, stepping out onto their own, this is the moment where you have to set boundaries, and I think that’s why there’s a lot of tension because these parents still see their kids as, like, babies, as, like, infants, as, like, a part of them, and it’s like, no, they’re, like, in their 20s or, you know, whatever.
and so I think that’s when you have to really, you know, say, like, “No, this is ours and this is not what we want.” If your fiance won’t stand up to their parents before the wedding, they won’t after either. I just said this not that long ago. S- 100%. If they are not willing to back you up or to be your voice or to stand up with you before the wedding, they sure as hell will not after.
So think about that. If inviting people out of guilt ruins your wedding vibe. I wouldn’t say necessarily ruins your wedding vibe, but it just kind of takes away from your special day. Like, it just, you should never feel guilty and that’s why you’re inviting somebody. You want to invite people that truly matter to you and that support you and love you.
so yeah, if you just start inviting people and saying yes to people just because you feel guilty, it’s not gonna work.
okay. But they invited us to theirs is not a good reason. I agree. Just because you were invited to someone’s wedding doesn’t mean you need to invite them to yours. there’s different seasons, right? What do they say for friendships? It’s a reason, a season, or a lifetime. So maybe during that time you guys were really close and that’s why you were invited to theirs, and then now you guys have kinda drifted away.
It’s okay. You don’t have to. Same for having someone in your wedding. You might have been in someone’s wedding, and then when time came for your wedding, you just weren’t as close or you’re just like, “Well, … Maybe they value me that way, but, like, we’re just … I don’t see them in the same light.”
okay, last one, “Weddings expose family dynamics more than a holiday ever will.” Ooh, I agree with that because, it’s like holidays, yes, they bring out a lot, but I think sometimes around holidays, like, you tend to gather towards the people, like, that you want to see. Weddings, people tend to invite more people that they don’t typically see on holidays, which is a weird concept.
but I know, like, a lot more extended family were invited to our wedding and other weddings I’ve been to that you don’t see on regular holidays. So I 100% agree with that.
The Mother-in-Law Seating Chart Meltdown
Okay, here we go. The Wedding Story submission. Now, this is important, okay? On the episode with Lauren Louder, which was episode 72 last week, okay, so if you’d missed last week’s episode, you might wanna go back, otherwise we will play a little clip for you right here.
this is the continuation of it. So she had asked for some advice on the mother-in-law acting a certain way, where the mother-in-law wanted the seating chart a certain way, she wanted certain people invited at her table, and it really escalated. It turned into this whole thing because it was not the way she wanted.
So we gave our advice, and now there’s a follow-up. There’s a part two. So here’s the little clip. so I’ll play you a little clip from last week, otherwise go back to last week’s episode with Lauren Louder, from Burnout Teachers, and then I’ll join you and we’ll start part two All right, guys. Here is the follow-up from last week’s episode.
Okay, more details because I really need help. I was forced to invite a neighbor of my mother-in-law’s mom. What? Okay, so your Partner’s grandma’s neighbor. Okay. This neighbor, let’s call her Rose, is somehow a distant relative, but I have never met her before.
She was added to the guest list by my mother-in-law very late, and I forgot to include her on the official list. Because of that, I had to order more invitations since only a mailed invite would be acceptable. Okay, so I’m guessing she’s older, so they’re like, “You can’t do the digital one. You need a special one sent to her house.”
I suggested just giving Rose my mother-in-law’s invite, but that wasn’t an option. The 15 extra invites ended up costing half the price of the original 50 because there was no sale going on this time. No, I, I would never just order, like, extra 15. Maybe my original I ordered extra, but if they’re done, they’re done, or I will take a picture and I will print it out myself at, like, Walgreens.
Sorry. Maybe I’m cheap But she got a peek at their seating chart and was not happy about it, and she said, basically it was, like, her brother and sister were not at her table because they wanted to combine the parents together, so, like, the bride’s parents and the groom’s parents at one table.
Okay? So at her table, I placed her brother and his wife, her sister and her husband, my father-in-law’s sister and her friend, and my father-in-law’s brother and his wife. At the table right next to them, I placed my mother-in-law’s mom, and her brother, and his wife, and my father-in-law’s friends. Okay, my father-in-law’s parents, Rose and her daughter.
I’m trying to, like, picture this, you guys. This is a lot of people. And my father-in-law’s nephew, and his wife, and two children. I thought this setup made sense. It keeps people seated with those they know a while those they know while still integrating both sides of the family. For context, my fiance really cares about having one big family photo with both sides of the family together, rather than separating everyone.
However, my mother-in-law is now demanding that I switch the tables. She wants me to move her mom, brother, and his wife to her table, and remove my father-in-law’s family members from it. Oh my gosh. She’s completely ignoring the fact that this would separate her own mother from Rose. So she just wants to take the one person…
Oh, my gosh. I offered a compromise. Her table can be entirely her side of the family, and my father-in-law’s family could move to the next table. I also explained that I’m uncomfortable placing Rose and her daughter right next to our sweetheart table since I’ve never even met them. Yeah, that would be weird for me.
Despite this, my mother-in-law has been throwing a full tantrum for the past 24 hours since seeing the seating chart. She is demanding that her table be filled exactly how she wants it. The tantrum thing, the tantrum thing, you guys. She has been emotionally manipulating my fiance, and now my father-in-law has called him, yelled at him, and told him that I need to call him.
No. We said this before last time, your fiance needs to be the person that talks to them. They cannot be yelling at you saying, “You did this,” and, “You’re doing this wrong.” This is not up to you. You need to let him handle it. Like, you guys can work together, but if he, is just, like, step-battling out and, like, having you deal with them directly, that’s, like, a red flag, which I don’t see him doing What’s frustrating is that none of them have ever come to me directly with issues, even though I’m the one doing all the planning and putting in the time, effort, and care into every detail of this wedding.
A Wedding Ultimatum Over a Table Assignment
She refuses to accept my compromise, and claims if I don’t change the seating it will ruin her relationship with her mom and brother because they will feel slighted. This is so odd to me because your relationship must already be so tarnished with them that if seeing them at one other table, like next to you, we’re not even talking like in a different room.
They’re at a table next to you. If that will tarnish your relationship, it’s already doomed. Like, why are you putting the future of your relationship with your mother and your brother on your future daughter-in-law? Like, that’s not fair. That’s not fair to her. I feel like if I give in, I’m teaching her that she can throw a tantrum and get whatever she wants for the rest of her life.
At the same time, I understand that this behavior is likely comes from her own upbringing, so I do feel some empathy for her. See? I’m an empathetic person too, and let me tell you, it holds me back sometimes because you always try to see the other person’s point of view. And I’m not saying it’s bad to be empathetic because, like I said, I tend to be very empathetic.
it’s hard sometimes, right? But here’s the thing, if you’re always thinking about the other person before yourself, you are gonna always be in these predicaments. And it’s that common phrase of if you give them an inch, they will take a mile, and this kind of person will absolutely do that. Now, I do think there are some things for a wedding where at the end of the day, does it really matter?
Like, okay, whatever, we’re gonna move the tables around. Sure, fine. But if as you’re doing it and you’re thinking about it and like, “That doesn’t make sense. No, I don’t wanna do that for my wedding,” don’t do it, ‘ cause yes, absolutely, if you give her this little bit and give her that control, she is gonna come back and go 10 times harder.
” Well, okay, well, now I need this. Okay, well, actually, I showed my mom the seating chart and she doesn’t like this, so now we have to go fix it back.” So I can see, I could literally see her mom or the mom coming back and wanting a new change after this. I even offered to personally explain the seating chart to her mom and brother so they know my mother-in-law had no involvement in it.
I just don’t know what to do. My in-laws were supposed to pay for the rehearsal dinner and a post-wedding brunch, which was already a fight, and they were supposed to watch our 14-month-old puppy during our two-week honeymoon. But now she has threatened to cut off my fiancé after the wedding and refuses to dog-sit.
Okay.
Anyone that refuses or threatens by saying they’re gonna cut you off because of a seating chart, no. No. we’re not giving this person what they want, ‘ cause this is a toddler. they are throwing a toddler tantrum. ” If you don’t give me what I want, I’m never talking to you again because you’re a big meanie.”
Okay Okay. Then don’t. Like, what? And I get, like, your husband, or your, soon-to-be husband is now, like, kind of in the middle of it, but it’s his parents, so he has to be that voice of reason, because they’re just gonna point at you and say, “Well, she did this, she said this.” So he needs to be the one that says, ” I did this with her.
We worked on this together. This was really hard. This made the most sense. You’re literally gonna be five feet away from your mom. It will be okay. I will talk to Grandma myself,” and just do it. Grandma might not even care. Grandma … You know what? Grandma is probably just happy to be there. The brother might just ha- be happy to be there.
Again, if them sitting at one table over is going to ruin your entire relationship with them, you already do not have a good relationship with them, and that is not for your daughter-in-law to take the blame for. Come on. And the fact that they’re already, like, threatening to not help with the puppy or cut the son off after, nah.
Over a seating chart? Really? Come on. You’re not even at the table that long. You eat and you go dance or whatever. I mean, she probably doesn’t dance. She probably just mopes, but you know what I’m saying? People move after you eat. It’s not that big of a deal. ” I’m honestly at a loss. I’ve already offered a compromise that requires me to redo large part of the seating chart, and it’s still not enough, because it’s not exactly what she wants.
I’m trying to set a boundary without completely destroying my fiance’s relationship with his parents, but I don’t know how to move forward.” First and foremost, you would not be ruining the relationship, it’s her. You are not doing anything to ruin this relationship. It is 100% on her. She’s making the choice to make this about her.
She’s making the choice to threaten. She is making the choice to throw this tantrum. It’s not you. This is your wedding with your partner, with your soon-to-be husband. You guys put together the seating chart. This is what made the most sense for you. And if she had come to you and was nicely like, “Hey, I just have a question.
Like, I saw the seating chart while I was dog sitting. Sorry, it fell out. Ugh. Okay. and I have a question, because I really wanted my mom and my brother at my table. Like, it would really mean a lot to me,” I bet you, you would be way more likely to move things around and get her in there. But because she’s acting like this, and maybe it’s spiteful
I have a tendency to be a little spiteful, I’ll admit it. But if someone came to me and said, “You need to do this, or I will never talk to you again,” I’d be like, ” Okay, don’t threaten me with a good time.” Because she’s literally saying, ” Do what I want- Or else. And I don’t, I don’t F with people like that.feeling a little sassy today.
So that’s my advice for this. I know you need a lot of advice, and we’re gonna see if We have more, another part to this, maybe another update coming soon. But I really think you need to keep your foot down because at the end of the day, like you said, you have two different tables. There’s a lot of family to include and put together.
You have mother-in-law’s family, father-in-law’s family. and it’s her attitude about the whole thing. Like, literally, if she would’ve just come in and said, ” Hey, would you mind? Is there any possible way you could do this?” Instead of threatening. And if I remember correctly, in the first part that you sent to us, she already was very difficult.
She already had an attitude. She already had tantrums. This is someone that wants to have control. oh, and she said the thing about her baby boy, and you’re taking my baby boy away from me like, icky, no, gross. So that’s what I have to say about that. I hope that helps, and send me an update because we gotta know how this all plays out.
Again, tell your fiance, soon-to-be husband, he needs to be the voice to his mother because you’re gonna… Either way, they’re gonna paint you the villain. And so he needs to be on the same page as you, and he needs to set, Lay down the law, okay? Oh, gosh, I am, like, riled up from that.
All right. Here we go. Confession time. Let’s get to confessions. Hopefully the echo was okay during this episode. You guys can let me know. Like I said, I’ve got some more things coming for the office, so it should sound better. Soon I will have, like, a little, like, dedicated, podcast area of this room, so hopefully it works.
I’ll also be adding blinds, which will absorb things and all that good stuff. Okay, so this says, “Confession time. This week we ask, who caused you the most stress during your wedding planning?” This person said, “COVID.” I can only imagine. I know a lot of people that were supposed to get married in 2020, like, during the height of COVID, and had to cancel, postpone.
There were wedding venue issues. It was very stressful. Person said, “A bridesmaid with sudden drama.” ” Does groomzilla and my mother count?” ” Mother-in-law.” ” Hubby’s best female friend who was also sister of the photographer. Go figure.” Gonna need more to that story. ” My dad asking me 30 seconds before walking down the aisle if I was sure I wanted to do this.”
No better time than right now. ” My husband.” ” My mom.” These are short, so I’m just gonna read them all. ” My mother.” “DJ.” The DJ? The DJ. Tell me more. Tell me more. ” My niece being drunk and fighting everyone. It was so embarrassing.” No. Why are we fighting people, guys? Come on. ” The bride.” Who wrote that? ” My new husband.”
“Okay, my mother got roped into spending $1,000 last minute because she didn’t plan right. Okay. my father-in-law’s friends. Gonna need more to that story, too. All right I’m thinking about my own wedding, and honestly, I don’t think anyone caused … I don’t … I feel very lucky reading these stories. I don’t think anyone caused me that, like, stress, and I’m not just saying that, because I was like da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da.
Like, if anything, it would be, like, not hearing from a vendor, but, like, for the most part, all of our vendors were, like, pretty spot on, so nothing to worry about. All right, guys, that’s all I have for this week. Thanks for hanging out with me, and I will see you next time. Bye now.