wedding fights

“My sister wore a WHITE GOWN… to my rehearsal dinner.”

Yep, that actually happened. This week, I’m spilling not one, but two jaw-dropping wedding stories where guests went full villain mode. We’re talking sisters stealing the spotlight, friends acting like frenemies, and a guest who thought white was her color—brace yourself.

From family members who just can’t let go to attention-seekers desperate to make the day all about them, I’m breaking down the messy details with my signature mix of sass, humor, and straight talk.

And it doesn’t stop there, confessions at the end of the episode include a drunken maid of honor, a mother-in-law in a massive black hat, and even a vow renewal request that will leave you SPEECHLESS.

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Episode Chapter Markers

00:00 Introduction

03:26 Podcast Format and Upcoming Segments

03:02 Listener Review and Personal Story

03:33 Unique Wedding Coordination Experience

07:56 Unpopular Opinions on Engagement Rings

12:10 This or That: Wedding Drama Debates

18:03 Crazy Wedding Stories: Sister Drama

23:18 The Bride’s Wedding Day Drama

24:40 Sister’s Immature Behavior

29:24 A New Story Begins

29:35 Sabrina’s Obnoxious Antics

33:58 Wedding Day Showdown

Must-Hear Insights and Key Moments

• Unpopular Opinions Unpacked – I’m diving into engagement rings, proposals, and why surprise proposals might actually be the worst idea.
• This or That: Wedding Edition – From cheesy DJs to awkward speeches, I’m debating the biggest wedding dilemmas.
• Sister Showdown – Bride’s big day was almost derailed by her sister’s shocking white dress choice.
• Frenemy in White – Yep, it’s the infamous Sabrina story—how one guest tried (and failed) to steal the spotlight.
• Mother-in-Law Chaos – When a MIL shows up in black and white with a statement hat, you know it’s personal.
• Vendor Nightmares – Let me tell you why hiring family as your photographer is a recipe for regret.
• Drunk Maid of Honor – One bride’s sister turned into a tipsy disaster before the ceremony even began.
• Confessions & Closing Tea – I’m wrapping up with jaw-dropping listener confessions and, of course, a little gratitude moment.

Words of Wisdom: Standout Quotes from This Episode

• “Stop being considerate of people who don’t even consider you.” – Christa Innis
• “If you want to wear white to my wedding, congrats—you just RSVP’d to the drama.” – Christa Innis
• “Movies made surprise proposals look romantic. In real life, it’s a nightmare waiting to happen.” – Christa Innis
• “Sometimes the best punishment isn’t confrontation—it’s silence.” – Christa Innis
• “If you know you can’t handle your liquor, hold off until your duties are done.” – Christa Innis

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Christa Innis: Hey guys. Welcome back to another episode of, Here Comes The Drama. I’m your host, Christa Innis, and I’m exhausted. How are you doing today? I am just feeling so like, I don’t know, there’s just so much going on. I don’t know where August went. It’s here and gone. Um, that by the time this comes out, it’ll be early October, but I’m filming it or recording this right now in September.

And I just, I feel like I blinked and this year is like t hree quarters of the way over. Um, it’s just, it’s, I’m so grateful to be doing what I’m doing, but it’s also very like nonstop. Sometimes I need to take a step back and just like take a deep breath because I feel like I’m just like on this constant like hamster wheel of running around, checking things off the box, being a mom, being a wife, being a friend.

And it’s just, it’s, it’s a lot. Um, and I’m sure you moms or parents with kids going back to school are feeling it. Mine’s too young for that yet, so I’m not doing the back to school thing quite yet. But, um, it’s just wild how the older you get. The years just seem to go quicker and quicker and quicker. Um, and the, with the current climate, I just feel like the news is suppressing.

It’s a little sad and I hope I can just bring some entertainment to you guys with, you know, with everything going on. Um, I don’t know. It’s just, it’s a lot and I just have to remind myself to be grateful for. What I’m able to do, being able to do this from home and be able to create, um, a lot of people don’t have that.

And so, um, I don’t take it for granted. So I’m just, I’m just wanna say I’m grateful for you guys listening. I know I’m going off on a little tangent. I’ve got a lot of feelings this week. Um, there’s just, there’s a lot. There’s a lot going on. So -we are gonna do things a little different. Um, I dunno, I say that, but I feel like it’s always a little different ’cause we always have new stories.

Um, we’ve got two stories at the end for you today. We’re gonna do unpopular opinions, um, which you guys send me on social media. We’re gonna do some this or that, some hot takes. And of course at the very, very end we got some confessions for you and we got some good ones. Um. We haven’t shared these for a while.

I mean, we share them on Instagram, um, stories. But we’ve even shared ’em on a podcast in a while, so you guys are in for a treat. Gosh, there were so many.

Breaking Traditions: A Bride’s Dream Wedding with Zero Rules

Okay. Starting things off, I just wanna read a little, um, review of the podcast. It says, as someone in the wedding industry, bridal assistant, I enjoy watching your videos and I can’t wait to hear the rest of the stories.

That’s from Songbird for life. So thank you so much Songbird for leaving that review. And again, if you guys enjoy this podcast, please share it with a friend or leave a review. It really helps more people hear the podcast and just means so much to me. Um. I wanna share just something really fun. I know like a lot of times on my social media accounts and on the podcast, I, you know, I do skits.

So a lot of it is about other people’s stories and stuff. But as many of you guys know, I do very, very part-time day of coordinating. Like, I’m talking like I did one this year and I did one last year. I’m talking to a bride right now for one next year. Um, I just don’t have the time to do it. I love it so much.

I love it so much. I just had the honor of doing one. Um, it’s been two weeks now. Um, but she was just a dream of a bride to work with, just so kind, knew what she wanted was, so I, I mean, just knew what she wanted, but also was like very like open to hearing ideas. Um. We brainstorm, we brainstorm, brainstormed through a lot of stuff.

Um, but I just have to just. It just reminds me of like why I love weddings so much. Um, like I said, I don’t do a, a ton anymore, but it’s fun to just get back out there. I just did like some partial planning with her, so we met like every few months and then we did day of coordinating. So I basically just ran around like, you know what?

You tell me what you need. I got, I got you. Um, we did the rehearsal together, but I wanted to share instead of like me just blabbing, I wanted to share some interesting things. That they did not do, or traditional things that they did not do that I thought was so awesome the way they did it, or just I should say non-traditional things they did.

I thought was really awesome. And a reminder to anyone listening that you don’t ever have to stick within the guidelines of what your parents tell you or what you see on the, in the media or whatever. You can do things your own way, and I loved this about their wedding. Okay, so here’s some things that I thought was really cool.

They had no maid of honor or best man. Um, they had a wedding party, um, but it was very, like everyone was equal. Um. They had a few different speeches, but it wasn’t like who you would think it was just kind of like different people on each side. Some had asked, some were told, so I thought that was really cool.

There were no readings in the wedding, the wedding itself’s, why I led the, the, um, ceremony. Um, and I just kinda like organized where everyone stood and all that. Um, it was really quick. I wanna say it was 15 minutes max. They wanted a really quick ceremony. It was. Beautiful. Honestly, like out of like Taylor Swift’s like music video or something so beautiful.

Um, they did no readings, so it was really quick. Um, she had her stepdad officiate and I thought he did such a great job. He was so um, nervous. He had never done it before, but he did so great. He was so personable. And I thought it was a really great way to include her stepdad. And then she did her daddy daughter dance, and then her, both her parents walked her down the aisle and then both the groom’s parents walked him down the aisle.

So I thought it was a great way to include all parents, um, in that, um, what’s something else? They also had, um, flower petals on this seat instead of just the flower girls having them, everyone could throw them at the end. So I thought that was really, really awesome. They had no cake. A lot of people are gonna be like, what?

But I love that someone that’s like not a big cake person, I just love the little sweetss and treats. They just did a dessert table, so they did no cake cutting. Um, and so that was great. So it’s just a reminder that no matter what it is, even if you’re like, I’m already married or I don’t plan on getting married, whatever kind of event or just thing in your life, go outside the lines.

Like, do what makes sense for you. Um, say goodbye to tradition. Tradition. Um. Yeah, I just, it was such a, she was such a dream to work with and everyone in the wedding party was just so kind. And yeah, it just reminds me of why I love doing it. So, um, I get like a little like, um, anxious when it before weddings.

’cause I’m like such an introverted person. I work from home, but when you put me in that spot, I got it. How can I help you? Where can I go to, what can I do for you? Like, I got you. So, um, yeah, I don’t really like advertise that I do it much just because like, I don’t have much time for them, but when I do them, they’re so much fun.

Engagement Rings, Proposals & The Myth of the “Perfect Surprise”

Anyways, okay, into our first segment, unpopular Opinions. These are ones that you guys sent to me on social media, so let’s talk about it. These ones have to do with engagement rings, so let’s talk about it. All right. These are unpopular opinions that people send. The first one says the bigger the stone, the better.

Um, no, it’s actually about the commitment. Yeah. 100%. I mean, I, there’s, they’re saying, okay, I guess you can’t see. They have quotes around the bigger the stone the better. No, it’s absolutely not. The bigger the stone the better. So I’m agreeing with this person. Um. Yeah, I feel like people get so caught up in the ring.

Yes. I like, I love my wedding ring or my engagement ring. My husband and I though like talked about it ahead of time, like I was very involved in that. I know it’s different for everybody, but there’s this idea of like, you have to spend this amount, you have to do this if you truly love them. And it’s like, no, like there are like millionaires and billionaires that get married multiple times that like spend. An obs and a crazy amount of money on these rings, that does not mean they love the person more. If all you can afford is a very basic ring, do that also fit into their personality? If they’re not a big jewelry wear or don’t, like big stones, don’t do that. Um, so yeah. Um, this person says, I don’t like the big marry me sign.

It’s overdone. I’ve never seen it personally. I see them a lot of times on like Instagram or social media and to me that’s like the Instagram proposal, right? Like that you want everything to look good. It’s a big flashing lights. Some people love that. Some people want that public proposal. Teach their own.

Um, this person says, I think proposals are best kept private. Keep it intimate for the couple, me personally, yes. I own, I’ve talked to this before. I had, um, four other friends there, so I had, it was two other couples that were with us. Had no idea what was gonna happen that night. I knew it was probably happening soon, but, uh.

No idea what was happening that night. I loved how intimate it was. It was a friend’s backyard. We were all hanging out. I would not have been comfortable. I mean, I dunno. I say that now in like hindsight. I don’t think I would’ve wanted a big, a big proposal. I’ve been a part of big proposals or ones that are at we or big parties.

Everyone’s got their own vibe. It’s just important to know your person and know what they’re comfortable with, and that goes for either partner. Because let’s say the bride really wants this big moment and it’s in public space, but if the groom’s not comfortable with that, like maybe he’s more private, he’d rather confess his love for her or ask her to marry him in a private place, then you have to like be able to work together some way somehow.

Um, it says, this one says it shouldn’t be a total surprise, total incomplete surprise. I a hundred percent agree with this. I feel like movies growing up and the way it was presented growing up was like, okay, when your partner loves you, they’re gonna propose to you and it’s gonna be outta nowhere. That sounds like a nightmare. If you’ve never talked about marriage or never talked about the next step with your partner, I don’t think you should be proposing or getting proposed to. You need to have that discussion because I’ve seen stories where people get proposed when they’re like, oh, we are not there yet. Or they’re like, I, I don’t want to get married.

So yeah, I don’t think it should be a complete surprise, like. Maybe how it happens or when it happens. Yes. I love the surprise element of the actual proposal, but to not ever, to never talk about getting married together or like moving in together and then you’re just like, I bought this ring. It’s like, pump the brakes a little bit.Let’s have the the conversation first.

Wedding Dilemmas: Cheesy DJs, Awkward Speeches & Destination Dreams

Okay, next up, this or that. Pick aside wedding drama debates. Here we go. A band that kills the vibe by skipping your first dance song. Or a DJ who keeps people dancing, but plays tea, cheesy tracks all night. If I’m picking one or the other, I’m gonna go for a cheesy, cheesy dj because if people are dancing all night, they’re obviously enjoying it in some way or another.

And I am all about it, like I’ve talked about this before, but like. My family. We’ve always been the one that’s like on the dance floor all night long. Same with my husband’s family. That was one of the things, like we’d go to weddings together and I was like, okay, we, we vibe because we are on the dance floor all night.

We’re not sitting at our table. We are on our feet hanging out, dancing. I love it. Uh, okay, next one. Blow the budget on incredible food. Everyone raves about or skip the fancy food and have a Pinterest perfect reception. Um, I’m gonna go incredible food. I don’t care about Pinterest. Perfect. I don’t, um, endless awkward speeches or no speeches at all.

And it offended and offended. Friends, why are the friends offended? Because they didn’t, weren’t asked for a speech. Um, I would say no speeches at all. Sorry. Two of the offended friends. If you’re offended. Sorry. I don’t, I don’t know why I would never be offended if someone didn’t ask me to give a speech.

I would actually understand if someone didn’t ask me. ’cause I blab a lot. Um, but I think I’d be okay if someone asked me. Side, side story. Endless awkward speeches. I’ve sold, I’ve told that story so many times, but I was at a wedding once where they just kept passing around the microphone. Nothing was planned.

Everyone just kept going off on a whim. It was awkward. Nobody wants that. A 12 person party full of drama or the guilt of leaving people out with only one or two by your side. Uh, see the way that one’s worded is like one’s better than the other. Actually, no, they’re both worded bad, I guess. I’m gonna go with the guilt of leaving people out with one, only one or two by your side.

And the reason I say it, and I’m someone that had nine bridesmaids, okay? I dunno if I’ve ever talked about that before and I don’t regret it for a second. I loved it. But also my wedding party, everyone got along very well. They all know each other. I mean, they’re from different groups. Kind of like I had cousin friends from high school, um, sisters-in-law.

Uh. Other friends and then my sister. So different groups, but they all kind of knew each other, but everyone got along great, so we didn’t have any drama. Um, so yeah, that’s hard though when you do have a really big group and there’s like a lot of drama going on, leave me out of it, especially at my age now, I’m just like, if I were to do all over again, I would probably just have a couple people stand up with me and then have the rest, like just wear a similar color.

I actually just saw a wedding like that and I think that was really beautiful. Uh, kids melting down mid vows or family drama for years after banning kids? Ooh, that’s a spicy one.

It depends on who the kid is. Um, ’cause I, I couldn’t imagine getting married without my nieces and nephews at our wedding. So if one of them had a met meltdown. I would just be glad they were there, honestly. But if it was someone, ’cause I don’t think we’d have family drama. See, I read, this is the problem with me and Rapid Fire, I read into them too much because I’m like, wait, that wouldn’t happen.

So if I’m just going straight off the bat, I would just say a kid melting down because it’d be someone important to me. Um. Plus it’s like 20 seconds long. Okay. A dreamy destination wedding and judgment from family or a giant hometown wedding. You didn’t even want a dreamy destination wedding. It’s funny ’cause I feel like.

My opinion has changed so much since, since getting married, and I’ve only been married three and a half years now. Um, but like I always say, I almost, I’m one of the last ones, so we knew exactly what we wanted. We’d been to so many weddings, but if I were to get married now or years from now, like, or redo it, I’d go destination all the way small group.I already did the whole fun planning of a wedding, you know? And so I’m like the fact, the thought of doing that again, I’m just like, I don’t know. I don’t need to do it for myself. Love doing it for other people. But yeah.

The Sister Who Wore White (Twice!) and Hijacked the Wedding

Okay, let’s get into the stories ’cause they are long, so I wanna make sure I have enough time without having to carry over to another, I got two crazy stories here.

Let’s go. Okay. My older sister was married first, but her marriage only lasted two months. While she was divorcing her husband, I had just met the man of my dreams. We got engaged eight months after dating and planning our wedding for five months later, since he was set to deploy soon after. My mom was adamant that my sister be my maid of honor because you only have, this is her saying it in quotes.

You only have one sister. And I always wished I had but didn’t, even though my sister and I weren’t very close, I had two lifelong best friends who felt more like sisters. I went along with it. Oh no. Okay, so full disclosure. I had my best friend, Yvette, who has been on the podcast, be my maid of honor, and my sister was a bridesmaid.

She was not offended. She was actually just very happy to be a bridesmaid. Um, my, I was my sister’s maid of honor, but she also got married 12, 13 years ago. Oh my gosh, 14 years ago. So I was like super young. We were both really young, um, and so things were just different. But yeah, I, I knew right off the bat that I wanted my friend Yvette, to be my maid of honor plus.

You also have to look at, like when someone’s, your maid of honor, you’re, they’re getting other responsibilities too, depending on, you know, different things. But your bachelorette party, maybe you’re helping with the shower being your person. Right. And I talked to my friend about all the time. We’d been to so many different events together, and it just was more fitting.

My sister was not offended. She was happy to be a part of the wedding. Um, okay. So I talked about this before. I am not a fan of when parents or people try to convince the brighter groom to have someone be in the wedding or be a certain place in the wedding. So she went along with it when it came time for my bridal shower and bachelorette party, which were scheduled the same weekend since I was finishing grad school in another state.

That sounds stressful. My sister refused to help. For months. Every time I asked, she brushed it off, brushed me off with, we have time. It’s too early to plan, so she’s not a planner. In the end, my mom and I organized everything ourselves. A week before the events, my sister suddenly started asking questions and got mad that everything had already been handled without her.

My mom even called me asking me to find something to include her in. So you’re doing more work because she couldn’t be bothered before. My phone just lit up like I was talking to it. I promise I’m not. Okay. It’s like all those like skits I do where there’s like a recording. It’s like recording me now.

Okay. Um, my mom, okay, so I reminded her that I had been trying for two months, but my sister hadn’t lifted a finger. When I flew back home to go wedding dress shopping with everyone, she didn’t show up. Later, she demanded a different dress from the other bridesmaids because it was special. I wanted them all to match, but of course my parents called me saying she was hurt.

Oh my gosh. Is this an older or younger sister? Older. Okay. The older sister did this. Okay. My shower, she had narrowed her outfit down to two dresses. I told her which one I preferred because the other was two bridal. She showed up in the white dress anyway, with black accents, perfectly matching my invitations and decor.

In the photos she positioned herself in the middle so much that you barely know, that you would barely know I was the bride. So like there’s no like necessary rule that at showers and stuff, the bride has to be the only one in white. But I feel like all the ones I’ve gone to, it’s pretty common courtesy.

I would never show up to a shower or a bachelorette wearing all white. Um. Especially if you ask them their opinion. This sounds to me like the sister was a little salty about the fact that she was going through a divorce. It wasn’t working. So her sis and then her sister’s moving really fast with this wedding.

So she’s like, I’m gonna be involved where I want to be involved. Um, and that’s unfortunate that she can’t just be happy for her. With all the drama building, my fiance and I secretly decided to elope what? S I’m sorry for that sound that just came outta my mouth. That just came outta nowhere. We got married privately, just the two of us, but kept it a secret until after the big day.

Oh, I love when that happens. I love that. Okay. Honestly, it saved me so much stress. You go girl. The night before the wedding, a massive blizzard hit. I was running around collecting last minute deliveries and arrived a little late to my rehearsal. Sure enough, my sister showed up in a white gown. You guys, this is wild.

I’ve never read a story where the sister is like showing up in these gowns. It’s usually the mom or mother-in-law or an aunt or something. That’s wild. ’cause she knows better. She’s been a bride. She knows better. It makes me wonder how her wedding was. If she was like this at her wedding or someone did it to her, like what’s the, what’s the deal here?

At that point, I didn’t even care. I went through a rehearsal in jeans and snow booth before changing from the dinner. You go, girl, I love this bride. The morning of the wedding, all of us, my fight bridesmaids, my sister, my mom and my mother-in-law went to the salon. My sister went first for hair and threw a fit because her hair didn’t match the picture.

She brought, she soaked in the corner with her arms crossed like a toddler. I added that. Um, while the stylist kept checking in as we were leaving, she suddenly sighed. Fine. I guess I can f. I guess someone can fix my hair. I told my mom we needed to go since the florist was delivering flowers and the photographer was minutes away, but she insisted Your sister needs to be happy with her hair.

What is with this mom constantly like defending the older sister for acting like a toddler? My guess is this is why she acts this way, is because the parents are always like, no, like, let’s go out for your sister. Like, what is the deal here? Why is the younger sister acting like. So much more mature in this scenario.

45 minutes later, this is wild. My sister finally approved her look and acted like nothing had happened. On the way back, she demanded. We stopped at CVS for an allergy medicine. I tried to say no, but my mom cut me off again. Here we go with the mom. You know, this is hard for her since she just had her wedding.

Let’s do what we can to make her comfortable. No. This is the bride’s day. We don’t need to make this whole time. We don’t need to make it comfortable for the sister this whole time. For context, her wedding had been over, uh, for a year at this point. By the time we got home, the florist had already left taking the bouquet to the reception, but leaving the behind the VAEs for the bridesmaids table arrangements.

Oh my gosh. The photographer was also waiting on us. During picture as my sister shoved her way to be next to me. In nearly every shot, nearly every shot loudly, declaring I’m the maid of honor. This is my spot.

That’s wild. I’ve been the maid of honor twice, and I was just like, I don’t care where I stand. I’ll stand where you guys want me to. I had. I had to specifically request individual photos with each bridesmaid just so they wouldn’t all be dominated by her. Oh my gosh. It’s hard when it’s a sibling ’cause it’s like you can’t just like cut them out.

Especially the mom is like waiting on her hand and foot. Afterwards she demanded to know why she didn’t sign the marriage license and accused wait. What? She didn’t manage to know why she wasn’t like the witness on the marriage license and accused another bridesmaid of doing it when in reality no one had.

We were already legally married at the reception she pouted when one of my best friends gave a speech rolling her eyes and smirking through it. My mom kept excusing her behavior as a hard time for my sister, but really this is just who she is and my parents chose to not see it. That is so wild. Like I am so sorry because.

This is gonna never change. These parents are gonna constantly excuse her behavior saying, oh, she’s just going through a hard time. It’s like, no, everyone’s going through a hard time. From time to time. Everyone’s stressed from time to time. It does not give you the right to treat people a certain way, or especially during your sister’s wedding.

Like, be happy for someone other than yourself. Um, so I’m guessing they didn’t ask the sister to give a speech either. A few years later she remarried. Wait, before I get to that, I was gonna say, I wish she would’ve said that moment. It’s ’cause we’re already married. Like I feel like I would’ve done that in my skit.

Be like, it’s ’cause we’re already married. But I guess she didn’t tell her. Okay. A few years later she remarried. She got engaged when I was seven months pregnant and announced they’d be in, they’d be getting married in Hawaii in just two months. She told me I had to be there and nine at nine months pregnant.

You’re gonna demand that your sister’s there. Yeah, right. I wished her well, but explained it wasn’t possible. I’d be two weeks past my due date and couldn’t travel. I ended up giving a, giving birth a week late. She was furious and didn’t speak to me for a month. This girl is so immature. So immature, and the parents are allowing it.

I mean, I don’t know how old they are now, but. She’s never going to be responsible for her own actions. If the parents are constantly giving her excuses. Here’s the kicker, she’s a doctor. She knew perfectly well that traveling then was impossible for me. So if she’s a doctor, she’s gotta be at least what, mid to late twenties.

How long are you in medical school for? Isn’t it like eight years or something? 12 years, 10 years? I don’t know. I’m not a doctor, so I don’t know. But that is wild to me, this whole story is wild to me and it, it’s more wild. Like I just, I’m currently in this, well, by the time this comes out, I’ll probably be done with it, but the Tina and me ski.

Was based on a true story that someone sent me, um, very based like, or very inspired, loosely inspired, like the first episode where they really, um, idolized one sister over the other. They did everything for this one engagement and not the other. They got mad. I don’t know, all these crazy things, right? And people are commenting like, parents are really like this, this is terrible. And I’m like, I read this story and I’m like, yep. They are. That is to just like put one on a pedestal and the other one’s just like, no, like your sister’s going through a hard time. I dunno. That’s wild.

When Your Husband’s Friend Tries to Steal the Spotlight

All right guys, we got one more story. We got so much more fun in our way. Okay, let’s go story number two.

About a year after meeting my now husband, I went to one of his dance performances when I’m, where I met a dozen of his friends for the first time. One girl in particular, let’s call her Sabrina, immediately stood out. These are all changed names. She was loud, obnoxious, and constantly gossiping about people she didn’t even know.

When we entered the theater, she insisted on sitting right in the middle of our group. It wasn’t the best seat, but it was the one that guaranteed she’d be the center of attention. She didn’t say a single word to me, and anytime someone asked me a question, she talked over me. My first impression not good.

Yeah, I would say not good either. I’ve, I’ve met people like that before. They don’t like when a new girl is brought into the mix because they’re not the center of attention anymore. They fast forward a couple of years. We all went on a weekend trip, about 20 people. The friend group plus partners. I hadn’t seen Sabrina since that first meeting.

Oh wow. A couple years later. Wow. Okay. And she was exactly as I remembered, always needing the spotlight. That night we played a game where you had to catch the liars on the opposing team. There were special roles and coincidentally, I ended up paired with my boyfriend. He had a power that let him check someone’s card each round.

And he announced, I saw Sabrina’s card. She’s a liar. When the voting came out, I said, I’m voting against her because my partner saw her card. Without missing a beat, Sabrina snapped back. Oh, so you believe him? Like when he said, like when he tells you he loves you this, Ooh, this girl’s, wow. She must have like a crush on him or something.

I was boiling inside, but I managed to smile and say, you know what? Nevermind now I’m voting against you because you made it personal. Oh, I love it. Okay. The room went silent. Everyone voted against her, and she was eliminated loudly, angry about it. Of course, I went straight to bed, furious that neither my partner nor anyone else defended me.

The next morning she approached me with a half-hearted apology. So my boyfriend said, I was really mean to you yesterday. I don’t know when, but Sorry. No, that’s not an apology. Sorry. After that, I avoided her as much as possible. I skipped the group gatherings and the one time I tried to go, I caught COVID, so I took it as a sign that my body really did not want me to be there.

I would too. I’d be like, okay, thanks, universe. When my husband and I got engaged, I made it clear I would never force him to cut Sabrina out since they’d been friends since kindergarten. That is really nice. Maybe a little nicer than me, and I’m a pretty nice person, but if someone were to consistently not be very nice to me and put me down or put my relationship down, I would not give ’em the same courtesy.

I just saw a thing on, on social media the other day. I hope I don’t butcher this, but it says, stop being considerate for people that don’t even consider you. So there’s a little reminder to everybody out there, especially as people pleasers, we want to consider people, or if they hurt our feelings, we just are, we’re just like, oh, wait, maybe they didn’t mean it.

No, stop. Stop being considerate. A people that didn’t consider you, she couldn’t even apologize. Um, anyways, so she said she wouldn’t force him to cut her out because they were friends in since kindergarten, but he shouldn’t expect me to interact with her. I even joked that she’d pull something dramatic at the wedding, like wear white or have her boyfriend propose in the middle of it.

My wedding dress was a true princess gown, layers of pink and white tool green lace shaped like leaves. Oh my gosh, I wanna see this dress sounds beautiful. And glittering. Floral details. On our wedding website and invitations, we clearly stated, white is reserved for the bride. Ooh, okay. I’ve never seen it like that.

I love that you’re just upfront. Put it right on the invitation. I wasn’t worried about anyone confusing me with someone else, but I didn’t want photos where the attention could be stolen. Makes sense. So the big day arrives. Oh no. Oh no. We do our first look full of excitement. Then go to greet our guest before the ceremony.

Who’s the very first person I see Sabrina. And what is she wearing? A long flowy white gown. What is with both of these stories, having people in the, not in the wedding or the bride wearing a white dress, and not just a white dress, a white gown,

that is wild. This is someone asking for a fight or asking for the detention be stolen. I wonder how long she was with her boyfriend for? Maybe it was something where she was mad that she wasn’t proposed to first. Ooh, this is wild, you guys. Okay. I said wild. We should do a, a tracker of how many times I say wild.

I’ve noticed more and more I say it like all the time. The best part, my husband finally saw her for what she is. He apologized profusely to me and the photographers without me even asking, cropped her out of all the photos whenever possible. There’s only one group shot of the friends and my husband without me, where she’s actually, where she actually looks like the bride.

We decided the best way to quote unquote punish her was silence. No confrontation. No drama. Just be ignored when all she wanted was to be the center of attention. And honestly, that was the sweetest justice of all. I love that. Okay. I said one time in a, in, I think it was a podcast. The mother-in-law was gonna wear white, like told her daughter-in-law that I bought a white dress for your wedding.

’cause it’s the only color I look good in. And my response was, one of the things you could do is just ignore it. And so many people in the comments were like, ignore it. Oh, I’m not ignoring it. Oh, that’s exactly, you know that you’re giving her what she wants. Someone, this made such a good point. Someone like this is wanting, wanting to stir the pot. They wanna cause a scene. They want people to notice them. They want the bride to feel inferior. And if you don’t feed into it, you don’t say anything. You don’t acknowledge it or have other people look or point or say anything. You’re not giving them what they want. They’re actually gonna leave mad because no one noticed.

I love that. I love that. And then only post photos that she’s not in. Okay. I’m getting petty now, but actually is it petty? No, she was petty first. This, this, I can’t even get a sentence out because I’m just so, I can’t believe how both stories had someone showing up in white. These need be skits. Oh my gosh.

You guys, um, you guys need to like. If you’re listening to this whole thing, I need to know all your thoughts. Go to YouTube, go to Instagram, go to TikTok. Comment your thoughts after you listen to this because these are just crazy. These are crazy. See, I had a different word.

Mother-in-Laws, Bad Photos & Drunk Maids of Honor

Okay. As promised, I’m gonna end this episode. Sorry, I’m fidgeting with my hair so much. If you’re watching this, um, I’m gonna end these EPIs this episode with some confessions. These are pretty wild. Okay. Here we go. At the end, mother-in-law wore white and black to our wedding with a huge black hat. The white. I have more of a problem with. I, I remember reading a story years ago, uh, where the mother-in-law wore black to the wedding, like all black.

And I was like, oh my gosh. Like they’re dressed to a funeral. Like their husband or their husband, their son’s being taken away from them. Right. But I was thinking about it. I’m like, I’ve worn black to formal weddings before, like a formal black dress. I’ve worn black jumpsuits to weddings before, so I don’t think black is actually considered that bad, but it’s where she wore our huge black hat and then a white and black dress because we don’t know the style of the dress, but.

Also, if someone’s saying this, like a bride’s saying this, my guess is there’s some kind of issue already between them. Because again, if you have a good relationship with someone and they showed up like that, you’d be like, oh, cool. Pretty dress. But if it’s someone that’s already got an issue with you, then they’re making a statement.

Okay. My cousin was my sister’s photographer. He didn’t give her the pictures for two years and they turned out awful. Yeah. No, we don’t do family for vendors. We just don’t. If they insist you say, I want you there as a guest, I already have a photographer because I’ve heard so many horror stories about people choosing photographers for their wedding.

Um, that’s a family member or, um, and I wouldn’t count like officiant from the story early from my day of coordinating story earlier because that’s, I think that’s a more personal thing. They can just do it and be done. Right. But a photographer, you need someone that’s really devoted as fully a photographer.

Like that’s their profession, not just like a little side gig. Someone that’s gonna take a few photos on their iPhone, um, or just starting out. Okay. Okay. This one’s like a three part one. She said, my fiance’s best man peer pressured him into asking him to be the best man. Anytime he did anything for my fiance, unrelated to the wedding, he said, this is, this is best man’s sh*t right here.

You better ask me. We get married in nine months. That’s awkward. I mean.

I don’t know. I don’t know how to respond to that. I feel like, yeah, maybe they can make subtle hints that they wanna be your best man, but it’s up to you. You have the power. You could ultimately have the power if they’re your friend. Sure. But if they keep just making comments like that, you are like, oh, I already have someone else planned.

Okay. This one’s weird. Okay. Best friend’s mother-in-law asked for a mother, son renewal vows on their wedding. Mother-in-law had it. Best friend divorced him. Wait, the mom wanted to renew vows on their wedding day. I need, I need more context to this. This is wild. This is so wild. I need more words. Help me come up with more words.

I say amazing. And I say wild and I say crazy a ton. Help me come up with more words. Um, maybe help me out and just comment on YouTube. Just use some different words so I can get them in my vocabulary. ’cause when I find what, I just stick to that and that’s what we’re using for the next month. Um, so yeah, I don’t get it.

She asked, she wanted vow renewals with her son, just like to prove that she’s the mom. I don’t understand.

All right. Oh, last one. My sister and mother-in-law. Okay. No, my sister slash maid of honor got drunk before the ceremony. She was a sh*t show half the day. Yeah. Alcohol can be a big problem at weddings. I’m sure. We’ve got tons of alcohol stories that people have sent me in. I’ve seen it a few times. Few times I’ve seen it lots of times.

You get the people that are like fun and drunk or buzz at the weddings and like they’re just dancing. Like, yeah. If you know you cannot handle your liquor, hold off till the reception, till your duties are done. If you have any slight, slight question about it. Although anyone that’s gonna like not think they have a problem. Is not going to be like, I’m gonna wait. They’re gonna be like, I can be fun. So yeah, that kind of sucks when it happens like that.

 Alright guys, well that’s all I have this week. Don’t forget to send me your confessions on social media on Mondays. We do unpopular opinions On Fridays, we do, uh, your confessions, so hold onto those cool confessions.

Sometimes we have different themes, but otherwise I can’t wait to read ’em. Of course, always send me your wedding story submissions. They can be wedding proposal, engagement, dating, friendship, whatever stories we’re, we’re gonna open our horizons a little bit. Um, feel free to tell me your stories. Um, and I think that’s all I got for you guys.

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