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Ever been caught in sibling competition over life milestones?

In this episode, Christa Innis and Lucette Brown dive into one listener’s wild tale of wedding conflicts. They cover topics such as handling toxic relationships, sibling rivalry, and balancing personal happiness with family expectations. The episode also includes unpopular opinions on wedding traditions, a humorous take on wedding speeches gone wrong, and the pressures of planning events. The episode ends with a rapid-fire Q&A about event planning and a heartfelt discussion on maintaining supportive family relationships.

Join Christa and Lucette Brown as they unpack jealousy, toxicity, and the importance of support in family dynamics—plus, discover how to survive wedding chaos without losing your sanity.

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Episode Chapter Markers

00:00 Introduction

01:51 Weather Talk: Melbourne vs. Midwest USA

04:07 Life in Chicago

04:59 Lucette’s Career Journey

06:51 Balancing Motherhood and Career

10:30 Unpopular Opinions: Relationships and Weddings

23:27 Event Planning Rapid Fire

33:40 Accidental Committee President

35:00 Mom Life and Time Management

37:14 Wedding Story Submission

41:23 Sister Rivalry and Wedding Drama

Must-Hear Insights and Key Moments

• Engagement Jealousy – Listener feels overlooked as her sister gets proposed to first despite being “less established.”
• Diamond Drama – Comparison of a real diamond versus an Etsy ring sparks tension and hurt feelings.
• Dress Appointment Feuds – Fat-phobic comments create conflict between sisters during bridesmaid dress shopping.
• Wedding Route Differences – One sister chooses Vegas elopement while the other plans a traditional wedding, escalating rivalry.
• Maid of Honor Dispute – Listener isn’t chosen as sister’s maid of honor, highlighting boundary and favoritism issues.
• Family Dynamics & Toxicity – Pent-up anger and competition reveal deeper familial struggles.
• Lesson in Support – Christa and Lucette discuss the importance of healthy boundaries and emotional support.
• Wedding Speech Nightmares – Confessions of inappropriate, cringe-worthy wedding speeches illustrate common wedding missteps.

Words of Wisdom: Standout Quotes from This Episode

• “Everyone has different boxes to check, don’t compare your journey to theirs.” – Lucette Brown
• “Your feelings are always valid, but toxicity isn’t excusable just because it’s family.”  – Lucette Brown
• “Let them be, sometimes you can’t force people into your bubble.” – Lucette Brown
• “If you’re unhappy with someone, either hash it out or step back.” – Lucette Brown
• “Just because someone’s your sister doesn’t mean they get a free pass to hurt you.” – Lucette Brown
• “If they can’t handle celebrating each other, just be guests at the wedding.” – Christa Innis
• “Pent-up anger doesn’t mix well with a bridal party; it’s a recipe for disaster.” – Christa Innis
• “It’s not about the diamond or the dress, it’s about who makes you feel supported.” – Christa Innis
• “Don’t hold resentment on your wedding day. Life’s too short for that.” – Christa Innis
• “Sometimes, cutting ties temporarily is the healthiest choice for both sides.” – Christa Innis
• “Not inviting toxic family members is self-care, not drama.” – Christa Innis

*This conversation is for entertainment and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Please seek a licensed professional for your specific situation.

About Lucette

Lucette Brown is a marketing professional with over 15 years of experience in the industry, focusing on digital and interactive channels. She has worked with senior staff members to achieve record sales, company growth, and strategic objectives. Lucette has extensive experience in wedding and event planning, which she translates into creative content through her TikTok and Instagram account. She also has training from Second City and iO Theater in Chicago, where she developed her storytelling skills. Currently based in Australia, Lucette continues to work in marketing and create content about the wedding and events industry.

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Christa Innis:  Hey guys. Welcome back to another episode of Here Comes The Drama. I’m your host, Christa Innis, and we have got a great episode for you today. Lucette Brown from Events and affairs is back and it’s well to think. She was actually my very first guest ever on the podcast, and we are coming close to a year of the podcast, which is just wild to think. The first episode came out January 23rd of this year, 2025. As I’m recording and yeah, we’re almost at a year of when it came out Les and I feel like I just talked to Issa. I mean, we see each other online all the time in chat, but um, it was so great catching up with her and we read a very wild, very long, very detailed story that I feel like you guys are gonna really get a kick out of because our opinions we’re very aligned in our opinion, but it might not be.

This response, you guys might think. So, uh, we got a lot to share, a lot of wild stories. And as always, Lou and as always, Lucette just has a lot of great stories and great opinions of per sleeve. So, without further ado, here is my interview with Lucette. Enjoy.

Christa Innis: Hi Lucette. Thanks for coming back.

Lucette Brown: No worries.

Christa Innis: I feel like it’s so funny ’cause we’ll always like start recording or we’ll start talking when we first hop on. I feel like we had a full conversation, but I’m just so happy to have you come back on. I’ve got my, yeah, thanks for

Lucette Brown: having me.

Christa Innis: Busy mom chic right now because we’re recording to match up our time zones.

You’re in Australia, which is awesome.

Lucette Brown: Yep. sunny in the afternoon here.

Christa Innis: Yeah, because you’re about you you were just saying you’re about to hit summer in Australia. Yeah, right.

Lucette Brown: Yeah. Not that, I mean, I’m from Melbourne, so summer is a loose term at the moment. It’s been torrential rain. I feel like we’re still in winter, the rest of the country’s in summer, almost in summer.

Christa Innis: Oh God. is it kind of like cold and then rainy and then a little bit of warm weather? Or is it kind of just a mix?

Lucette Brown: no, Melbourne’s just all over the joint with its weather. yeah, we say that Melbourne is literally the four seasons in one day. and like, at my workplace, I’ll be chatting to my colleagues that are, you know, interstate and stuff.

They’ll be in Queensland and they just have beautiful sunshine weather. And then, you know, US people in Melbourne are just always rugged up.

Christa Innis: Oh my gosh. You like never know what we’re gonna get.

Lucette Brown: No. But then we’ll get like, you know, two weeks of just like 40 plus degree days.

Christa Innis: Yeah. And

Lucette Brown: then we’re all just dying from the heat.

Christa Innis: Yeah. Four. Okay. So 40 degrees Celsius.

Lucette Brown: Celsius, yes.

Christa Innis: Gotta be little. What is that? 80? 80 degrees. I looked that up. 40 degrees.

Lucette Brown: I dunno if fa I think Farran has a little bit than four.

Christa Innis: Whoa. Okay. It’s really hot. Yeah, I’d be inside. Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Yeah.

Christa Innis: I used to be able to tolerate hot weather so much better when I was younger.

And I try not to complain now, but like, I can’t handle it as well. I get sick.

Lucette Brown: I’m not built for the heat.

Christa Innis: Ugh.

Lucette Brown: Like I’m built for, you know, Scotland Island. I’m not built further. my body is not built for the, hot climate, but

Christa Innis: Oh my. Here we are. Here we are. We just do a with. Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Yeah. I’ll go out with sunscreen on and I’ll come back.

Burn.

Christa Innis: Oh. So,

Lucette Brown: oh

Christa Innis: my gosh.

Lucette Brown: I need sunscreen layers and shade. Get, I’ll make good.

Christa Innis: Yeah. Oh my God, that’s so funny. I know, like where I live, I’m in the suburb or I guess like the Midwest of the United States. I was like, trying to think of what suburb, and we kinda get all the seasons too. Like you never really know what you’re gonna get.

Like we’ll get cold summers and then sometimes we’ll get. We won’t get snow until like January or February. So I don’t really trust any season anymore.

Lucette Brown: No.

Christa Innis: You know what, take it day by day. We had 80. Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Everyone’s like

Christa Innis: until October this year. So

Lucette Brown: Yeah. Everyone’s like, what season are you? I’m like, I don’t know.

It’s still cold.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: So what’s is that In Chicago.

Christa Innis: Yeah. I’m not in Chicago. I grew up in the suburbs of Chicago, but I’m like, I’m like two and a half hours from Chicago now.

Lucette Brown: Oh, okay. Yeah. Yeah. ’cause that’s, I lived in Chicago for almost a year.

Christa Innis: Oh yeah, we talked about this. That’s awesome.

That’s, you did, that’s of fun city, didn’t you?

Lucette Brown: Yeah. Second City improv, IO theater, all that kind of stuff. So I just lived in, old town.

Christa Innis: Okay. Oh, that’s awesome. Yeah, I was just there downtown last weekend and I haven’t had like a full day in Chicago in a long time. I met with my best friend there and no kids, no husbands, and it was just like,

Lucette Brown: oh, fun.

Our

Christa Innis: oyster. Like, what are we gonna, it was almost like we’re so used to like, momming or just having schedules that we were like, what? What do we do? What do we do?

Lucette Brown: What do we do? Well, our oyster, we can do whatever we like.

Christa Innis: Yeah. It was wild.

Lucette Brown: 

From Weddings to Motherhood

Christa Innis: So for anyone that did not listen to your previous episode that you were on, you kind of done a little bit of everything.

I know you did events as well. Can you just give a little rundown of who you are, what you do, what you have done, and

Lucette Brown: Yep.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Mixed bag. well, essentially I was in the. Wedding and event industry for just over 13 years. so my very first job was a very kind of mixed bag. So it was at, I suppose I can say the places, ’cause it’s not like I’m working there now.

I never know like whether you’re allowed to say, but I’m like, you could easily find it if you were just to do a quick Google search. So, my first job was at the state library, of Victoria. And that was a very kind of mixed bag of like music concerts, press releases, weddings, lots of different things.

 it became very popular, when sex in the city became big and Carrie got married, at the state library, but married, she got left at the state library, but a lot of people wanted to be like her. So it was funny, our inquiries. Went through the roof, for that. ’cause it had like the marble staircase and everything like that.

So a lot of people wanted like the sex and the city moment.

Christa Innis: So it looks like the wedding that she had, are we talking the like with big

Lucette Brown: Yeah. Where she gets left?

Christa Innis: Yes. Was that so it, I know,

Lucette Brown: uh, yeah, similar. So it’s got like the marble staircases that lead up to, like the old 1850s part of the state library and stuff.

 so like very different but also similar parts of it. but yeah, so then, you know, went to lots of different places and then, Kind of left the Melbourne City area and kind of worked at venues down, I live on the Mornington Peninsula, so, down this way. And then, yeah, just kind of really honed in and just focused on weddings.

 and then, yeah, had my daughter and tried to juggle a little, but the 14 hour days just weren’t, just, wasn’t it anymore. So I lasted until she was probably about six months and then yeah, did a bit of a career change.

Christa Innis: Yeah, that’s a lot. Especially like when they’re so small and you’re trying to balance it all.

And like you said, 14 hour work days, that’s a lot.

Lucette Brown: Just not, just not it.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: So it was a bit hard to kind of, because I suppose for me, like the weddings and the clients were kind of like my babies in a sense. And then, yeah, once I kind of had a baby, I couldn’t. give them everything that I was so used to being able to give.

 so yeah, it just, it was at a crossroads and it was just kind of like, no, I need to. I need to stop this while it’s still, you know, good and, you know, ending on, on good terms and stuff. and then, yeah, just kind of pivoted. Not to say I won’t ever get back there. for now my life kind of needed to change a little bit.

Christa Innis: Yeah. I’m glad you were able to like, figure that out for yourself and make that change. ’cause I feel like it’s hard to have that realization. ’cause I feel like after you have a baby, it’s like your priorities change in different ways. Mm-hmm. You don’t always

Lucette Brown: expect so much.

Christa Innis: I remember like when I was pregnant talking to a friend that just had a baby who owned her business, and I was like, I don’t know how I’m gonna work and take care of a baby. No. she’s like, something clicks where like your priorities change. And then when you do have time, you’re present with them when you have free time, she’s like, you’re just very focused.

You’re like, let’s get this done while you have time.

Lucette Brown: Oh. I say, yeah, there’s no one more productive than, a mom. Like, you know, I look at like how long it used to take me to get things done at like my jobs and stuff. And now I’m just like, man, I wasted a lot of time. I know,

Christa Innis: I know. It’s funny ’cause someone was just asking me like, they’re like, what does your work week look like?

And I was like, honestly, no two weeks are the same. I said, but when I get a good two hours that I know I focus, I just like B boom, boom. Yeah. Nothing else can bother me.

Lucette Brown: You can smash a lot out.

Christa Innis: Yeah. And I feel like I used to be the person where if a text came through I had to respond right away. Now I can’t entertain a text because I know I’ll get distracted and you’ll get lost in the realms of your phone.

I’m like, if I’m into something I have to just like focus or else I get too.

Lucette Brown: Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Or two shiny things. I’ll just be like, oh. And then I, they’ll be like, um, hello? And I’m like, oh, I’m so sorry. Circling back.

Christa Innis: Yes. like I did for this, um, invite to our Zoom call. I literal

Lucette Brown: Yeah. Well, and yeah, and me responding to your message.

Christa Innis: Wait, we, I was like,

Lucette Brown: oh, I haven’t heard from Crystal.

Christa Innis: Well, we like booked. It’s

Lucette Brown: like, that’s because I haven’t responded. That would be on me.

Christa Innis: No. But I, I looked back and I created it for Monday. So the day I sent the link, I created it for that day. And I was like, girl, what are you doing? But it’s just one of those things, like,

Lucette Brown: I was actually sitting here at 11:00 AM my time, and I was like, already. And I’m like, Hmm. And then it’s like, oh, that’s not the right time. And then you popped up and I was like, oh, well,

Christa Innis: I was like, I think I messed up the time zone. But we just figure it out. We always figure it out.

 thanks for being here.

We gotta do another, it’s okay.

Lucette Brown: It’s fun.

Wedding Stress & Boundaries 

Christa Innis: I was just thinking we gotta do another skit because I remember we did one a little after you were on the podcast and I was thinking like by the time this comes out to, I don’t know the exact date, but it might be close to a year of like your initial episode, which is wild to think.

Lucette Brown: That is wild

Christa Innis: because you were one of the first That’s nuts. Episodes in like,

Lucette Brown: yeah.

Christa Innis: January or February.

Lucette Brown: That’s so awesome. Congratulations on getting to a year. It’s wild. That’s awesome.

Christa Innis: Thanks. Yeah, it doesn’t feel like it. I feel like I just started. I feel like I’m still a beginner.

Lucette Brown: That’s right. I feel like that’s everyone.

Christa Innis: Yeah. Just figuring out like Stay outta time, but I was like, oh wow. I think she might actually be like right around the same time as last time. Okay. Let’s get into this new segment. Actually, let’s do unpopular opinions. This is a little, it’s kind of a similar segment, but these are gonna be popular, unpopular relationship and drama takes.

So share thoughts on these that people send. Long engagements aren’t a red flag. They’re financially smart.

Lucette Brown: Yeah. I mean, technically my husband and I are still engaged because we never got married.

Christa Innis: Oh, there you go.

Lucette Brown: Like legally We got married overseas. so Oh,

Christa Innis: you had a destination wedding?

Lucette Brown: Yeah.

Christa Innis: like a certificate, a marriage certificate?

Lucette Brown: yeah. So you are supposed to, so if you get married in a.

Like a different country. You can get married legally in that country, but you always still have to get married legally in your country.

Christa Innis: Oh.

Lucette Brown: And you still gotta fill out all the paperwork we never did it. so we got married in 2019, so right before, you know, the whole world changed Uhhuh and it just, yeah.

We never, I chatting to people who did destination weddings, everyone was like, do the paperwork first because you just, you won’t do it afterwards. And I’m like, yeah, it doesn’t really bother me. Whatever. Like, we’ll do it if we do it. And Yeah. No, I even had, at my job, I would have celebrates be like, I will come to your house and we will just do it.

Like, it’ll be easy and simple. And I’m like, yeah, we’ll get to it. it was just, I’m like, yeah, but then I gotta get witnesses. I got people around and like at that stage. Especially being in Melbourne, we were in and out of stage four lockdowns. Oh my. Which, unless you’re from Melbourne, you don’t understand what that means, which you should be very thankful.

 but yeah, so it was just, yeah. So technically we’re still engaged

Christa Innis: and yeah. In the country you reside, you’re still engaged, but where’d you get married?

Lucette Brown: Bali.

Christa Innis: Bali. So if you go there, you’re still legally married?

Lucette Brown: No, we also didn’t get legally married there either.

Christa Innis: So you’re just,

Lucette Brown: we just had a party. one of my best mates, married us. and like in Australia it’s very different. It’s not like America where you can kind of just get like ordained online. You’ve gotta do like a full course. Mm-hmm. And it’s quite a lengthy process to be able to legally marry people in Australia.

 and it’s quite expensive, so. Yeah. No, one of my mates just married us.

Christa Innis: I love it. But you know what, it’s like you guys did a party and an event that you really enjoyed, like for yourself ultimately. And that’s,

Lucette Brown: yeah, that’s all we kind of wanted. We just wanted the big party.

Christa Innis: Yeah. And I think with you probably working in stuff and weddings, you’re like, I know exactly what I want.

I’m not gonna cater to other people. This is gonna be our event. And I feel like you said last

Lucette Brown: well, and two, I didn’t wanna get married. Here because I can’t, I knew all of the suppliers, like the venues and stuff, and to me, especially like being like a people pleaser, I couldn’t bear the thought of being like, oh, well I picked you and I didn’t pick you, and Oh wow.

You know? Sorry. I had so many beautiful relationships with so many people, the thought of having to like, choose, I was just like, nah, too high basket. I’m just going to go to a different country.

Christa Innis: That is such a good point. That’s like,

 if all your friends were, I mean, I don’t even know, like a dress designer or something, you know, like if you work with someone so close, then you’re like, I can’t, then they’re clearly, clearly gonna know who my favorite is or, you know, something

Lucette Brown: Yeah.

Christa Innis: Like that. You’re like, I can’t. Yeah, that’s a really good point. I didn’t think about that.

Lucette Brown: Yeah, so the only, like, we flew over the catering and then I flew over the musician. and then that was kind of it. Everyone else was. Supplies over there.

Christa Innis: Yeah. Wow. That’s a great point though about the long engagements.

Like when anytime I post like anything about like people waiting a while to get engaged or people waiting while to get married, people have so many opinions about it and I’m like, every situation is completely different. Oh, a hundred percent are different. It’s just like I don’t get how people can get so up in arms about like, ‘ cause like my husband and I are like the opposite.

We’re, I dunno if it’s the opposite, but like we dated a long time before we got engaged. Like we were together or six years before we got engaged. We always knew we were going to, but like I was 23 when I met him, so I was like, I don’t wanna get married anytime soon.

if I do skits or people get married or like get engaged after like a long time, they’re like, red flag, red flag.

And I’m like, that’s not always the case. Like I know people that started dating 16, like give people a break.

Lucette Brown: Yeah. Literally. Well I think, yeah, my partner and I. We’ve been together 14 years now. We’ve been married for six. So we got engaged after eight years.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: And yeah.

Christa Innis: doesn’t determine like your strength as a couple.

Lucette Brown: No. we had a lot of strong opinions. I think people have just accepted it now ’cause it’s been six years and they’re like, yeah, whatever. but we had a lot of strong opinions when people found out we weren’t legally married.

Christa Innis: Really?

Lucette Brown: And people were like, so what did we go to? we went to our wedding.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: And people were like, well, no we didn’t. You’re not legally married. And we’re like, we are like,

Christa Innis: well, and it’s like for us, like how many couples have you followed up with that you’ve been to their wedding to be like, did you file the paperwork? Like no one. I know I didn’t.

Lucette Brown: No, it’s only came out because obviously we got married internationally.

So people were like, oh, how does that work? And then, you know, it’ll obviously come up. And then, yeah. Some people, especially like, you know, the older. The older generations in that were kind of a bit, yeah. Got real funny about it. And especially ’cause, you know, they had to fly to another country and stuff.

And we were like, yeah, how awesome is it that we all got to fly to Bali and we all got to have this amazing holiday all together. Like, when else are we ever gonna do that? And how awesome it is that we got to have this huge party.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Like let’s focus on the positives people.

Christa Innis: Like why, why are we complaining about that?

Lucette Brown: Why are you complaining? Like I think that’s a crazy thing.

Christa Innis: That’s an amazing

Lucette Brown: trip. Yeah.

Christa Innis: I wanna

Lucette Brown: call. We had an amazing holiday. None like that whole group of people will never be in Bali together probably again.

Christa Innis: Mm-hmm. So, yeah.

Lucette Brown: but we had a lot of, a lot of strong opinions on that.

Christa Innis: Wow, that’s so interesting.

But really nothing surprises me anymore. People just have a lot of opinions about

Lucette Brown: people have opinions on everything.

Christa Innis: Yeah. okay. This one says. not inviting toxic family members is self-care, not drama.

Lucette Brown: A hundred percent.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Straight down the middle with that. Get rid of the toxicity. Get rid of the toxic family members.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: I think like 10 years ago, me would’ve been like, oh no. Like you have to have them now. Uh, no. I just don’t have the space all time.

Christa Innis: Yeah. I would say that it’s not worth it. One of the benefits of like not getting in my own personal, I’m not saying it didn’t work for some people getting married young, but for me personally, if I would’ve gotten married really young, like when I first met my now husband, I feel like I would’ve been such a people placer.

Like, yeah, okay. Yeah. And like invite every friend or every person I ever had like a hangout with, you know?

Lucette Brown: Yeah.

Christa Innis: I would’ve had way too many bridesmaids that maybe weren’t super close or great friends just ’cause I was like, I don’t wanna leave anybody out, but. Getting married when I did, I was more like, no, this is what I want.

I haven’t talked to that person in a couple years. They’ve never reached out. You know, we’re not gonna invite. Not

Lucette Brown: worth it.

Christa Innis: Just,

Lucette Brown: yeah.

Christa Innis: Easier a little bit.

Lucette Brown: Yeah.

Christa Innis: All right, last one. The real red flag is how someone might handle wedding stress. Us.

Lucette Brown: I don’t know because I’ve seen like the most beautiful people as like my clients and stuff who have been like so nice and so lovely, and then come to like, the week of their wedding. Like it’s just like someone else goes over them, like the stress gets to them and stuff, and it’s just.

Yeah. I don’t know. So I think people handle stress different.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: And I don’t know necessarily whether that’s a red flag or not. Maybe just something they need to personally work on.

Christa Innis: Yes. Yeah. I

Lucette Brown: know. Something that, you know, we can overcome.

Christa Innis: Right. I know you would hope, like if, you know, you’re like high strung around stress or like stressful situations make you act a certain way.

Like you have like a support group around you. Yeah. And my thing is just don’t be mean to people when you’re stressed. No.

Lucette Brown: Yeah.

Christa Innis: It’s the same for like the quote unquote, like Karen’s or something. No offense to anyone named Karen that’s listening, but it’s like those videos where they’re like stressed ’cause like their food came out wrong or you know, something like dumb like that and they freak out on someone, helping them.

That’s what I don’t have sympathy for. if you’re gonna be rude or mean to someone just because you are stressed or you’re going, or like you’re late so you’re like honking your horn at somebody like

Lucette Brown: mm-hmm.

Christa Innis: Take a breather.

Lucette Brown: Yeah.

Christa Innis: You can still be nice. And

yeah,

Lucette Brown: and I think that was, the time again, like COVID hit and stuff and in Melbourne we had to cancel all of our weddings and stuff.

And being on the end of that and having to call all of the couples, like people who literally were having weddings in two days. And I was just like, yeah, your wedding’s not going ahead. Oh my God. and like some of the people were so beautiful. Like you’ve literally called them, they have been planning this wedding for, God knows how long their wedding is supposed to be happening in two days and like now it’s not happening.

And not only that, I don’t know when it can happen because the problem we had is obviously like you’re canceling all these people, but like we’re already booked up for, two, three years. So then you are having like. The COVID backlog trying to deal with that and stuff. And that was probably like how people handled that situation.

 I still remember the people who got and like, rightfully so like, yeah, okay. Get angry, but like, they would get like horrendously angry like at me and I’m like, I’m not the one putting, putting us, you know, this isn’t, it’s not my personal fault.

I’m just having to relay the information.

Yeah. I’m not, not me. I’m just relaying just relaying the information.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Um, so yeah, that was probably, ’cause you know, like who in their wildest dreams would’ve ever thought that was ever gonna be something that Right. We would have to deal with. and then yeah, having to make those phone calls. and then yeah, seeing how people dealt with that.

It was like, yeah, like very beautiful humans that were just okay. It is what it is.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Like it sucks and I’ll cry about it, but can’t change it.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Whereas some people are like, no, I’m getting married. I’m like, no, I’m sorry, but no, you’re not.

Christa Innis: Sorry.

Lucette Brown: Fuck. I hate to break it to you, but

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Uh, no, it’s not happening.

Christa Innis: That has to be a really stressful phone call for you to make. I feel like especially you’re saying you’re a people pleaser or like have that tendencies, like,

Lucette Brown: oh, anxiety just,

Christa Innis: oh, I already hate the phone. So doing that, knowing you’re telling them something bad that’s,

Lucette Brown: oh, it was. And like, I think they knew, ’cause obviously like there were press releases at the time and, it was being announced that this was happening.

 you would know you were about to get the phone call, but yeah. And then you’d just be on the other end and sometimes you’re just listening to like just sobbing and you’re just like, okay, well I’ve got about a hundred more of these phone calls to make, so bye.

Christa Innis: Oh my gosh. I’m sure by the last one you’re just like, I’m sorry, this is it.

Lucette Brown: Oh, I’m done.

Christa Innis: Yeah,

Lucette Brown: I’m

Christa Innis: done. Oh my gosh. Gosh. That was like,

Lucette Brown: I was trying to like pass it on to like my colleagues and stuff, but because like I was the manager in that, they’re like, Nope, that’s a you problem. I’m like, yep, fair enough.

Christa Innis: Got it.

Lucette Brown: Fair enough. I’d do the same thing too. Gosh,

Christa Innis: gosh. That like reminds me of I feel like some of the most stressful calls I had to make was when I used to work for a gym.

I worked in like the corporate office. So like I was not in the gym, did not work with the clients, but every once in a while I had people calling the corporate office complaining about like a membership thing. Like maybe they didn’t cancel in time had to be like, sorry, it’s in your contract, blah, blah, blah.

Like I don’t even remember the term, but I had people scream at me on the phone. I was like, I did not sign you up for this contract. I am literally in the corporate office. And then I. This lady,

Lucette Brown: I didn’t write the contracts.

Christa Innis: I was like, I don’t agree with it either, but I’m really relaying the iteration, like it was a terrible, toxic job.

Hated it. but I remember this one time, I was already having like a rough day. Like the boss was terrible. he yelled at me for just having a bad day. Like he literally, so I was already having a bad day. This lady is screaming at me on the phone and I just started crying and the lady was like, okay, you know what?

I’m,

Lucette Brown: I’m, I’ll keep my contract. Thank you. Sorry. Signed me up for another 12 months. It’s fine.

Christa Innis: No, she literally did was like, okay, sorry sweetie. I didn’t make fina make you cry. And I was like, it’s just been a rough day. Gosh.

Lucette Brown: Like people forget, like the people you’re abusing are humans and like a lot of the times the people you’re abusing don’t have the power to change anything.

Yeah. Like,

Christa Innis: like,

Lucette Brown: and like the 16 year olds behind the coffee counter, and they’re just like. Here’s your coffee.

Christa Innis: You’re like, dude, I work, like I work here after school. Like I, yeah. Doing what I can. I cannot make any changes.

Lucette Brown: No.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Dunno why you’re abusing me, but thanks.

Christa Innis: Yeah, thanks. Oh my gosh, it’s wild.

Last-Minute Saves & Meltdowns

Okay, before we get to this week’s wild story, I wanna do a quick, little quick, might be redundant, but a rapid fire event planning edition. So I’m gonna ask a random question and we’re just gonna try to be as quick as possible. Okay. You ready? No pressure. I’m saying like high stress moments

Lucette Brown: first that pops into my head.

Christa Innis: Yeah. What’s one vendor? Red flag?

Lucette Brown: Not being flexible.

Christa Innis: Ooh. What’s a client

Lucette Brown: like? Their way or the highway?

Christa Innis: Yeah. What’s a client? Red flag

Lucette Brown: Entitlement.

Christa Innis: Hmm. Funniest guest request you’ve ever gotten?

Lucette Brown: Oh God. I know this is supposed to be a quick fire and this is not quick fire.

Christa Innis: If you can’t think of one, it’s okay to like pass to

Lucette Brown: No, it’s more, I’m trying to think of like, what would be the top, like we’ve had people request to do, magic shows, comedy acts, dances. We had people, there’s always a people who request to sing and they can’t sing.

And I’m always asking why.

Christa Innis: Oh, do they try to do it behind the bride and groom’s back, like out as a surprise?

Lucette Brown: Mm-hmm. As a surprise.

Christa Innis: Oh. How do you work that out? Do you have to like ask the bride and groom for permission?

Lucette Brown: it depends on the client. Like, because you, you know, you’re spending up to two years with these people, so you really do get to know them on like a personal level.

Yeah. Um, and yeah, it would depend on the couple, whether I would be like, oh, they would love that, or no, let’s maybe think of a different situation where that might work. maybe not at their wedding. but yeah,

Christa Innis: that’s,

Lucette Brown: wow. So it’s the people who can’t sing,

Christa Innis: I

Lucette Brown: just, they’re like, I’ll sing.

Christa Innis: They’re like, for my first act, I’ll be singing at their reception right in front of them.

I’m

Lucette Brown: gonna start singing.

Christa Innis: Oh my gosh. I just read a story where a mother, yeah, I was a bride’s mom. Planned this whole thing, like took over the whole wedding and then sang for like, I wanna say it was like 30 minutes for like everybody. And there was like nothing they could do. The bride didn’t want it, but like she was the one that booked everything.

Did everything. So she made it like her event, and they were like,

Lucette Brown: see, we have had those scenarios before where I have literally just pulled the plug

Christa Innis: Really?

Lucette Brown: Yeah.

Christa Innis: Oh my.

Lucette Brown: And I’ve done it on a DJ before too.

Christa Innis: A dj. What’d the DJ do?

Lucette Brown: They were singing when they went to, they were singing? Yeah.

Christa Innis: Why was the DJ singing?

Lucette Brown: Just felt like it felt moved by the music. And I looked at the, I looked at the couple and like, she’s just like looking at me and I’m like, is this like, I walked up to her and I was like, is this supposed to happen? She’s like, no. And I’m like, is this part of the service? And she goes, no, I don’t want them to be singing.

I’m like, oh, okay. And I like tried to like in between, I was like, okay. I love that you are trying to add a different level to this wedding. Like, fantastic. Um, but could we not, like, could we just stick to DJing? That would be great, but they just wouldn’t listen. and then it like gets to the point where it’s just like, yeah, okay, you’re being paid for a service.

You are not listening to me now.

Christa Innis: Yeah,

Lucette Brown: I’m done. So I just pulled the microphone and I’m like, put your DJ music back on please. And just walked away. That is

Christa Innis: wild. To be like, because

Lucette Brown: I was like, whatever. I was like, I’ll be the bad guy. that’s fine. The couple are here to, you know, this is their wedding day.

 and then yeah.

Christa Innis: Oh my

Lucette Brown: God. Safe to say that they weren’t exactly Welcome back at the venue.

Christa Innis: Yeah. That’s wild. To just start singing as the dj.

Lucette Brown: Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Christa Innis: Like, oh, I

Lucette Brown: can s better than,

Christa Innis: uh, Whitney Houston over here. Just lemme

Lucette Brown: know. Yeah. Felt moved by the music and just whipped out a microphone and started singing.

Christa Innis: Wow. I’ve heard it all. I’ve heard it all. Let’s see. best last minute save. You’ve pulled off.

Lucette Brown: Ooh,

Christa Innis: I know these, some, these are like hard and like detailed.

Lucette Brown: Probably the one that probably comes to mind was ages ago. and it was at the state library and how it works is like the whole place is on like four blocks, in the Melbourne CBD and we had a huge power outage, but only half of the library was part of the power outage.

Christa Innis: Mm-hmm.

Lucette Brown: And we had this huge, corporate event, which was this huge like launch for, I won’t say the client, but huge like product launch, all that kind of stuff. And it was happening in like an hour. I was on the phone and unfortunately, like they couldn’t say.

When we were getting power. ’cause obviously we are very low on the list, for when people get their power back and stuff. And they couldn’t give us a time estimate. So we had to completely relocate to a completely different, area in the library. And then with no power. Like with no power.

We had no lifts and we were trying to get ovens and stuff up, the mumble staircases and stuff, and we had to use ramps and it was just like pulling out every trick in the book Oh my To pull the event off. And literally as the event, it all got pulled together as the guests were arriving.

Christa Innis: Whoa.

So just in the naked time?

Lucette Brown: Just in naked time.

Christa Innis: Wow.

Lucette Brown: So that was like, I was what, I think it was like when all this was happening. So you put

Christa Innis: like, fresh in like,

Lucette Brown: yeah, fresh in thinking on my toast. I do remember like pushing ovens up on like planks of wood trying to get like, not, not oh HNS, you gotta get what you gotta get done.

So that was probably the best last minute save off the top of my head.

Christa Innis: That’s wild. That’s a good example. have you ever had to hide a meltdown from a client?

Lucette Brown: A lot,

Christa Innis: 

Lucette Brown: Too many to count. So many, so many meltdowns from family members, even like meltdowns from brides who didn’t want their guests to see.

 but yeah, the most recent venue I worked at, we had like a little kind of like cottage, which we could put people in. but yes, we would have to move a lot or like, not just meltdowns, just like. Family who’ve gotten too heated and we’re like, okay, we need to separate you guys. and then, yeah,

Christa Innis: it’s like a whole,

Lucette Brown: yeah.

That would happen more often than not. Oh

Christa Innis: my gosh. It’s wild.

Lucette Brown: Weddings, place of love.

Christa Innis: Nice. It’s like a high stress, like any kind of issue or problem gets all just brought to the surface and

Lucette Brown: Yeah.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: And we would have so many too during the ceremony, and especially come like summertime and you’ve got a ceremony outside and if it’s, you know, a ridiculously hot day and you’ve had people who haven’t eaten and they’ve just been drinking and they haven’t necessarily drunk water, like people just like passing out during the ceremony.

Christa Innis: Oh my gosh.

Lucette Brown: So that would happen a bit as well.

Christa Innis: Okay.

Lucette Brown: It would go too hard on the pre-drinks.

Christa Innis: Yeah. Yeah. I’m sure that’s pretty common. I’ve seen it happen at a lot of weddings.

Lucette Brown: Yeah.

Christa Innis: they run wild, you know. Yeah. Bars are open, drinks are flowing. Yeah.

Lucette Brown: this is before our bra even opened.

This is like their own, their own bars been opened

Christa Innis: right. To the hotel or something. Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Yeah.

Christa Innis: Oh my gosh. what’s a wedding trend? You’re over?

Lucette Brown: Hmm.

God

probably, it might be, but wedding favors like Ardi.

Christa Innis: Yeah. I feel like that’s a

Lucette Brown: lot. I just think it’s the price per head is just astronomical these days. I don’t think you also need to be buying your guest a present, which just gets left.

Christa Innis: Mm-hmm. Yeah. I’ve seen some really cool favors and they’re fun, but I feel like for the most part, they get left behind or

Lucette Brown: Mm.

Christa Innis: Just kinda like, don’t care about them. There’s certain people and I feel like it’s, maybe it’s ’cause it’s like, I love crafts and I love like little trinkets. So for me it’s like, oh, like I remember this from my friend’s wedding. But I would say majority of people are just kind of like, okay. Or they like leave them behind.

Lucette Brown: Yeah. and two, the amount of it would get to the point where you’d be like, towards the end of the wedding season and the staff were even like, I can’t take any more wedding papers home. Like, and the couples would be like, please, like, we don’t want them. And the staff are like, I don’t want them either.

Christa Innis: I don’t need another bottle opener or a cozy,

Lucette Brown: no, I don’t need another, stubby holder. I don’t need another, you know, so many things that people would have. I’m like, I just, we are good. Thank you. Of like a couple that you don’t really actually know.

Christa Innis: okay. we were talking before we started about different phrases from different countries and

Lucette Brown: Oh God, it’s stubby holder, isn’t

Christa Innis: it?

Stubby holder. So the only reason I know what that is now is because someone submitted a, I wanna say it was a story to me. I couldn’t remember if it was an unpopular opinion of a story. And I was reading, I was like, stubby holder, I gotta look that up. and I was like, oh, okay. Because we call ’em like beer coozies.

I’m thinking that’s what, ah, it like, it goes with a beer bottle.

Lucette Brown: Yeah. It’s a sleeve. It’s like an insulated sleeve that you can hold your cold beer.

Christa Innis: Yeah, I love that. And

Lucette Brown: yeah, a stubby holder.

Christa Innis: That sounds so much better than a coat. Cozy. I dunno. I

Lucette Brown: know. Cozy sounds cute though. Stubby holders just like, yeah.

I don’t know. That’s Aussie slang for you.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Stubby. Stubby holder.

Christa Innis: Yeah. I

Lucette Brown: Beer.

Christa Innis: Yeah. I feel like that used to be a very common, the last couple weddings I went to, I got like. I did get a cool, like beer, gosh, now I don’t know the term of it. Like kinda an old fashioned like beer mug, which was kind of cool.

Lucette Brown: Ah, yeah. In

Christa Innis: one wedding. I don’t know. I’d been so long since I’ve been like at a wedding as a guest. I just helped with a wedding like over the summer. I don’t remember what the beavers were. I don’t remember.

Lucette Brown: Oh, I’m very excited. We were about to go, oh, we

Christa Innis: did a flower bar.

They did a flower bar.

Lucette Brown: A flower bar. Oh yes. We used have the, yeah. Grand flowers and stuff. Yep.

Christa Innis: Yeah,

Lucette Brown: we had a few we had a lot of flower bars. I’m about to go to a wedding in about two weeks of one of the colleagues that I used to work with at

Christa Innis: Oh, fun.

Lucette Brown: The most recent wedding place I worked at.

Christa Innis: Oh, that’s fun. Yeah.

Lucette Brown: So that’ll be fun.

Christa Innis: Have you,

Lucette Brown: it’s always weird been on the other side.

Christa Innis: Yeah. To Do you think you like notice more things than like,

Lucette Brown: oh, a hundred percent. I try not to, and like I try to like switch it off and stuff. And I remember I was at one of my best friend’s wedding just recently and I was there and like I knew like the celebrate and everything, like we were chatting and stuff and you know, I was like, oh, like, you know, what can I do and everything.

And they kept going, just stop, go and enjoy yourself. And I’m like, okay,

Christa Innis: yeah,

Lucette Brown: sorry, forgot.

Christa Innis: You know, I had that problem for the longest time where I would be like. A guest invited to the wedding, not in the wedding party, but I would find some way to like help. Not like I was like overbearing and being like, look, no,

Lucette Brown: like I’m just like, yeah, like what can I do?

Christa Innis: Yeah. Like I’d be like texting the friend and being like, Hey, can’t wait for your wedding. I’m so excited. If you need anything, let me know. And they’d be like, oh. And I’d be like, just chatting with them. I’d be like, do you need help with that? Because there’ve been a few weddings where I’d be talking to the bride just like a friend of mine they’d be like really stressed about stuff.

And I was like, girl, what can I do to help? So I’d like go over there and help. And they’d be like,

Lucette Brown: yeah,

Christa Innis: why are my bridesmaids not even helping and you’re helping? I’m like, I don’t know. I just like enjoy doing it. My husband’s like, how’d you get involved again? And I’m like, I don’t know. I like doing stuff like that.

Lucette Brown: Yeah, just what happens.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: It’s just part of it. That was, now that my daughter is in kindergarten and she’s just started and like my husband was like. whatever you do, like please don’t, please don’t join the committee. And I’m like, no. Like I don’t have time to be on the committee. Like it’s all fine.

And then last year I went to like the big A GM that they had and I thought I was like signing up to create like a group WhatsApp account for like the moms and stuff. And I was like, oh yeah, I’ll do that. Like that’s fine, I’ll do that.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: And then one of the moms I was with was, she was like, oh congratulations, you’re on the committee.

I’m on the what now? And she’s like, you just signed up for the committee? And I’m like, no, I signed up to create a WhatsApp group. And she goes, yeah, that’s on the committee. I’m like,

Christa Innis: you are

Lucette Brown: part of, okay great. flash. And I was telling like when I was with all my friends, like, ’cause we’ve been friends for like 20 plus years now, and I was saying, you know, like I’m not being on the committee.

Like it’s not happening. And one of my mates, he’s like, doll. You’ll be president of the committee. Like before I know it and I’m like, no I won’t. Like no, I don’t have time. Flash forward to now and I am now the president of the committee.

Christa Innis: Oh my Lucy. You’re like Al, I just made time. I figured it out. Wait, what’s time? It went from you? What’s his?

Lucette Brown: Aries.

Christa Innis: Aries. Oh, Aries get stuff done. They really do.

Lucette Brown: Okay. Well it went from being the WhatsApp group to then being the fundraising person and like doing all the events and stuff. And then now I’m, yeah, the president.

Christa Innis: Oh my. You’re like, who me? don’t know.

Lucette Brown: Yeah. I was like, no, I don’t have time. And they’re like, all my friends who like know me more than me are like, please, yes you will be. You will be on that. You will be on that committee. I’m like, no,

 I don’t have time.

Christa Innis: Love that story. That is hilarious.

Lucette Brown: So it’s fun.

Christa Innis: Oh my gosh. You just,

Lucette Brown: we’ll make it work.

Christa Innis: Yeah. I feel like what we were talking about before, I don’t now, I don’t remember if this was when we were recording or not, but it’s like that mom thing we were talking about where it’s like all of a sudden you just make it happen.

Like you’re like, I got two hours. what normally would’ve maybe taken me 10, eight to 10 hours I will get done in. Yeah.

Lucette Brown: I’ll get it done.

Christa Innis: Who knows when my daughter will wake up, who knows when she’ll get home, you know, whatever it is. I’m gonna make this time count.

Lucette Brown: happen.

Christa Innis: You’re gonna,

Lucette Brown: it’s a lot of hours in a day.

Christa Innis: There’s so many hours in the day and

Lucette Brown: you don’t need sleep. Sleep’s overrated.

Christa Innis: Oh yeah. It’s

Lucette Brown: fine.

Christa Innis: Oh my gosh. You’re telling me, I’m like, that’s why I was telling you, the second I lay down with my daughter, I’m out because I refuse to nap. I don’t like napping. ’cause it makes me feel like I have so much to do.

 I gotta get stuff done. I’ve been this way since like high school, college. I just could not nap. And so, especially now that I’m like. Six hours of sleep every night about if I lay down to sleep. I’ve still not caught up from like when she was a baby, baby. And you get like hours. Oh yeah. God, no.

Lucette Brown: those years are gone.

Christa Innis: Those are gone. I feel like my body’s just always ready, like it’s always fall asleep.

Lucette Brown: Yeah.

Christa Innis: So I don’t

Lucette Brown: know. That was, I was reading somewhere and someone said, it was like, it takes four hours to like recoup like one hour of miss sleep. And I was like, I’m done. I’m never recouping those hours that I lost.

Christa Innis: Mm.

Lucette Brown: That’s

Christa Innis: no for like any new moms listening, this is what I did. And maybe it was like a little d Lulu, but this is what helped me when I would wake up in the middle of the night to like nurse her or just like, you know, if we had to change a diaper, whatever it was.

Lucette Brown: Mm.

Christa Innis: I refused to look at the clock.

I didn’t wanna know what Yeah. It was,

Lucette Brown: no,

Christa Innis: I had to do the

Lucette Brown: same

Christa Innis: so much. ’cause I would like. Not know how tired I was the next morning. Like I’d be like, I’m just gonna drink my coffee and carry on it’s morning.

Lucette Brown: Yeah,

Christa Innis: whatever

Lucette Brown: that was the best thing that I did too. Especially ’cause I had a saying, like, when you’re waking up to like, breastfeed them and everything and you’re just like, oh my god.

And you’re looking at the clock and you’re like, I have been up like six times already. And then it’s just like, you just need to like

Christa Innis: shut it

Lucette Brown: off. Like my husband, like, Hey man, how many times did she wake up? I’m like, dunno, don’t care.

Christa Innis: Yeah,

Lucette Brown: let’s move on.

Christa Innis: She’s good. The job was done. Check.

Lucette Brown: It is good.

 I was a good cow last night.

Let’s move on.

Christa Innis: Yes,

Lucette Brown: let’s

When Sisterly Support Turns Competitive

Christa Innis: Hundred percent. All good cow. Oh my gosh. All right, let’s get into this week’s wedding story submission. As always, names are changed and here we go. Feel free to stop me at any point, or we’ll just react. All right. My older sister, Rachel, was married before me, but her marriage only lasted two months when she was, hold on.

I have to stop something really quick.

Lucette Brown: you not change the names?

Christa Innis: No. I’ll take, I’ll take this out, this started just like a story I just read, so I was like, I wanna make sure it’s not the exact thing. So

Lucette Brown: the same one.

Christa Innis: Wait, I swear I’ve read this. Okay. Hold on. Let me just pause this. I’m so sorry. And we are back. Okay.

Lucette Brown: Like nothing happened.

Christa Innis: Yeah. Like nothing happened. What do we even, okay. Here is the blind reaction of the week. All the names have been changed. Okay. I 20 5:00 AM getting married to Dee 28 male. We’ve been together since 2022.

Started hanging out, spending the night more often than not. Moved in about nine months into the relationship and have been inseparable since. We don’t fight. We have so much fun together and we are genuinely in love. We both lived life as single people before, not as people who can’t be single, which I think is a huge red flag.

It just reassures us that we’re perfect for each other. Never wondering if the grass is greener or so to speak. My younger sister, C 20 F, is engaged to G 25 M. I actually went to school with G. He’s a nice guy. Was super nerdy in high school. Never went to parties, quiet but kind. And in most of my honors classes, when I found out they were dating, it felt weird.

I wasn’t sure how they met since they were not in school at the same time, and my sister wouldn’t tell us, which I thought was odd. She also wouldn’t let me follow him on Instagram. I sent a request and she told him to decline it, even though I’ve known him way longer than she has.

Once a month. Our big Italian family does Sunday dinner at my grandma’s house. When c and g started dating, he began coming too, but at every dinner or family function, they would key to themselves, whispering to each other the entire time while everyone else talked together. Super weird.

Lucette Brown: So is he married?

Christa Innis: I know. I’m like, what’s going on here? Is he hiding something from everybody?

Lucette Brown: Why can he come to family functions? But you can’t follow him on social media.

Christa Innis: Yeah. That’s very odd because I feel like anything that he is gonna show there would be the same. Right? Sure. Fast forward to 2024. My partner and I are thriving.

We went from renting to buying our first home. We’re both progressing in our careers. We adopted a dog. We’re building a beautiful life together. Now, my sister

Lucette Brown: I just love how this whole story, she’s like, so we’re just doing like amazing. And like everything about us is just fabulous, and we’re just really perfect people.

But my sister,

Christa Innis: there’s been a few stories that I’ve,

Lucette Brown: that in itself is a red flag.

Christa Innis: I know there’s,

Lucette Brown: I love the confidence. Love it. But you know,

Christa Innis: Yeah, I know. I always have to look at these stories. looking at both sides. Yeah, because I’ve gotten stories like this before where I’m like, well, I don’t actually see how your sister is being wrong.

Like, not saying this one necessarily, but

Lucette Brown: No,

Christa Innis: like, I’m like, wait, we need to look at this, but were different.

Lucette Brown: Yeah, no, I just, but I just love how Yeah. It’s just like, you know, like, we’re perfect, perfect for each other, we’re thriving, which like, they probably are, and like hats off to them, bravo.

But it’s just a very interesting way to like write a story and then be like, but my sister

Christa Innis: Yeah, but look at her.

Lucette Brown: She’s the problem.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Something wrong with that one.

Christa Innis: Oh my gosh. No, that’s so true because here we go.

Lucette Brown: Continue. Sorry.

Christa Innis: It says No, no, that’s a great observation. It says, now my sister and G’s situation, they still live together in G’S parents’ house.

So they horrible. They’ve been together, they’ve been together a few years now. they’re also engaged. Doesn’t say how long they’ve been together, but they live in his Parents’ house. as far as I’m being

Lucette Brown: financially responsible.

Christa Innis: Yeah. I’m like, as far as I’m concerned, 25 is still really young.

Like, I don’t know. I’m

Lucette Brown: pretty sure I was still living, like me and my now husband, were still living with my mom at 25.

Christa Innis: That’s, yeah. That’s so young. We were just barely getting back Bills at 20.

Lucette Brown: Yeah. So we were trying to save for a house.

Christa Innis: Yeah. so the girl that wrote this and her sister’s fiance are the same age, but the girl that wrote this, her partner is 28, so a few years older and her sister is younger.

Yeah. So I think it’s that like older sister thing.

Lucette Brown: Yeah.

Christa Innis: But like at the same time, like they’re not. her partner’s almost closer to 30 while she’s like early twenties. So I don’t know where I do feel. Yeah,

Lucette Brown: see maybe it’s younger sister and me that’s coming out and I’m like, hang on a second.

Christa Innis: Same. I’m the younger sister too, so I’m like,

Lucette Brown: alright sister,

Christa Innis: slow your rock.

Lucette Brown: Dial it back a not,

Christa Innis: it says, oh, she had an ad in his childhood bedroom. Okay. His two older siblings also live there with their significant others, which somehow normalizes it for them. Neither C nor G has ever lived on their own.

 which again, I think they’re pretty young. Especially like the Sister’s 20. I don’t, that’s pretty young. My sister has never had a job. Okay. In high school. She was a total home buddy. She’d even have us bring her food to go instead of coming to family dinners. My dad, I feel like there’s a lot of tension going on here, so she’s gonna mm-hmm.

Everything that annoys her, which I get my dad would make her come sometimes just to get outta the house. She got her license at 18, which might be the most adult things she’s done after high school. She started taking prerequisite classes at a local college, but stopped halfway through the semester, even though my parents were paying for it.

Now she’s been in cosmetology school for a while and keeps saying she’s almost done since December. Okay. When I asked what she’d do after, she said she’d work in an upscale salon we’ve all gone to for years. I told her to have a backup plan since they usually only hire Paul Mitchell graduates, but she insisted I was wrong and said so very rudely.

She still has no income and just asked my parents for money. Which they always still give. Basically, she’s at a very immature stage of life and it’s hard to talk to her about anything. Adult now for the wedding drama. Here we go. Okay. That was all the, all the background to get us ready for this. Yeah.

Before either of us were engaged, she sent a video of her and G in his yard playing with their goat. In the video, G was wearing a black rubber ring on his left hand. I texted privately asking if they got married. She snapped. It’s not a wedding band. Stupid. Oh, okay. And that was that. Then at the next family dinner, I noticed she was wearing a purple gemstone ring on her left hand.

My dad and grandma asked if I knew anything. I told them about our text. They all thought it was strange. A few weeks later, after dating for a year, my sister sent a picture in our family group chat of the ring with a yellow gemstone saying she got engaged. I honestly thought it was a joke because not to be rude, the ring looked like one of those you get out of a 25 cent machine.

My dad confirmed it was real. Oh, am

I?

Lucette Brown: Even if it was,

Christa Innis: I know, like I literally just saw a post today about this girl turned down an engagement because the ring was only $900 and this guy spent like, that’s a good chunk of money still. And she turned him down for that. And so it tried this whole debate of like.

What is acceptable? or would you say, go to this and I’m just like, if you wanna be with this person and they’re spending money on you, why does, I

Lucette Brown: couldn’t care if it was a silver with a cubic zirconia. Like,

Christa Innis: yeah, why does that matter? Does that

Lucette Brown: matter?

Christa Innis: I don’t know. I don’t get that whole thing.

 that like old fashioned, I dunno if people still do this when it’s like, it should cost six months of rent, have you before, or six months of their salary or something.

Lucette Brown: I do that these days, but people can’t even afford to put food on the tables alone. Six months to buy a ring.

Christa Innis: I wouldn’t want my partner to spend that money, be like, we could use that for so many. I could be

Lucette Brown: angry

Christa Innis: things. Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Like, do you know what we could have done with that money?

Christa Innis: I would legitimately be mad.

Lucette Brown: Yes. I’d be like, you can return that now. let’s go get something from, the $2 shop.

Christa Innis: Yes. And especially like you said too, like even if it was a 25 cents.

vending machine, they live, they’re saving money. They’re living at his parents’ house right now. Maybe they don’t have the funds.

Lucette Brown: She doesn’t have a job.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Like

Christa Innis: so

Lucette Brown: that’s a bit responsible.

Christa Innis: Yeah. Oh, here we go. I’ll admit it. I was annoyed. I felt like I deserved to be engaged more. Not in a body way, but in a, of course

Lucette Brown: not,

Christa Innis: but because Dee and I were so established while she seemed nowhere near ready

Lucette Brown: and thriving.

Christa Innis: Mm-hmm. Yeah. This is like a tale as old as time. I hate to say it like that, and I’m not trying to come down hard on this person, but like, it’s so hard to see outside the bubble and it stems from like jealousy of like, well, why is he proposing her first when we’re more established? But like, checking the boxes does not mean you’re more ready or less ready than them.

It’s

Lucette Brown: everyone has different boxes to check.

Christa Innis: Exactly. Like,

Lucette Brown: you know, I’ve got so many of my friends who will never get married ’cause it’s just not what they wanna do.

Christa Innis: Mm-hmm.

Lucette Brown: some of them don’t wanna have kids. Some of them will never buy a house.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Ish there. Right?

Christa Innis: Yeah. And I feel like it’s all completely separate.

It’s not like, yeah, all right, you bought a house so now you can have a baby. so now you this and I can do that. It’s like, no. Like they’re all separate decisions and every relationship is different how they wanna do it. Yeah. So if you have an annoyance with it, that’s between you and your partner to kind of figure out, not your sister.

Yeah.

Lucette Brown: And you know what she can always propose as well.

Christa Innis: Exactly. it’s 2025.

Lucette Brown: It’s 2025. if you wanna be engaged that badly. Wow.

Christa Innis: Take matters. Falls

Lucette Brown: in your court too.

Christa Innis: Yeah, exactly. So she said, still, she’s my sister and I wanted to be supportive. I texted her privately to say congratulations, and she responded nicely.

Sorry, this is long. we’re almost there. Two weeks later, Dee surprise me with a proposal on my birthday. I of course said yes and was thrilled. We called family and friends. I texted my sister a picture of my ring. A real diamond. Four and a half carrots. Hers is Mo. Oh, this reads so mean. Hers is mo, I can’t say the word Mo.

Mo. Oh,

Lucette Brown: mo. Moen

Christa Innis: Moen.

Lucette Brown: Moist

Christa Innis: Moen.

Lucette Brown: I know what you mean.

Christa Innis: I know what Mo. I know what Mo Ignite. Oh my gosh. It’s making me so mad. I can’t say it. Yeah. Ignite from Etsy though. She claims diamonds are tacky. There is nothing. Well, to be about a MOIs Aite ring from Etsy.

Lucette Brown: I was gonna say, I actually, I think there was like a light blue moise and I, which, and I was obsessed with this ring.

Loved it. Like that was actually my preferred stone. Mm-hmm. And the only reason why, when my husband was like designing the ring and stuff, he didn’t go with that was because it’s really soft and he knows how clumsy I am and I would’ve just ruined it. ’cause my rings never come off.

Christa Innis: Okay.

Lucette Brown: yeah, he knew, so he got like one of the sturdiest, really sturdy stones. but yeah, I was like, oh, like I like it. But I really like the blue one that I said, you know, the blue one Yeah. To be ungrateful. Yeah. Um, and then yeah, he was like, oh no, they’re really soft.

But yeah, it’s a beautiful gem.

Christa Innis: Yeah. I have to say, it’s funny ’cause like when we went on our honeymoon, I got a. $25 from Amazon. Like, it was like cubic zirconia because I didn’t wanna bring my real ring ’cause we were gonna be swimming and stuff, you know, we’ll get replacement ones. I got so many compliments on that ring, it was $25.

And I was like, okay. I just feel like it’s about what makes you feel good and who cares if they hundred percent quote unquote fake. Who cares? It’s what looks good for you? she didn’t reply until the next day with a single word. Congrats. That hurt. Especially after how supportive I’ve been sending one text.

Happy Bear. Making a negative comment is not really supportive.

Lucette Brown: Yeah. Have you been supportive?

Christa Innis: Yeah. And the fact, I don’t know, it just reads so like, I’m better than you because I have a full a

Lucette Brown: hundred percent

Christa Innis: spirit real diamond.

Lucette Brown: Yeah. But even like, when the whole story started. And you know, she was like, like, we’re perfect for each other.

We’re thriving, we’re this, we’re that. And it’s just like, okay.

Christa Innis: Yeah. When it sounds like she doesn’t really know,

Lucette Brown: are you good people?

Christa Innis: Yeah. Because

Lucette Brown: really that’s all that really matters.

Christa Innis: And to me, like it just sounds like she doesn’t really know her sister and her fiance’s relationship. Right. And it’s like,

Lucette Brown: yeah,

Christa Innis: maybe they’re just private people.

Like I know a lot of couples like that that just keep to themselves, and maybe that’s what it is. Maybe there is something more we don’t know, but like, it sounds like she doesn’t really know them, so they could be perfect for each other,

Lucette Brown: just be like, what? They’re 25? Yeah. Okay, cool. Some people don’t like know what they wanna do or like fully come into themselves until even like some people are like late thirties, early forties.

Christa Innis: Mm-hmm.

Lucette Brown: Like,

Christa Innis: yeah.

Lucette Brown: Let ’em be.

Christa Innis: Yeah. So she says, we chose totally different wedding routes. She’s doing a fully traditional wedding and we’re eloping in Vegas, which fits us perfectly. So far, I’ve had two wedding events, one being our engagement party at a brewery in our hometown. She came to that with her fiance and it was fine.

She had two dress appointments and one bridesmaid dress appointment, all of which I’ve driven three hours away to attend despite my crazy schedule as a dance teacher, competition judge, and convention, convention, faculty member constantly flying around. When I finally made my own dress appointment between her events, she texted that she couldn’t come because she had a veil appointment.

I asked what it meant. She said she was picking up her veil. The store was only 30 minutes from me, so I asked if she could come before or after. She said no. She also had to make a payment for her venue and said it was too much driving. This just sounds like rival sisters. Yeah, and I

Lucette Brown: feel

Christa Innis: like the fact that they’re engaged at the same time is just.

A problem in general.

Lucette Brown: This is, again, this is like the toxicity that it’s just like, okay, if you guys don’t like each other, just

Christa Innis: don’t

Lucette Brown: fall. Call it. Call it what it is. your sisters, at the end of the day, you don’t have to be best friends.

Christa Innis: Yeah. I hate to say it this way, but I don’t exactly blame the younger sister for saying no.

‘ cause she probably feels the toxicity from this other sister. And she’s like, I wanna be in my wedded bliss right now. Yeah.

Lucette Brown: I wanna be in my bubble.

Christa Innis: Yeah. Because think about it this way, if they, if they weren’t sisters, and let’s say this was a toxic friend,

Lucette Brown: you wouldn’t want, yeah. And I think that’s like, that’s the biggest thing, isn’t it?

Is that so many people are like, oh, but they’re my sister. Oh. But they’re, you know, so and so. And it’s like, yeah, but a toxic person is still a toxic person.

Christa Innis: Mm-hmm.

Lucette Brown: And if they make you feel small and they don’t make you feel good.

Christa Innis: Yeah. Yeah, and obviously we’re reading between the lines. We don’t know either, but just seems very like we’re so much better.

And then they kind of suck. They’re awkward, they’re weird.

That’s the way I’m reading.

Lucette Brown: Yeah. Yeah.

Christa Innis: maybe I’m reading it wrong. And you can

Lucette Brown: Well, it’s also how it’s been written, right? Like you can only read the words that are there.

Christa Innis: True.

Lucette Brown: So

Christa Innis: yeah, I reminded her that I’ve been driving twice that to support her, but she snapped.

I’m getting married too. At that point. I told her not to worry about it. I didn’t want her energy At my appointment. Later, my mom found out and told my sister it was messed up not to go, which made my sister mad at me again for telling my mom. Two days later, my sister texted saying her venue rescheduled her payment so she could come if I still wanted her to.

I didn’t reply and she didn’t come. That hurt even more because I didn’t, but she

Lucette Brown: didn’t reply.

Christa Innis: Yeah. I’m like, what?

Lucette Brown: It’s like they’re both playing the same game and it’s like

Christa Innis: mm-hmm.

Lucette Brown: No one’s gonna win in this scenario.

Christa Innis: No.

Lucette Brown: Like,

Christa Innis: you need like,

Lucette Brown: like you’re both

Christa Innis: a four.

Lucette Brown: I’d say they’re both at fault. Like they’re both, you know, without kind of knowing anything about it.

But yeah, I would just be like, you both. Yeah.

Christa Innis: they’re off. They need like the full, like reset because it’s that thing where it’s like they both wanna be the victim. They both wanna be upset. Like, we’ve all been there, it’s

Lucette Brown: both their wedding, they’re in their limelight and it’s like, well, nothing’s gonna get accomplished while you both think that way.

Christa Innis: Yeah, 100%. So she said that her even more because I knew the reschedule story was a lie. No venue suddenly books a wedding two weeks out at the appointment. My mom, who decided to pay for my dress after realizing how much she was spending on my sister mentioned to her on the phone that I found my dress.

My sister never texted, called or asked to see a photo, nothing. The following weekend was her bridesmaid dress appointment. I tried on two dresses that I loved and she said she loved them too. Then suddenly she changed her mind and asked me to try on what I can only describe as a fat girl dress, what, for lack of a better term, this can, that’s problematic.

Be a real story.

Lucette Brown: I’m trying to even like, what the hell is a fat girl dress?

Christa Innis: This is what she is calling it. She goes, I’m very fit and the dress look awful. So she’s making like a fat phobic comment.

Lucette Brown: Okay.

Christa Innis: I don’t typically, there’s been few that like, someone sends me a story and I’m like, Ooh, you’re not the. Okay.

Lucette Brown: Doesn’t sound like a very nice person.

Christa Innis: Yeah, I don’t like that yet. She suddenly claimed it was her favorite. It felt like she was trying to get a rise out of me. I told her, honestly, I didn’t like it and said, if you want it that badly, you can buy it, but I’m not paying for it.

She called me a bitch, but honestly I didn’t feel bad. She’s been acting cold since my engagement and I was over it.

Lucette Brown: She, oh, they both need to get out of each other’s bridal parties and just call it a day.

Christa Innis: Yeah. Just be guests at each other’s weddings. Oh my gosh. She eventually picked a different dress.

Not as nice as the first two, but acceptable. So I bought it and left without even saying goodbye. She still didn’t congratulate me or ask about my dress. Oh. And she’s not making me her maid of honor. Well, why would she? I

Lucette Brown: wanna make my ma of honor.

Christa Innis: I, yeah. In what world should you be? Her maid of honor.

Lucette Brown: Nice.

Christa Innis: I am like, like we need to look out family man myself a little bit and be like, okay, if I weren’t her sister and I was acting this way, or talking about her this way or treating her this way. would that be normal?

Lucette Brown: Like, they’re both like, I dunno, like she’s in the wrong and it sounds like her sister’s also in the wrong, like they just both need to just Yeah.

But you

Christa Innis: like hash it all out. And it’s hard because we’re saying, it’s like such an intense time in their life. Yeah. But there’s a lot to do, a lot going on. They’re both the brides, they already have this like, competition, so it’s like, until they really hash it out, it’s gonna be like that the whole time.

I feel like, yeah, it’s gonna be,

Lucette Brown: and it’ll be like, and this is coming from like, you know, from personal experience. Like, I remember I had someone in my bridal party who I was like, no, like I have to have them in my bridal party. Like they should be in my bridal party. And they were just problematic from the get go really.

And I look back and I’m like, I should have just. it would’ve been a blow up then, but I reckon the rest of it would’ve been fine. Rather than like, just constant little things to like the big blowout, essentially at the wedding. just get rid of it now.

Christa Innis: Yeah. Snippet while it’s like, while it’s happening. Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Yeah.

Christa Innis: I feel like we always wanna, like, especially as people pleasers or like, we wanna like, be like, no, I still have hope. I think things are making plus like, it’s

Lucette Brown: that I think you have this, this, you know, idea and you’re like, no, it’ll be fine. Or like, they’ll come around like, they’ll be there for me on the wedding day and it’s like, no.

No.

Christa Innis: Yeah,

Lucette Brown: just cut it now.

Christa Innis: Yeah. If

Lucette Brown: they can. It’s coming from personal, personal experience. Cut it now.

Christa Innis: Yeah. If they can’t handle watching you rise or celebrating you in certain, they’re

Lucette Brown: just gonna get worse at the wedding.

Christa Innis: Not gonna happen at the wedding. It’s just not gonna happen.

Lucette Brown: Trust me.

Christa Innis: Yeah. Oh no, I feel like you’ve got a lot of stories about that.

 

Lucette Brown: oh yeah. But no, this, this, it’s, Hmm. That’s, uh, that’s something that I,

Christa Innis: that’s after we record, after the recording’s off. so she said, okay. So her heard that she’s not the maid of honor. She’s having three bridesmaids and no maid of honor to keep it equal. that makes sense. It made she made it very clear.

I’m not picking you over my friends, but I’m also not picking my friends or, yeah. No one’s picking. I’m not picking anybody over anybody. Yeah. I don’t think you have to have your sister as your maid of honor. I, I have one sister, I, she was not my maid of honor, she was a bridesmaid. I’m much closer with my best friend.

Same for my husband. He had his brother in the wedding, but he was not his best man. And

Lucette Brown: yeah, the same with my husband.

Christa Innis: Yeah. No one took it personally and it’s fine.

Lucette Brown: move on.

Christa Innis: Yeah. No rule. for mine, I asked if she wanted the role and she said no. So I asked my best friend who I’m honestly closer with anyway, so there you go.

Lucette Brown: Yeah.

Christa Innis: She also won’t be at my Vegas wedding since she’s not 21 and doesn’t have the money to go. So not only that,

Lucette Brown: okay, well, yeah,

yeah, like why would you pick a Vegas wedding if, you know she can’t come anyway? Like,

Christa Innis: yeah. Which I guess I’ve never thought about that before.

I would think a Vegas wedding. As long as it’s not, they’re not drinking. Wouldn’t they be able to go, I guess I’ve never looked into that. Never been to a Vegas wedding.

Lucette Brown: I don’t know. ’cause the laws in Australia is, once you’re 18 you can drink and drive.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: You can do everything at 18. So

Christa Innis: I know the United States is weird about all that.

It’s like you can do like

Lucette Brown: 16, 21,

Christa Innis: 21. Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Find you, one could also argue that. Yeah, cool. Asia 18, here’s your car keys and here’s a beer. Have fun.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Like it’s also problematic.

Christa Innis: Yeah. All at once, but all

Lucette Brown: at

Christa Innis: once. I think they’re so strict. I mean, I get on a tangent about this. I feel like they’re so strict about alcohol here.

I mean, it’s different per state. Like where I’m at. I’m trying to think what it’s, if you’re with a parent, you can drink at a, like, you can order a drink at a bar if you’re with a parent under 18. It’s very weird. But there’s like that little gray area though. If you’re 18 to 21, you can’t because you’re a legal adult, but you’re not old enough to drink.

Lucette Brown: To drink. Yeah. Yeah.

Christa Innis: So it doesn’t make sense.

Lucette Brown: Yeah. So that would be weird,

Christa Innis: but there’s all this like hype around drinking, so that’s why I think kids have like more issues with it because like they can drive at 16 and then they, like thisthing is over their head of like, Ooh, you can drink when you’re 21.

So they try to like, you know, sneak it on, all that stuff. But that’s a whole,

Lucette Brown: I feel like all 16 year olds are sneaking in alcohol.

Christa Innis: True. Yeah.

Lucette Brown: No matter the country.

Christa Innis: That’s probably right. Alright, so she ends it with, am I wrong for feeling hurt and upset? I’m honestly just leaving it alone and doing the bare minimum until she figures things out.

If she ever does,

Lucette Brown: I’m upset. I think you both just need to call it quits and just move on.

Christa Innis: Yeah. I think like if you,

Lucette Brown: I think either one of you are happy with the either like I think they’re both, yeah, I think they’re both like, oh, but she kiss’s my sister. It’s like, yeah, just make ’em your guest.

Christa Innis: Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Like.

Christa Innis: It sounds like it’s so far gone. I don’t wanna say it’s far gone where they can’t fix it, but I feel like there’s a lot of like pent up anger. So if it’s like they both decide that they want to move forward, they need to hash it all out and just let everything else go.

Lucette Brown: Yeah.

Christa Innis: I don’t think either side, like you said, I don’t think either side’s innocent.

I think they both have like some toxicity. I don’t know if they grew up with like the competitive vibe, but that’s what I’m getting. just her phone though, the tone of how she talks about her sister is so degrading. Ah,

Lucette Brown: I was put off from the very get go.

 I don’t like where this is going.

Christa Innis: Right. Yeah. So it’s like, I wouldn’t say like, you’re wrong for feeling hurt. Anyone can feel hurt or

Lucette Brown: no. And your feelings are your feelings and your feelings are always valid. but I wouldn’t say that she’s in the right and the other sister’s in the wrong. I would say that they’re both probably in the wrong.

Christa Innis: Yeah. I would say your sister has every right to feel upset too, and I feel like you guys need to either figure it out or just keep distance for a bit. Yeah. and just remember she’s your little sister. I mean, she’s five years younger than you. be more supportive, it sounds like.

Yeah. Not very supportive. No. and you might listen to this back and be like, well, you don’t know the whole story. Tell us more. I’ll read it. I’ll try my best. But from this, it just sounds There’s like a lack of support maybe from both sides. And I feel like when you’re too far into it of just being competitive, then nothing can really

Lucette Brown: Yeah.

Christa Innis: You’re blind.

Lucette Brown: Oh yeah. I know. I I think if yeah, you’re that, that unhappy with someone, either hash it out because you really care about the relationship and make it work or don’t, and then see if maybe time heals it.

Christa Innis: Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Lucette Brown: Because then neither one of them are gonna be happy if they keep doing what they’re doing.

Christa Innis: Yeah. 100%. Yeah. And you don’t wanna hold onto that resentment on your wedding day, either of them. So I feel like either need to figure it out before and then just really truly be supportive of them on their wedding day. And if you feel like you can’t be supportive, then step down from your role.

Lucette Brown: Yeah.

Thanks for coming to our TED Talk.

Wedding Speech Fails and Social Media Chaos

Christa Innis: Yes, thank you. Alright, well that was a wild story. Change of events. all right. Well. I like to end with a couple of confessions that people send me and then we will be on our way. So these are about wedding speeches. So this one says, best man was tanked and roasted the groom for 15 minutes for sucking at basketball in seventh grade.

He couldn’t get to the point,

Lucette Brown: why would you put that in a speech?

Christa Innis: Yeah, that sounds like a weird like dig at the girl.

Lucette Brown: Yeah.

 

Christa Innis: oh my gosh.

Lucette Brown: It just seems like a weird thing to bring up at someone’s wedding.

Christa Innis: Yeah, I think person sometimes when people don’t know what else to say, they just think of like the most random story about the person.

 yeah.

Lucette Brown: So we have had some shocking,

Christa Innis: this last one says, maid of honor said it was weird, she wasn’t there. Marrying the best man, awkward post breakup. In her speech

Lucette Brown: again. Why would you bring this up at their wedding?

Christa Innis: Yeah. Not the time or the place to turn it around and think it about you.

Lucette Brown: everyone always does though.

Not everyone, but people do. Baffles me like the day’s not about you.

Christa Innis: No. My gosh. That’s like my nightmare. All right, well thank you so much for coming on and thank you for dealing with my mom brain of like scheduling and all that and being very flexible.

Lucette Brown: Thanks for dealing with mine with responding.

Christa Innis: No, either way, I’m, glad it worked out and I’m, we gotta chat for a bit.

 

Lucette Brown: we got there in the end.

Christa Innis: Yeah. So again, where can everybody follow you, find your content and anything exciting you’re working on?

Lucette Brown: so on TikTok is events and affairs. YouTube is events and affairs, and I’ve just created a Facebook because everyone kept saying that my content was being shared on there anyway.

 so I was like, well, I might as well share my own content.

So I’ve just created a Facebook too, which is events and affairs.

Christa Innis: Oh, good. Awesome. get that verified because there’s a lot of people out there on Facebook that like to steal and,

Lucette Brown: mm.

Christa Innis: It’s creepy. ‘ cause I’m like, that’s one thing I never expected about making content is that people would pretend to be you and Yeah.

Take your profile picture and like

Lucette Brown: Yeah.

Christa Innis: Someone messaged.

Lucette Brown: It’s weird.

Christa Innis: Yeah. And I don’t like,

Lucette Brown: and then like, I get all these like tags in like TikTok too, and like I’m blocked, but they’re pretending to be me. And like one time on TikTok, I literally like, ’cause I had all of these followers and it was all my content and they were literally pretending to be me and I kept trying to like report them.

And then I just put up like a video saying, Hey guys, like just FYI. This page isn’t me. It’s not me.

Christa Innis: Mm-hmm.

Lucette Brown: I was the one that got flagged.

Christa Innis: Are you serious?

Lucette Brown: I got a strike on my account. I’m like, but I’m me. I’m me. Like, I’m me.

No it for harassment. I’m like, all I said was that. This isn’t like, literally I was, Hey guys, this isn’t me. this is a fake account. That’s if you’re following this one, it’s the wrong one. And I got a strike.

Christa Innis: That is wild. That

Lucette Brown: it’s like

Christa Innis: I made a,

Lucette Brown: so I’ve learned my lesson. Just never do it again.

Christa Innis: Just, yeah, I, I know. It’s like you just can’t even say anything because all you can do is just say like, hi, like this is my account. Like showing it. Yeah. Because I did the same thing. I just changed like my names on Facebook and other platforms and I was like, Hey guys, by the way, this is my only Facebook page.

I share this stuff. Someone reported an old work page I had, so I worked for a mommy and baby company and with that I had like a business page ’cause I would share like videos in there.

Lucette Brown: Mm.

Christa Innis: We reported that and removed the page, so I got notification. They’re like, oh, you’re Krista, MK, b page is gone.

I was like, that doesn’t even share wedding stuff. So I was someone like, oh,

Lucette Brown: okay.

Christa Innis: So I was like, okay guys, just so you know, like. Only report if they’re like pretending to be me and sharing wedding videos. don’t just,

Lucette Brown: yeah, because that, that actually was me.

Christa Innis: That was actually my page. I mean, it was an old job, so it doesn’t really matter, but I was just like, I get it.

You were trying to be like helpful, but it’s, well,

Lucette Brown: yeah.

Christa Innis: Well, awesome.

Lucette Brown: So yes.

Christa Innis: Well thank you so much for coming on and

Lucette Brown: Oh, thanks for having me.

Christa Innis: That was a lot of fun.

Lucette Brown: Thanks.